What's more emotional: A Kiss or Sex?

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Im not that surprised.
Kissing is more likely to incite emotion, as far as intimacy and excitement. You can actually have sex with someone, drunken sex esp. and feel no emotion at ALL. Kissing is usually more likely to make you feel some kind of arousal. Hormones get exchanged and oxytocin is released. People probably notice more of the feel good hormones while kissing, which makes it seem more emotional.
 

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Haha stop saying my life is sad :p

Apologies :redface:. Besides, I don't think your whole life is sad. Just the sex :tongue:


Yeh I haven't had a huge amount of sexual encounters for the aforementioned reasons; see who I meet. Just need to find a girl who knows what she's doing which is probably why I'm so attracted to women in their 30's :p

Any takers? haha

If you were local I'd certainly try to give you a non-boring experienced you'd never forget :biggrin1::wink:
 

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I guess I'm in the minority on this one.

Hands down sex is far more emotional/intimate for me. I've had awesome earthshattering kisses in my life, but nothing ever compares to sharing and feeling an orgasm happen as a result of my cock being inside her. That shared moment for me is downright spiritual.
 

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I guess I'm in the minority on this one.

Hands down sex is far more emotional/intimate for me. I've had awesome earthshattering kisses in my life, but nothing ever compares to sharing and feeling an orgasm happen as a result of my cock being inside her. That shared moment for me is downright spiritual.

Interesting. I thought you'd come down on the kiss side.
 

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Interesting. I thought you'd come down on the kiss side.

I had to think if I was missing something with all the votes going for the kissing rather than the fucking. It all boils down to what's more frustrating: fucking for three hours without kissing or kissing for three hours without fucking?

Besides I can never get the "plugging into the Matrix" feeling from a kiss.
 

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I guess I'm in the minority on this one.

Hands down sex is far more emotional/intimate for me. I've had awesome earthshattering kisses in my life, but nothing ever compares to sharing and feeling an orgasm happen as a result of my cock being inside her. That shared moment for me is downright spiritual.
Your sex must be amazing, I envy that :p Won't lie. Hopefully, I'll meet someone like that. Now you mention it, I couldn't imagine kissing and sex being without the other. Yes, kissing is nice, but more often than not somewhere in the hours to come it is likely to lead to sex, or sexual frustration.

@Subgirrl, funny that, I want to live in Australia in about 10 years :p hahaha
 

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I had to think if I was missing something with all the votes going for the kissing rather than the fucking. It all boils down to what's more frustrating: fucking for three hours without kissing or kissing for three hours without fucking?

Besides I can never get the "plugging into the Matrix" feeling from a kiss.

I thought about it in a slightly different way - which would I feel more uncomfortable doing with a stranger or someone I didn't like.

When I compare kissing my FB to fucking him, I'll put the fucking as more intimate every time (the matrix feeling helps :biggrin1:), but in a more general sense, the kissing is the more intimate one.

If I'm in bed with someone I don't feel close to, I can close my eyes and focus on the physical feelings involved with sex, and all is fine. If they kiss me it's too . . . in my face (I intended that double meaning). It brings me back to the reality of the situation and disconnects me from the orgasmic physical feelings. Plus, I tend to think 'Yuck' :biggrin1:.


@Subgirrl, funny that, I want to live in Australia in about 10 years :p hahaha

If we're both still single (or single again), we might have to organise a lunch date :tongue:.
 

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IMO kissing is only more emotional than Bad sex. If you are used to only having bad sex, of course you will get more intimacy out of a sincere kiss.

Any sex without emotion is bad sex, the logical corollary of this IMO.
 

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IMO kissing is only more emotional than Bad sex. If you are used to only having bad sex, of course you will get more intimacy out of a sincere kiss.

Any sex without emotion is bad sex, the logical corollary of this IMO.
Lol I know this feeling. I think that is why I get little out of sex but the fact remains a kiss with a stranger, even a pointless one, can be meaningful on the heart and the mind.

I keep wanting to say it brings two people closer together, but I am not sure how.
 

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i'm going to have to weigh in on this one...great question. to me, kissing can't be meaningless/casual, sex can. there's no one i'd kiss that i wouldn't fuck, there are people i'd fuck that i wouldn't kiss. sounds a bit crass now that i see it in writing, haha, but it's the truth.
 

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Kissing is definately more intimate. When your in bed laying next to them and just kissing you get that emotional attachment. It's how I've stupidly ended up having feelings for my FB!
 

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i'm going to have to weigh in on this one...great question. to me, kissing can't be meaningless/casual, sex can. there's no one i'd kiss that i wouldn't fuck, there are people i'd fuck that i wouldn't kiss. sounds a bit crass now that i see it in writing, haha, but it's the truth.
Exactly, and I can have sex with people and not develop an attachment, yet as soon as there is a kiss it seems to trigger some form of deeper river of feelings.
 

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Sex can be just sex, but a kiss can also be just a kiss...
I'm not sure which I have to chose here, I have definitely kissed more girls than I had sex with.
But on the other hand: you can have great sex without feeling anything special, while I only had a great kiss when there where emotions involved.
Anyway: I think the most intimate and emotional is a combo: kissing while I'm inside someone and having an orgasm. This would be the best way to start making me fall in love with someone.
 
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I was brought up in a community where hugging and kissing (on the cheek) was the norm, but when i moved out into the bigger world i realised that a lot of people mistook my actions for something more than what it was. Kissing i find to be so much more intimate, with the right person you can kiss for hours and not want to have sex at all and still be satisfied after.

No matter who i have sex with i always please her first and put my needs second, i think it feels more fulfilling with someone you are having a relationship with, but sometimes sex can just be plain raw and animalistic which detaches from that emotional tie but you can't detach emotionally when kissing someone.

I've had several fuck buddies and no matter how good, wild or varied the sex was they always remember the kissing.

Sex can be like the wind forceful, strong, gentle swirling knock you off your feet, but kissing is like the sun, it makes your whole body mind senses come alive all over, makes you glow your skin tingles. Kissing is simultaneous giving & taking at the same time on all levels.
 

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Sex can be like the wind forceful, strong, gentle swirling knock you off your feet, but kissing is like the sun, it makes your whole body mind senses come alive all over, makes you glow your skin tingles.

This I'm going to steal. A lot of girls in my vicinity will be hearing this very soon :biggrin1:
 

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I liked it too! Although I might have compared sex to a cyclone myself :biggrin1:

I just tried this a few hours ago, and guess what: it works like a charm.
I have to say all the other stuff was taken care of very, very, very, very well, but saying that wind and sun thing was just that little extra...