Whats proper locker room etiquette for checking out guys or is it ok at all
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D_Sir Fitzwilly Wankheimer III
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If you're wanting to get a good look at other guys without offending anyone, I find one of the best ways is to catch others looking. Leave yourself exposed and watch to see if anyone eyes you up. Look in their direction, not aggressively, but enough to make it clear to them that they were caught looking. Most guys will have a little bit of a panic mode at this point, mainly because they are afraid of being beat up or outed as gay or something. They won't actually do anything though. At this point you can make it clear that everything is okay by going for an obvious look at them yourself. A couple of seconds maybe, not enough to qualify as staring, but enough to take everything in. After all, he can't complain if it's payback can he?
Nearly every guy looks, but nearly every guy is also afraid of being caught at it. By "breaking the ice" this way, you let him know that both of you are interested in looking. Once he realized that you looked back at him, he might go back for a second peek, or a third. How far you let it continue is up to how comfortable you are with it. More than one guy has participated in mutual visual masturbation in a locker room with me, with no sex being involved.
Nearly every guy looks, but nearly every guy is also afraid of being caught at it. By "breaking the ice" this way, you let him know that both of you are interested in looking. Once he realized that you looked back at him, he might go back for a second peek, or a third. How far you let it continue is up to how comfortable you are with it. More than one guy has participated in mutual visual masturbation in a locker room with me, with no sex being involved.
1. when in the shower and the guy has his back turned to you. start a conversation, that way he may turn facing you to chat.
2. guys usually get changed while standing. so have a seat. that way your at eye level to the guys penis so you cant help but see it. some guys do sit when changing so its not noticable to why you are sitting.
3. use the full lenght mirror. that way your not looking directly at the guy.
2. guys usually get changed while standing. so have a seat. that way your at eye level to the guys penis so you cant help but see it. some guys do sit when changing so its not noticable to why you are sitting.
3. use the full lenght mirror. that way your not looking directly at the guy.
I'd be real careful about doing any of the above.
1. I don't like to be hit up for chat by strangers while taking a shower. Creepy.
2. Unless you are wearing a hat, you can still tell if a guy is checking you out...even if his eyes are on dick-level. Creepy. And if you are wearing a hat...double creepy.
3. Again, I know the mirror trick. Its like when you are talking to a very vane person with your back to a mirror, and you catch them checking themselves out all the time. And if you tried to use the mirror trick in a gym...creepy.
I'd rather look at the sun than be caught looking at a guy's dick...especially if he is a normal good looking guy minding his own business. I don't want to be that creepy guy that he complains to friends about later.
[True story: A friend of mine had friend who was a teacher at a local college. The teacher had access to the showers at the gym...and would brag to people that he would discretely check out all the hot guys in the showers and nobody knew he was looking. A bit later, my friend met a student at the university who was involved with sports, and when asked one day why he was going home to shower instead of using the school facilities he said "Because there is a really creepy teacher who hangs out in the locker room and watches guys take showers all the time". When my friend reported this back to the teacher...he couldn't believe anyone was on to his game. Lesson learned...most people are pretty smart...and know all the tricks.]
There have been two exceptions to my "try-not-to-look-at-dick-in-the-lockers" rule.
1) When I was in prep school I learned a way to stand facing the shower head with the stream on my hair, and if I let the water course off my head in the right way...and if the guy I wanted to check out was right next to me...I could take a long look. I haven't tried that trick since I was 17.
2A) If the guy is really obvious in directing attention to his dick, I will look. In 7th and 8th grade, a guy named Eddie was much more developed than the rest of the boys, and enjoyed doing things that called attention to his massive manhood...such as naked jumping jacks, helicopter, and a trick he did in rolling his dick 360 degrees as he moved a towel side to side cradling his dick. As an adult, it would take a lot for me to check a guy out so blatantly...it would either have to be pre-arranged or an amazingly good looking guy who was practically wanking in front of me.
2B) Ask the guy if its ok to look. A few years ago my best friend came for a quick visit, literally an overnight stay. In the morning, we were getting showers and I asked him if I could stay in the bathroom and talk while he showered. He said that was fine...so we chatted the whole time...and it was easy to check out his wang through the glass shower door (so I'm a perv) and he knew it. I didn't hide it and it was consensual so I have no issue with that.
Generally, be smart, respectful, and careful.
OK, it would be great if everyone found you as hot as you find hot people, but exwhyzee is right. You probbably will be seen as creepy by someone, so why chance it and/or subject someone else to it. There is nothing worse or more annoying than being stalked (by someone you find creepy) in a gym locker room when you are just trying to get in a workout.
Newbie question
Is it a taboo to get an erection in the showers or locker room? Any unwritten rules or anything if you get one?
Is it a taboo to get an erection in the showers or locker room? Any unwritten rules or anything if you get one?
Oh, they'll pay attention, all right. They just will try to hide their gawking.
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I think most of the guys on here have it right. Men straight or gay will discretely check out each others bodies and not just their cocks. The key is to be discrete. Staring and leering can be a problem.
I've also had guys go beyond staring to making comments like, "that's a big cock dude". That might be a bit too much.
I've also had guys go beyond staring to making comments like, "that's a big cock dude". That might be a bit too much.
"Don't drop the soap" is a statement rooted deeply in homophobia, and goes against male nature. Every man (vast majority) secretly desires to check out the other penes in the locker room, or in any case where one is in view. To pretend it is not true is sort of like the "elephant in the room" analogy: we act and say the exact opposite of what we all know is the case (for fear of being seen as homosexual). It is that simple.
Sure, there needs to be etiquette and boundaries in the locker room, as excessive staring and harassment are against the rules, as they should be.
Sure, there needs to be etiquette and boundaries in the locker room, as excessive staring and harassment are against the rules, as they should be.
Definitely no offense here... Always appreciate a showoff scenario if a guy is and willing to show regardless of age.
I have caught guys taking pictures of me with their phones. They tried to do it very discretely, but I could tell what was going on. I didn't really care. But i am sure some guys would get pretty pissed off. My gym has a no phone use in the locker room policy. But it doesn't prevent some guys from using their phone.
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The OP states that he was from Queens NY, he did not state if his gym location was in Queens or other parts of the city.
Queens is a beautiful borough with a bay on one side, the ocean on the other side and part of the east rives on another . Parts of the borough are very ethnic and territorial, though demographic boundaries change very fast these days.
Long story short, in certain parts of queens, it would not be wise to make eye contact; nor be caught making eye to penis contact with other males in the shower. New Yorkers are not known for making polite conversation with strangers in general, let alone while nude.
Queens is a beautiful borough with a bay on one side, the ocean on the other side and part of the east rives on another . Parts of the borough are very ethnic and territorial, though demographic boundaries change very fast these days.
Long story short, in certain parts of queens, it would not be wise to make eye contact; nor be caught making eye to penis contact with other males in the shower. New Yorkers are not known for making polite conversation with strangers in general, let alone while nude.
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