IMO, The only thing more difficult than being a Black male in America is being an Iraqi or other 'middle eastern looking' male.
You got that one right. Mind you, I don't get stopped and frisked by the regular police as much as the average black man does (only happened a handful of times at the request of others who are suspicious of me); I do however have constant stops from the Feds. For those who are not aware, the Feds can, will, and do stop persons
'of interest' on a regular basis and drag us in for questioning. All a Federal agent has to do is show their badge, instruct me to come with them and that's it. What? I'm going to fight them and be shot dead? No thanks. Am I thrilled by the stops? Do be serious! However, I look at it as something which is being done for the safety of all and therefore don't get bent out of shape. Am I happy with the fact that the Feds can hold me for any length of time and that it can be days or longer before I can obtain legal representation? No. (Once held for 9 days, finally assigned counsel and let out an hour later). On the bright side, I now know a few Federal Agents by name.
The local police only once broke down my door to get to me-I was stupidly listening to music with my headphones and didn't hear them approaching. The Feds stripped my apartment completely in a fruitless search-TWICE! Included was taking up floorboards, kitchen floor tiles, and removing the windows. Again, I don't like it; but, given the current climate of suspicion, I understand it.
(Stops by the Feds. have happened in the Post Office, in a bank, on the street, in a park while eating a sandwich, and at a grocery checkout. Oddly, the airports have been less problematic.)
As to the OP and who has it the worst, this probably at least in part depends where persons are and how they comport themselves. In day to day life I would say a black male homosexual probably has it a heck of a lot worse than I do. Most of the black women who I know, even those who have a difficult time in life are very strong in their approach to life and are not the sort to take any nonsense and I have rarely found them complaining about their situations. Other 'minorities' (what the fuck is a minority these days anyway? Doesn't that vary from one place to another?) may have it worse at times-how does a Korean feel when going through Harlem? How does a Martian feel when going through Chelsea? How does a straight woman feel in a gay mens bar?
Oh-one more thing-the Feds gave me a gift of lice one time. How can I be against such generosity
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