What would you do if...

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  1. Dorian_Gray

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    you just got diagnosed with cancer? I just got my concrete diagnosis today that I've got cancer of the small intestine. I'm not sure what my reaction is yet, and I'm a little depressed honestly. I don't think it's hit me yet. I've tried just to not think about it. So, what would you guys do?
     
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    oh, XGX, i'm terribly sorry to hear that.

    i guess the first thing in my head would be about treatment. plus, have you told anybody close to you yet?

    just try to defeat this and stay strong, buddy.

    *hug*
     
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    Hang in there. Cancer can be overcome.

    NCbear (who'll continue to think of you -- and whose favorite brother once almost died [in high school] from intestinal bleeding caused by cancerous polyps)
     
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    Well, I've had cancer in the past and all I have to say is, I'm sorry to hear it. I'll keep you in my prayers. Stay positive! You're in the early stages of all the stages a person goes through when dealing with such a thing. So, stay positive, and try to focus on the plan of attack (treatment, surgery, etc). You'll have big decisions to make and you'll have all the weighing out that goes with it. Peace be with you!
     
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    Dang, that sucks. What stage is it?
    My reaction would depend on that and the location.
     
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    Being diagnosed as having cancer is not much fun. But what stage is it? One, Two, or Three. If it's State One, (which I hope it is) you've got a great chance of recovery.

    Insist upon getting a "staging" diagnosis, if you haven't already. The read up as much as possible on the treatments available for the type of stomach cancer you have. I assume you were diagnosed by biopsy?

    Best of luck with your adventure.
     
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    XGX,

    I am so sorry to hear about your recent news. It seems best to try to keep a positive attitude and take care of yourself in the best ways you can. I dont know if you go to church or practice meditation but I have heard that they are some of the best ways to help you get through a traumatic experience like this.
     
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    Well hell! Of course you are depressed you just found out you have cancer! :mad: I'd be worried if you weren't depressed. Cancer sucks, no if's ands or buts about it. You can survive this and come out on the other side a better stronger person..

    Fortunately, I am a cancer survivor so I know what it's like to hear your name in the same sentence with carcinoma. I felt like Alice falling down the rabbit hole. Or like someone had just pulled the rug out from underneath me. I literally went from wondering what to do for my 40th birthday to wondering if I would live to see my 40th birthday with one brief phone call.

    I know you're scared; but if you haven't done so already:
    • Get a 2nd opinion.
    • Find out exactly what all your treatment options are.
    • Go on the net and find a support group for people with the same diagnosis.
    • Know that this is not your fault, it's not punishment for leading a wild life.
    • This is not a death sentence.

    http://www.lpsg.org/720788-post1.html
    My blog about all the gory details.


    Feel free to PM me if you have any questions or just want to vent/chat.
     
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    XGX, I'm really fucking sorry to hear that but am seriously hoping (indeed praying, if that means anything to you) that this is at an early stage and that you will come out the other side.

    Seconded!

    Yes, mine too. Somewhat.

    What I would do - unless expressly contrary to medical advice (and I don't see why it should be) - would be to get outrageously drunk and high. I would howl at the moon, pick a bar fight and vomit on any law enforcement agents who chose to interrupt my flow.

    I would engage in a short, yet dedicated, bout of destructive behaviour and then I would put all my energy into working with the medical teams assigned to me to get the best, most effective treatment possible.

    I would also consider a project of some sorts - Do you write? Paint? Do carpentry? Start a project that will last at least as long as your treatment to give you something to throw yourself at when you don't want to, or can't, think about your illness.

    Best of luck, X.
     
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    I'm very sorry XGX. I second NJ's list. Support is most important because it will help you keep a straight head in the time to come.

    Always take charge of your treatment. You will become an expert and you will decide what is best based on all your options and the expert opinions of doctors and other survivors. Get thee to a forum for this. There is nothing more supportive than people who have been through it before you. They can make the road ahead far, far, less frightening because at every stop they'll be waiting to help you.

