Whats he hitting up there?

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  1. Nectarseeker69

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    I'm a bi male and this guy I'm seeing is 8-9 inches in length and at least 6" in circumference. When he fucks me in the ass and goes balls deep, especially when I'm on my back with my knees to my chest, he is hitting something up there and it hurts. I have this dildo with a 1.5 inch head on it that I can insert a lot deeper than he will ever go and it doesn't hurt. He tells me that I just need to relax more which I know is not the answer.
    I've seen videos, of other M/F taking really long cocks up their ass and they are enjoying it. I've also seen videos of males getting fucked and they are obviously in pain when the guy with a big cock goes deep.
     
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    could be your colon
     
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    It might be the second sphincter. I've found dilating using a really long thin dildo helps open it up before sex and that keeps me from getting sore up there or even tearing. By dilating I literally mean just inserting a long thin dildo for about a minute or so until it relaxes before having sex. It's such a simple solution and it works for me. I hope it works for you!
     
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    Consider yourself lucky... lol

    As a bottom, i know what you mean. I have felt that same pain before. and it just kind of go with the flow. Relaxing more does help and i would definitely consider doing what Miss Petite said. i know i'll be trying that next time.
     
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    Yup, second sphincter. Slow and steady to push through it. My guy is about the same size as your's. Once he's in it's all good!
     
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    It helps if the top takes his time and doesn't try to bludgeon you with his cock. Nice and slow until everything is relaxed and comfortable. You tell him when he can pound you into the mattress.
     
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    Great advice.
     
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    I've had the same experience. I dated this one guy and every time there was pain when he got to a certain point. I have no idea why but one time the pain just didn't happen and ever since the sex was great.
     
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    Toncells...?
     
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    Thanks everyone. It does seem that from time to time he can go really deep without any pain but I'm not sure if he is going all the way into me. Obviously, I don't have my hand down there all the time to guage if he is in all the way. I'm going to try Petites suggestion (Thank You Petite) and I hope it works. It's not so much the pain that is the issue, as the pain goes away the moment he stops fucking me, (and I'm not sore afterward), it's the fear that he could do some damage if he fucks me harder, faster, deeper.
    While I'm my back, as mentioned before, I'm pushing him away and telling him that he is hurting me. So he backs off a little. Another time, I'm on top, ridding him, going all the way, deep as can be (I guess) and it is ecstatic*. Sounds like what Indybottombiguy is talking about.
    *Some of you may wonder why I'd like to continue having sex with a person that I have such issues with. It is because of the Intense Orgasms that I have while he is fucking me.
    He is not my love, he is a guy that I may see once a week or two. For sex only, and small chat. But the orgasms that I reach while he is fucking me in the ass while I'm masturbating starts out with me moaning then groaning…yelping….. then screeming from the intense pleasure.
     
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    There is not a second sphincter in humans, at least as far as the anatomy books show. However, the rectum is more flexible and can expand while the large colon cannot. What you are probably experiencing is when the head of his cock goes from the rectum into the large colon, and now you are expanding the lower part of the large colon. My recommendation would be to go slow and easy at this point until your large colon can stretch to accommodate his large cock.
     
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    Please remember that a lot of those people are paid to act that way. I'm sure some of them are really feeling it, but I think comparing oneself to porn isn't the most helpful.
     
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    It's the other back door, the one you hit at the end of a long dark passage.
     
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    Could be your colon. You've got to completely clean yourself out before sitting on a big one. Lay on your back in your tub with a hose of warm water for at least 3/4 of an hour. It takes that long to get really clean.
     
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    For your education:

    Know your arse for better sex

    Some people refer to the internal sphincter at the end of the anal canal as the second sphincter, some people refer to the sphincter at the end of the sigmoid colon as the second sphincter. One is about 2-3" inside, the other is deeper inside.
     
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    G'Head Miss Petite....TEACH ON!!!! :)
     
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    Gay Sex Guide - Being a Bottom

    The first edition of this site was made by Patrick Drahos, if memory serves.

    TLDR: relax. Let him rim the daylights out of you first, it might help.
     
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