What's more emotional: A Kiss or Sex?

[_Jonesy]

I've been thinking; personally, sex for me is very detached from an emotional relationship. I've actually found the more I like/love somebody, the less I feel about sex not because I don't want to (and it would happen either way), but because I care about deeper parts of her, no pun intended.

What I do find though, is that kissing is a much more emotional and romantic experience. I can entertain the idea of fucking anybody, but a kiss feels much more meaningful... not entirely sure why.

Anybody else in a similar-ish mindset, or is it even the opposite way round?

Food for Thought

 

[Coolhunter]

Fucking can be an act to get some relief, whil showing love is an emotion that is expressed in so many ways

 

[ManofThunder]

I think it depends personally. A kiss can mean nothing or mean everything. It's the same with sex. If you are in love with somebody, even holding hands makes your heart dance on cloud nine. If you don't care about the person then nothing really has an effect on the emotions. It is the classic difference between love and lust. In my mind - both are very meaningful if I am with that special someone.

 

[Kassokilleri2ff]

I think that while you can do both, and both can mean nothing or mean a lot, I find that I'll kiss a fuck buddy much less than somebody I love.

 

[_Jonesy]

I think that while you can do both, and both can mean nothing or mean a lot, I find that I'll kiss a fuck buddy much less than somebody I love.

Exactly the same. It seems to be different for most people though, I'd love to meet somebody who not only could make my heart race when I hold their hands, but I could also trust with my emotions. Seems like a dying combination where I live.

 

[D_Jared Padalicki]

Though choice. Because if I let anyone kiss me, or if I kiss anyone is it because I love that person or that I can show my affection/appreciation in a personal way.
To answer the question: a kiss of for me always more personal, and it hasn't always to be a kiss with love, but can be a kiss with appreciation/affection for a person in the most personal way.

 

[HungThickProf]

I think it depends personally. A kiss can mean nothing or mean everything. It's the same with sex. If you are in love with somebody, even holding hands makes your heart dance on cloud nine. If you don't care about the person then nothing really has an effect on the emotions. It is the classic difference between love and lust. In my mind - both are very meaningful if I am with that special someone.

I couldn't agree more. But now that I think about it, have you noticed that the moment you kiss someone, either it be a friend or lover or hookup, that there's this instance where there's this connection or bond? It's like you've reached this plain where an I understanding is made. It's not a big deal at all, but it's something that's noticed.

Or maybe it's just me.

 

[ManofThunder]

I couldn't agree more. But now that I think about it, have you noticed that the moment you kiss someone, either it be a friend or lover or hookup, that there's this instance where there's this connection or bond? It's like you've reached this plain where an I understanding is made. It's not a big deal at all, but it's something that's noticed.

Or maybe it's just me.

I know what you mean. Difficult to explain.

 

[Incocknito]

Neither are that emotional for me since I'm not very attached to anyone.

But I do notice a similar look in a woman's eyes after I've kissed her and I've had sex with her. A glazed over look, I catch them staring at me sometime, taking a lingering glance.

But the effect seems to be more powerful after sex. Plus people always look a lot more attractive after you've fucked them. I find, anyway.

Not saying I fuck mingers but you'll know what I mean. People get a sexy you "you've just been fucked" look.

I find it really hot too when a woman's tits pop out of her dressing gown. But that's another thread :tongue:

 

[Incocknito]

I couldn't agree more. But now that I think about it, have you noticed that the moment you kiss someone, either it be a friend or lover or hookup, that there's this instance where there's this connection or bond? It's like you've reached this plain where an I understanding is made. It's not a big deal at all, but it's something that's noticed.

Or maybe it's just me.

That's the "you've just been kissed" look

 

[AM_092]

When I like someone, having sex with them feels a bit wrong! Kissing is more intimate.

 

[B_subgirrl]

I find kissing WAAAY more intimate than sex. If I'm fucking someone I don't have some kind of emotional connection with, I avoid kissing them too much.

That's the "you've just been kissed" look

Nope. They're two different looks.

When I like someone, having sex with them feels a bit wrong! Kissing is more intimate.

This I find a little scary. Sounds like you're doing a Madonna/whore thing with them.

