There's no hard and fast with this one, Ramsey. It varies per woman. The vagina can stretch a lot and it does return most of the way to the elasticity of before, naturally, in most women. Some women get there full previous 'range' of tightness and sensation back as before. There may be some genetics involved in the tightness and stretch (I haven't ever looked into it) but I would say that is largely dependant on a combination of the extent of the damage during delivery and pre and postpartum exercises. Those exercises (
kegels) are very important. She has probably already been informed what they are, how to do them and is probably already doing them. She may have discussed it with you already, if she hasn't ask her about it - but diplomatically. For example 'I read about these kegel exercises, the midwife (or Ob, or Lamaze teacher, etc.) probably mentioned them...' and let her tell you what she knows about it, not 'hey do your fucking kegels...' :wink:
You don't say how far postpartum she is or whether she was torn/cut during delivery. If it is recent, obviously, you both have to let that heal and really let her decide when that is. If you're further along from that point then it really is a question of talking to her. Ask her how sex feels, is it different for her, ask her what she likes and if she'd like you to do anything different. If it feels different to you, specifically if it feels less tight than before try different positions - as long as they are phyiscally comfortable for both of you. I would avoid outright saying 'you feel looser', but if she asks don't lie. Telling her that "nothing can change [your] desire for her or pleasure from her" is a really good start. :smile:
Communication is the main key to getting sex back as good as or better than ever, in fact I'd say it's the key to good sex in general.