What would you think about...

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  1. KTF40

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    A guy who is 22 and has had four sexual partners? Would you think that is too much? Too little? Average? Ideal? Not ideal? Don't care?

    Kind of a selfish question, but this has been bothering the fuck out of me lately and I'm curious what the women on the board think.

    And while I realize guys can answer this too, I don't care too much for their perspective hence why I posted in this section. Feel free to contribute if you want though.
     
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    Ok well...

    I know a girl who's 19 and she's had at least 30 sexual partners already-that's what I would class as "too much".
    And I know lots of girls younger then you who've had more than 5, and at the same time I know lots of guys who've had more than 5. (These are all in the 17-20 age group btw)

    So I would say that 4 at the age of 22 is definetely not too much. And I know that I'm a guy and you say you don't want to hear a guys opinion, but I hope this has made you feel better. But seriously if you've only had 4 I really wouldn't let it bother me, it's hardly anything in comparison to other people who've really gotten out there sexually and pushed the boat out.
     
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    dude i am in college and most of my friends that are 22 have had more than 4 partners.
    also, can i get contact info for that girl thats had over 30? jk
     
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    Lol if you saw her you'd probably turn around and run a mile the other way, she's got a bright orange face and she's bleached her hair so much that its gone grey. (In other words, she looks like a porn star well past her sell by date-at the ripe old age of 19!)
     
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    You're fine. I'd say it's ideal, and average.

    I have some girl friends that by the time they were your age, they were off in their 20's. Actually...that was when they were younger, even. So around twenty years old they were already there...

    For me, personally, that was way overboard.

    It just depends on who you are sexually, though.

    The amount of people my partner has slept with would only concern me if they weren't getting regularly checked, and if the number was way high...I might ask them to come get tested with me before we decided to be physical with one another.

    This is why it's so dangerous to lie about how many partners you've had, and to lie about getting tested. My girl friends would always lower the number when they told their boyfriends, and they also weren't getting checked. I was still a virgin at the time, and I was begging them to go get blood work because it was irresponsible, dangerous, and flat out gross.

    I finally convinced them that they should both go together (we were all best friends at the time), and eventually they did. Luckily for them they were fine, and now they both go regularly.
     
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    I don't think it matters, really. Four seems perfectly normal for a guy that age. As long as you get tested at least once, preferable twice yearly from the time you became sexually active and used condoms - it's much more important if a guy healthy than the amount of girls he's fucked.
     
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    I would wonder why it was so few. If you'd been in a couple of long term relationships then I guess it's ok.
     
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    Seems perfectly normal to me. I'm not terribly concerned unless someone is with a lot of partners unprotected. (Now, I'm guilty of not getting tested and all, but that's only because I can't afford it... that stuff costs money, you know. Which is why it's even more important to me that the guy will use condoms. I don't have to worry about pregnancy anymore but I still have to worry about STDs.)

    In my case, at age 22 I had only been with one guy, for one night (at age 21). I didn't have sex again until I was almost 26. Then when I broke up with him (at age 26), I didn't have sex again until I was 30. But I'm an unusual case. I'm very shy and was very unpopular in school and where I grew up.

    I'd only be terribly concerned if someone had one of two behaviors, which are very opposite of each other. One is as I mentioned, a lot of partners and unprotected sex. The other is if he was a "No premarital sex" guy and preachy about it. (I've known quite a few of those, and unfortunately dated a couple...)
     
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    I would say it's a normal number, and unless a guy had been with a ton of women, I probably wouldn't care.

     
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    it's normal. don't keep yourself up all night thinking about it.
     
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    I don't believe there is any set number for partners at any age. Don't worry about it, find someone you enjoy being with and let the moment flow. If you have past regrets over past partners try to let it go because that can make it hard for any current relationship. The thing to remember is have fun with the one you are with.
     
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    Mate, I've not even had a girlfriend yet and it doesn't bother me that much. I'm the same age as you. Just know that good things come to those who wait.
     
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    Personally I've never cared - and I have had quite a few :mischievous: partners in my life.

    One of the best ever had only been with one other girl, quality, not quantity is what really matters in making a good lover.
     
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    Does it matter how many sex partners a man or woman has by age X?

    I'd rather know how well they get along with their partners.
     
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    IMO It's fine, there is no definitive answer to the question.
    It's not a selfish question, it's an insecure question. You feel insecure about the number of women with whom you have had sex. You want the women of LPSG to reassure you. The thing is every woman is different and has different expectations.

    IMO it is more important that a man be a sensitive, caring, experimental lover. If that happens after 4 women, or after 40 women is none of my business. I really don't want to know. :cool:
     
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    Thanks for the responses. But just to clarify, I don't feel bad that I haven't slept with more women. I actually regret having sex with two of the women I've been with so in a sense I wish the number was lower.

    I was actually hoping you would all be unanimous in saying it's a low number. It seems my count is currenty average/low, which wasn't exactly what I was looking for haha. But that's cool...
     
  17. EllieP

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    I'm not nearly as experienced as my husband, but then again, he was a musician who spent 320 days on the road in his youth.

    I haven't asked him yet, but I would daresay he had at least four partners before the age of 19. And that was before he joined the band.

    Didn't make him a bad man, but you better believe he was tested more than once before I would touch him! LOL!
     
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