Whats a friend to do??

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_Ed69s girl, Feb 21, 2009.

  1. D_Ed69s girl

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    Okay, I know i don't stop by much but this is the only place I know that could give me a well rounded opinion. I have a Friend who has a guy problem. She cares a lot for this one guy but he has three gals going all at once. An yeah she found out that he is using each of these gals and her for his own benefit. He crashes at each of their houses and eats there food, uses their internet connections to check out sites to find other gals. In truth he is a true blue user, She tells me they are only friends with benefits. But she is so stuck on him that she well date for a little bit and then go back to catering to his every whim. If he gets the slightest bit upset about what she is doing, She quickly does whatever ot takes to make him happy. And if she is seeing other people, he complains or finds fault in all of them so she will dump them and cater to him. It is such a stupid circle of crap I can't tell you how much I hate this guy. So my question to you all is How do I get rid of this punk so my friend can move on? Yeah I am tired of the my friend being torn apart and I can't seem to get her to see what he is doing. Any advice would be appreciated.
     
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    Sadly the only way you can do anything... is by doing nothing! You say that she KNOWS... What do you want??? You are looking for a miracle that isn't going to happen. She is into this guy for whatever reason?

    So here's the tough part... You do nothing! In the end it is her life, not yours. These are her mistakes to make. If as a friend you have spoken to her about him and she still refuses to see the truth, it is her burden to bear.

    She KNOWS all about him. But something about him keeps her drawn to him. Until she is ready to open her eyes to the truth there is little to be done. Here's where your choices come into play. Do you say enough is enough and distance yourself from her for a time. Hope she one day wises up? Or do you sit there knowing what you know and keep your mouth shut? This is for you to decide.

    BUT, if you think there is a super magic way to make her just suddenly wake up to what a slim ball he is... it is you who are in for a rude awakening. Not trying to be harsh or hard on you. Just trying to make you understand that in the end... You have to let her live her life, and you live yours.
     
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    Dear I do think it's time to call it.She has made her choice!
     
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    You can not control others, no matter how much you love them and want to protect them. A friend puts her opinion out there, and then is as supportive as possible, and also remembers not to say, "I told you so!"
     
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    "I told you so!"Is what I have to say about it!But I'm a man interfeering between two females.So now I'll duck and run!
     
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    Yeah I know I should just walk away or make her take a stand but I want to know if maybe I shouldn't check out his other three gals and see if they know what the hell he is doing. Cause maybe if I get all of them together to dumb his butt he might get a healthy dose of reality.

    Then maybe he well decide that sticking with the one who has ignored all his bad behavior and being good man to her is the way to go.
     
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    Or it could turn into a gangbang and wouldn't you feel bad if we got left out?:eek:
     
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    HEY THEY ALL 3 KNOW THE SCORE BITCH!!!! YOU STAY OUT OF MY BUSSINESS!!!! I LOVE ALL 3 OF EM IN MY OWN WAY!

    LOL J/K

    the depths of some women's OCEAN of compassion and also insecurity baffels me..... no one on earth hasn't know at least ONE hot, sweet, loving NICE chic who had her life together in EVERY way EXCEPT! her asshole/sorry as hell/shady ass boyfrined.......... i am the ONLY boy in my family generation out of 24 kids, and i swear one out of ever 4 of em is dating or married to the most worthless ask of shit god ever cursed the south with.......

    I:E theres nothing you can do babe..... if ya can't fix somthing you gotta deal with it
     
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