What would you do if.......
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Are you sure that there isn't something wrong with him? Any recent stress etc. in his life that may hinder his ability to perform? It seems to me that most men will not turn down the opportunity for sex if they want it unless there is something to prevent it. It sounds like you shouldn't be questioning yourself. This is his issue.
this is why I suggest giving him the ultimatum of counseling first. Sad to throw away a marriage if it can be fixed. If he's not willing to go to counseling, then start packing and tell him things will not change (permanently) without the counseling to find the root cause.
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I really hate to give up this secret information...but men are idiots! It sounds like he has come to take you for granted. He is fantasizing about the women in the pictures and looking for something "new" to give him that spark. Men (and probably many women) are prone to this, I think. It is why the bitchy, flirtatious women seem to keep their men. I'd start by dressing sexy when going out with him, make men notice you. Flirt a little. If he complains, remind him that you have gone without lately and you just can't help it. Be a little selfish. Make sure when you make love that you get yours...in fact, deny him a little.
I am not an advocate of all this if the relationhip is mature and healthy. But many men don't appreciate what they have...and they need a reminder sometimes.
I am not an advocate of all this if the relationhip is mature and healthy. But many men don't appreciate what they have...and they need a reminder sometimes.
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He has a problem, not you. If he refuses counseling, tell him you are feeling invisible and it's killing you. I know you have kids but this is not worth living in, a situation like yours. You need love. You need WORSHIP. He is putting other sex goddesses before you and it is wrong of him.
I sincerely hope he's a good father, otherwise he approaches disposable IMO.
I sincerely hope he's a good father, otherwise he approaches disposable IMO.
yes, he must be 100% dedicated to her, but she can cheat and nothing gets said....
this is why women shouldn't give advice, you just arn't capable of being even handed or fair
You sexist jerk.
That isn't even what Helga believes, but you've already disqualified yourself by saying that all women are incapable of being fair.
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True, having known her posts for the past year, it's still possible that I really don't understand her and that I've misunderstood what she believes. However, I don't think my defense of her was unjustified or that I've misunderstood her. If I have overstepped or spoken out of turn, I offer my humble apology.
I've suppose you've never defended someone that you consider a friend?
Regardless, that doesn't make TheRob any less of a jerk.
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I suggest he try one on one counseling before you both go to a marriage counselor. Looks to me like the problem is with him. Sounds like he doesn't have control over his porn issues.
Maybe some kind of anxiety or depression. It happens.
I speak from experience.
When I'm having a tough time with "life" I tend to retreat from reality.
Counseling for him is worth a shot.
Maybe some kind of anxiety or depression. It happens.
I speak from experience.
When I'm having a tough time with "life" I tend to retreat from reality.
Counseling for him is worth a shot.
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The OP may be willing to cheat but she has not. Her babydaddy is all too willing to dedicate himself to the idea of cheating if not the act. Neither of them has done wrong on the topic of actual cheating. What the OP is bothered by is NO SEX. That is a completely different matter.
Why he is indulging in fantasy instead of reality may indeed be a matter for counseling, but again, the OP seemed less worried about why her mate was distant than the fact that it was inconveniencing her. True, I did not extend compassion to him, but that is for her to do.
My beliefs are not the issue either, but thank you petite for supporting me in general.
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I'd give the same advice if the roles were reversed. If either partner is in the position this lady is in...and the other partner responds the way she says he is responding... my advice would be the same. I'm not partial to whether it's the man or woman. (I've even been called chauvenistic before..,.so I'm not sympathetic just because its a female with the problem.)
Both parties should respect the other enough to care about their feelings.
As for your question? Right, if a man says he doesn't like something and feels neglected and hurt, the woman should stop or at least respect his feelings enough to try to find a solution.
Give me a break.........
