Whats The Difference Between Being Bi And Being Gay ?

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I would like some answers cause seems to be a very fine line between the two I know that having a label isn't what I'm looking for cause I don't really care but want to find guys like myself and can't figure out which I should be looking for really
 

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But seems like gay guys are the ones that also want to make out and kiss and stuff also which I would like to find a playmate to do those things with also most bi guys just want to suck and to be fucked or fuck and thats it.....
 
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Oh you sweet summer child.

Bisexual people are no more or less sex focused than any other sexuality. Bisexual simply means you are attracted to your same sex and another one (often what is considered the opposite sex). Being bi has nothing to do with making out, cuddling, hand-holding, sucking, fucking, etc. None of that defines bisexuality, nor do those things define homosexuality or heterosexuality, or any other sexuality.
 
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Oh you sweet summer child.

Bisexual people are no more or less sex focused than any other sexuality. Bisexual simply means you are attracted to your same sex and another one (often what is considered the opposite sex). Being bi has nothing to do with making out, cuddling, hand-holding, sucking, fucking, etc. None of that defines bisexuality, nor do those things define homosexuality or heterosexuality, or any other sexuality.

This. This. This and this. I was going to type up a reply but this sums it up VERY well.
 

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Guess I"m confused then .......
It’s really not that complicated.

Heterosexual = you are exclusively sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex.

Homosexual = you are exclusively attracted to people of your own same sex.

Bisexual = you are not exclusively attracted to the opposite sex or your own same sex, as you are attracted to both.

All of these sexualities = no correlation to how often or what kinds of sexual/intimate activities you engage in.



PS The harder line to draw is between bisexual and pansexual. It’s a little controversial as some people believe those are one and the same thing, and some people believe they are different things. But that’s not a discussion we need to have for your specific question.
 
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Oh you sweet summer child.

Bisexual people are no more or less sex focused than any other sexuality. Bisexual simply means you are attracted to your same sex and another one (often what is considered the opposite sex). Being bi has nothing to do with making out, cuddling, hand-holding, sucking, fucking, etc. None of that defines bisexuality, nor do those things define homosexuality or heterosexuality, or any other sexuality.
I believe this nails it. Don't make this any harder or complicated---if both men and women turn you on, than you are bisexual......so stop fretting over all this and simply enjoy the "moment" and whoever you happen to be with.
 
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Just alittle confused at the moment cause there are some women that still do turn me on but at the same time guys do also but want the same thing out of women and men ..thats making out and kissing and cuddling was a woman long ago that kissed me with so much passion that I got hard fast haven't had a kiss like that since .
 

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Just alittle confused at the moment cause there are some women that still do turn me on but at the same time guys do also but want the same thing out of women and men ..thats making out and kissing and cuddling was a woman long ago that kissed me with so much passion that I got hard fast haven't had a kiss like that since .
Kissing with men can be just as good.....took me YEARS before I got over my inhibitions and first kissed a man.....and oh my was it good....took MM sex and love making to a whole other level......
 
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Kissing with men can be just as good.....took me YEARS before I got over my inhibitions and first kissed a man.....and oh my was it good....took MM sex and love making to a whole other level......
Thats probably the level I need to be at in my life soon .....just don't find many around that will be that way at least in this town....
 
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Guess I"m confused then .......
You're never really confused, you are just stuck on labels. We think you described yourself as Bi, but only you know the actual truth. If you think girls will never be enough for you even though they still turn you on, I say call yourself gay if you want to, if it makes you feel more comfortable. I guess it is more problematic the other way around, but as long as you don't attack other's sexuality it should be okay either way.

Bisexuality has a problem in that it can easily be treated as "invisible", but I think it's as simple as Rockhard76 said, "If the ladies don't do anything for you sexually, then you are gay" (if guys still do). I think that definition is just science. However, I feel like you can still be obsessed or infatuated by someone and not be sexually attracted to them, and I think that can be confusing for some people... but I think deep down inside you know, you just have to ignore the noise of what everyone else says for you. The labels they want to give you.

The only complicated part is people's comfort-level with labels, how vocal they want to be about their attractions to non-binary genders and trans-people. (Because if a person wants to say they are attracted to Trans as well, then they are "Pansexual") I know some people don't like to call themselves "Bisexual" because it always sounds complicated and like you need to give some more detailed explanation (or worse, like you are trying to look trendy), so for a while I didn't and in the long run it just caused problems for me (in relationships... friends mostly got over it). However, really one just has to live their truth. Personally, I feel like the more truly gay and straight people I've been around, met, and befriended/dated, the more I feel like they have more in common with each other than a Bisexual person does to either. (I don't mean relationships don't work, not at all, but I feel like our viewpoints can truly be completely different and sometimes really incomprehensible at a basic level)
 
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IMHO, gay is having an attraction to men. I'm not gay, I'm bi. I just have an attraction to cock. Sucking cock, swallowing cum, etc. Sucking cum out of a pussy is the pinnacle of my sex life. Otherwise not into dudes. Just my $.02