 

[_Jonesy]

subgirll I do that too! Even if I really want to kiss them, I find it always much more meaningful should I not do it all the time. It's like telling someone you love them or think they're beautiful too often; it loses it's spark and when that's gone the words don't mean anything anymore. Sooner or later, that can turn to boredom.

But yeh, waiting for the right moments can make it quite special, whereas, sex seems to be a different act altogether. Although kissing feels good, I think one is dependant psychologically as well as emotionally, whereas sex is very much a physical satisfaction and perhaps visual, especially for males.

 

[B_subgirrl]

subgirll I do that too! Even if I really want to kiss them, I find it always much more meaningful should I not do it all the time. It's like telling someone you love them or think they're beautiful too often; it loses it's spark and when that's gone the words don't mean anything anymore. Sooner or later, that can turn to boredom.

For me it's not even a thought out thing. I just get the heebies if I deep kiss strangers. So I sort of . . . avoid it (where possible).

I don't need to be in love with someone to feel comfortable kissing them, but I do need to feel somewhat close to them and trust them.

On the positive side, a deep and intimate kiss from someone I DO feel close to can lead to orgasm and an inability to stand up without support :biggrin1:.

 

[deleted639306]

Exactly the same. It seems to be different for most people though, I'd love to meet somebody who not only could make my heart race when I hold their hands, but I could also trust with my emotions. Seems like a dying combination where I live.

Hmmm.... we should date

but getting to my opinion, I think both can be equally intimate when there are feelings involved.. if you really like someone, you'd kiss with emotions and it kinda gives you this flutter, makes you dream about the kiss. but there can also be meaningless kiss where you just kiss with your mouth, with your tongue without really getting into it.. and sex can be emotional when you "make love" as they say. Its when you're really comfortable with the one you're with, looking into each others eyes, holding hands as you're having sex. and there can be casual, meaningless sex too. ok, I suck. I have no idea how to explain. this sounded a lot better in my head.lol

 

[_Jonesy]

This I'm noticing, is a deep thought that most people do play with in their heads, but find very difficult to express in words. Thing is you can sort of rearrange peoples posts in your head where it seems to be much easier to understand.

Even when the kiss is with someone I've just met, say on a night out, I will still get a much better feeling than if I was to have sex with someone. Moreover, when you finish a kiss, you feel warm, loved, alive. After sex, to me unless it is someone I deeply feel for I get a feeling of emptiness.

Like I said I think one is much more in the passion of the moment when hormones have spiked whereas the other is that much desired feeling of loving and being loved, the knowledge you are not lonely and people do feel for you.

On the other hand, it could just be the alcohol for me anyway haha.

@ Ms Temptress, bring it on
@subgirrl... I meant tell them not think, but I couldn't edit it when I noticed it. My mind tends to make strange typos that end up being the wrong phrase entirely. P.S. I love your profile pic, is that you?

 

[B_thickjohnny]

Kissing, for me has deeper meaning than just having sex. I could go have sex anytime and not kiss the guy fucking me. When I'm kissing - deep kissing - there's more connection.

My ex, after maybe the first year or so, was not into kissing anymore. That should have been my first clue to his cheating. I told him how I felt about not kissing but it didn't make a difference. A year later I found out that he WAS cheating.

Kissing does mean something more, IMHO!!

 

[_Jonesy]

My ex, after maybe the first year or so, was not into kissing anymore. That should have been my first clue to his cheating. I told him how I felt about not kissing but it didn't make a difference. A year later I found out that he WAS cheating.

Kissing does mean something more, IMHO!!

That's actually quite an interesting school of thought I might think about a bit more often. We've so far established sex can be mutually beneficial but a kiss usually does mean more to people, and the idea of kissing someone we don't care about anymore is a challenge.

It is probably a good way to gauge how they feel, although shouldn't be obsessed over as I Know over-analysing things can cause issues. Question is, what to do with the information it gives?

If you love them, you won't want to believe it yet alone make the right choice.

 

[BBB2.5]

When I was single...long time ago. I would not kiss anyone. For me, that is the ultimate form of physical connection with someone. They can fuck all they want, but no kissing.

 

[B_thickjohnny]

You're right. I didn't want to believe what I was "feeling", if that makes sense. I felt something was missing because things like kissing were missing. He started disliking being touched, etc. It all surfaced though and it ended. So going back to kissing, yes, for me it's about a deeper connection.