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Dishonesty (lying and deceit, etc..) and abuse, above all else.
Cheating....well, that's a complicated issue. My knee-jerk reaction would be "yes, that's a deal breaker". However, I think examining the variables and the entire situation (whether he was honest and forthright about it, or if I caught him in a lie/cover up) would give me a clearer picture as to whether he was kicked to the curb or kept around. The make-or-break point would be to what degree, if any, that lying and deception played a role.
A good friend of mine has a partner that cheated several years ago. Without typing out all the details, this one event actually brought them closer together, as it opened up the lines of communication and forced their unresolved issues to be brought out into the open and dealt with.
Bottom line: I can see both sides of the coin on cheating. Lying and deceit, however, are intolerable and will be dealt with by a kick to the curb.
Cheating....well, that's a complicated issue. My knee-jerk reaction would be "yes, that's a deal breaker". However, I think examining the variables and the entire situation (whether he was honest and forthright about it, or if I caught him in a lie/cover up) would give me a clearer picture as to whether he was kicked to the curb or kept around. The make-or-break point would be to what degree, if any, that lying and deception played a role.
A good friend of mine has a partner that cheated several years ago. Without typing out all the details, this one event actually brought them closer together, as it opened up the lines of communication and forced their unresolved issues to be brought out into the open and dealt with.
Bottom line: I can see both sides of the coin on cheating. Lying and deceit, however, are intolerable and will be dealt with by a kick to the curb.