what's got you down?

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  1. prince_will

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    misery loves company. lol...

    but seriously, i'm depressed when i think about the two people that i'm in love with leaving me.

    one is the girl who've i've had a crush on since high school. we were never that close in high school, she had a boyfriend and left the school before our 10th year. now, we've recently became great friends, and the feelings before have come right back to the surface....but then she got accepted to an ivy league college, and had to go, leaving me behind. she came back this summer for a short stay right before she has to go back away, and i won't see her again until Christmas. i want to tell her how i feel, but the long-distance thing between us probably wouldn't work, and i know she wouldn't be happy. plus, if i tell her how i feel and she doesn't feel the same way, the friendship i cherish will be shattered.

    and the other one is the boy next door who's been my closest male friend. we've always been close, and we still talk when we can even though our lives are going in two totally different directions. he's leaving me to go off to another college and i won't see him again until Christmas. even though we talk through e-mails like almost everyday, i'm still going to miss knowing that he's next door and that he's still around. i developed feelings for him too, but would NEVER say anything about it. i know he's straight. but i would even like to tell him how much he means to me as a friend, but the whole male awkwardness gets in the way. :p

    just feels crappy to have two people that i love leave me, and not being able to share how i truly feel about them.

    wow. just by writing this, i feel a little better.

    but enough about me, what's got you down?
     
  2. ManlyBanisters

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    Rainy days and Mondays :smile:

    I'm sorry you're going through this, will. It's tough when life starts taking people away from you. You're not losing them though, you're just moving to a different level of friendship. The friendships will endure.

    You might also look at this as a chance for new wonderful people to come into your life - perhaps a man or woman will come along who can be as close a friend and maybe more.

    But you didn't ask that - you ask what's got me down. Well, mainly lack of sleep and PMT, actually. Although I'm feeling a lot better having slept for nearly 6 hours last night. There are some things in my life that need sorting and could make me blue if I let them, but I don't - because the good things in life outweigh them. (Yeah, I'm one of those annoying optimists... sorry :redface:)
     
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    Optimism is always a great quality, love. :) but i can't handle that in the morning. If i'm up in the morning, i'm already pissed. i'm just not a morning person at all. whenever perky optimistic people come around me during this time, i have to keep myself from slamming them into a wall.

    and thanks for the words of wisdom. hope everything gets better with you. (you know i actually had to look up PMT? :p)
     
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    Life has its ups and down. Remember the bad times. It will make the good times even better.
     
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    Depression and loneliness. No surprises there.
     
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    it's tough having feelings for someone without letting them know...I've been there...wish I could tell you to just go for it, but friendship is something to be very careful with...

    what's got me down today is realizing the mistakes I've made in life & having to deal with the fallout...I have REALLY screwed up some important things...I'm trying to get back on track, but it's not easy...

    another thing that has me down is that I don't have that special person in my life...there are plenty who would like to be, but no one I really want to be close to like that...sometimes I wonder if I will ever let anyone in...
     
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    I'm depressed, but I have medication for it, wooohooo.

    I'm a little depressed I guess about I girl I am so in love with. I'm just wondering if she feels the same or not. I picked the day she left the country to tell her in a message, and since she doesn't have her laptop, I'm just waiting for her to find a cumputer to hop on and see my message. I'm hoping she hasn't seen it yet, and not that she did actually see it and she's too freaked out to message me back.:frown1:
     
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    Ive had my 2 closest friends leave the country recently so I totally relate. What MB said is absolutely true; you move on to a different level of friendship. With all the methods of communication we have today you need never feel far away from them. Just make an effort to stay in touch with them. Good friends are truly hard to find. Good luck.
     
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    Prince will know how you feel.. my closest friend is 3 hours away. When life gets lonely just give them a call so you at least remember the sound of their voice
     
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    I thought I had lost my best friends twenty years ago. They came to me.

    I wish I could convey the twists and turns that time takes us, but it is for you to discover. Whether they stay with you or not is your choice no matter what it may seem otherwise.
     
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    For me....Everyone one has been so pissy and mean the last few days. I think I just lost an online friend because he was hell bent on degrading himself and anything and everything around him, and I was trying to help him pick his spirits up, and he attacks me. sigh....sometimes trying to keep a positive attitude about things, and trying to spread compassion, love and goodness, is so damned hard. Best of luck to ya Prince. Mr. Hardcock, I hope that is there is something there b/t you and this girl, that it all works out for the best for ya, and XCUZE, I know what its like to have people that you love and care for move away from you. It sucks, but give yourself some time, and your heart will heal. Love to you all
     
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    Thanks, Bear.:smile:

    I had been going through a rough patch recently where I would take out my frustrations on online friends, mainly because of my feelings for this girl. I'm over it now and luckily everyone understood and has stood behind me since I explained everything. And even though I haven't heard back from this girl, my spirits are surprisingly high. I think because I'm thinking about being with her and the good times that possibly lie ahead. Plus the medication helps.:rolleyes:
     
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    I went through college, spent a few years in the real world and decided I don't like what I went to school for. Somewhere along the way, my interests shifted. I don't simply dislike it. I loathe it. I never gave the subject much thought. It was easy for me so voila! more time for drinking because I don't need to study. And so, I look upon the past 7 years of my life with disdain. I wasted them. Instead of making the correct decision, I went with the path of least resistance. It bit me in the ass. I'm 25 and returning to school in the fall for what I should've pursued before, graphic design, but I can't help feeling as though it's going to blow up in my face. Can't find a job because Michigan is the shittiest state of them all. Burning through my savings. Rapidly. Single. Perpetually. My friends are accomplishing things, getting promotions, etc. while I've got 0 wins and mounting losses. Bastards. But I'm happy for them.

    Ummm, the only girl I've loved currently resides in sunny CA with her b/f of several years. They'll get married, most likely, and I'll get to hear about it secondhand. I'm horrifically empathetic so all the fun death in the world gets to me on a daily basis. And the stories of hate crimes. Animal abuse. Inequality. Corporate greed. Basically, everything it means to live in America.

    All in all, I feel trapped. Caged, really. I can't just up and leave Michigan (or this country) because I lack the money. I'm not stupid enough to move to a new state without having a job lined-up in advance (again). Can't find work beyond what the highschoolers are doing here. Going to be atleast 2 years of school before I have that crap nailed. Impossible to get a g/f if I don't have a job. Take a wild guess where I'm living interim. My car is one pothole away from exploding. Annnnnd the Middle Eastern food I had for dinner is killing me from the inside.
     
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    Brother just went to prison.

    It's strange how much I love this country even though I hate so many of our laws.
     
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