    I'm saying a prayer for you.
     
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    Hey Dude

    Hang in there, i was diagnosed with stage 2 thyroid cancer last year so I know exactly what you're going through.
    With me, the shock of the news took an age to sink in as i was given the news on my 40th birthday so that was a gift id never forget!
    It takes time to get over but with positive thinking and a deep down persistence to purge this unwanted invader, you'll conquer it!
    If i can help you more with things, send me your email and we can chat ok.

    Keep smiling but most of all keep strong.:wink:
     
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    XGX. Fuck that sucks. I have a feeling for what you must be going through right now.

    What would I do if..?

    I was diagnosed with an intestinal tumor six years ago. It hit me like a ton of bricks. Nothing prepares you for news like that. My doctors saw a huge lump on the MRI results and said they wanted to go in and cut it out the next morning. Which they did. It turned out to be an abscessed appendix which had grown to the size of my fist, and was non-malignant.

    While I was very lucky that it was not cancer, the diagnoses and the 12 hours before the operation and the 2 day wait for the biopsy results, were the most nerve wracking of my life. It was an emotional train wreck for me and my family. I was really in a state of shock at first. My wife and I went for a drive after the surgeon told us the plan. We mostly just cried. I phoned a couple of doctor friends and they told me not to screw around, do what the hospital said. Which was that with intestinal cancer, they want to cut it out a soon as possible and then do chemo or radiation after.

    I had what I can only call a powerful spiritual experience that night in the hospital. I won't explain it here, but using the teachings I received from a Buddhist guru, I had the most profound meditation I have ever had.

    My heart goes out to you and you are in my thoughts.
     
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    OMG that is horrible :hug: you poor thing :heart:
    If it was me i would be devastated. I don't know how i would react or what i would do.


    My best wishes, my hopes, my prays, my everything is with you
     
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    XGX, hang in there. Of course it's depressing news. But do develop a positive attitude.

    Last year I had a malignant tumour on my brain successfully removed. In fact the operation was performed on Halloween. I had lots of radiation and chemo therapy but I've recovered.

    All strength and courage to you.
     
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    XGX,
    I'd start watching the healing revival going on in Lakeland, FL.
    You can see it via live streaming video starting about 8PM Eastern time from this site.
    Fresh Fire Ministries
    There have been healing right through the TV, you might even consider going there
    and getting in the strong healing anointing that is there.
    Jesus has been healing a lot of things doctors have no answer for.
    At least take a look, then you can decide if you want to pursue it further.
     
  16. Industrialsize

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    I can't be sure how I would react in that situation, but I think I'd probably be in denial at first, and then I'd probably pray, research the disease & treatment options, and then fight with everything I have in me...


    Think positive thoughts & imagine your body healing itself...

    you can get through this...
     
  18. Deno

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    Sorry to here that XGX. My mum passed after several forms of cancer. I always hated the fact that she gave up. Don't ever feel you need to give up. So many times I've heard of a terminal diagnosis when a second opinion offered treatment and the person lived a long life afterward. Never rely on a single opinion.

    If you don't mind I'd like to know a bit more of your symptoms and how they diagnosed it. I have been having discomfort in my abdomen and all the doc has ever done was had me suffer thru a colonoscopy which really only examine the large intestines. Then they found like 8 polyps and removed them none of which were cancerous. I am past due for my next procedure but I am ouf of insurance now and can't afford it.
     
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    :frown1: XGX! Come here and give me a hug :hug:

    You can beat this, okay.... and as industrialsize said, you should do some researching...

    Good luck with it all :kiss:
     
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    XGX,

    good luck man!! lucky enough for me they found the pre-cancerous cells before they turned into the full blown crap. but for me yeah it was scary and i know i dont have cancer but hang in there like njqu said ya know u gotta find ppl who have been and are in the same boat ya'll can vent together. Best of luck to you man!! Oh and id go ski diving
     
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