What's The Longest You've Been 'Hung Up' On Someone?

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I just haven't found that "One" yet.....I still have a thing for my first crush though...and my first sexual-wise...she's moved away and off to better things I suppose, but I still miss her.
 

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I ended things with my bf of four years about three years ago, I often think of him because I realised fairly soon I'd made the wrong decision but there was no going back.

There is no such thing as pride, SP, when it comes to love. If you still love him and want him, why not let him know?
 

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10 1/2 years and counting.

it goes in cycles-- sometimes i think about him, sometimes i won't for months at a time. it's about him but it's also about a time in my life that still remains unresolved in my heart to this day. he symbolizes a lot for me, and i actually feel bad putting the mantle of this on someone who has no desire to carry it-- so the past few years i've kept it to myself mostly.

i've been married for 6 1/2 years and have a child, and i know that sometimes thinking about him is an escape valve for the difficulty of maintaining a real relationship and leading an adult life.
 

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How is it possible to try and forget about someone and get on with life when you have such strong feeling for someone. How can you have a full relationship with someone else whilst you are having these fellings.:sad2:
 

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How is it possible to try and forget about someone and get on with life when you have such strong feeling for someone. How can you have a full relationship with someone else whilst you are having these fellings.:sad2:

You can't...which is why I believe I will be alone for the rest of my life...I don't believe I will ever get over him.
 

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I guess this is one of my fantasy guys although he is real.The first time I saw him was about eleven years ago. The last time was in Walmart (with his two kids) about a year ago. I've never had sex with him - much less seen his cock. He use to be a cop where I had my business and now he is a state trooper and lives in a neighboring town.
He may or may not be hung - I don't care. His face is what turns me on.
Oh well...maybe someday I'll get pulled over by him. :rolleyes:
 

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What's The Longest You've Been 'Hung Up' On Someone?

16 years. Have you ever got to know someone and thought that he/she was the love of your life? He moved north back in the early '90s and we've kept in touch frequently through the years. It always nagged me that nothing ever happened. The vibes were there. Were we both too passive to make a move? A year and a half ago, I saw Brokeback Mountain and it triggered me to take action. I went to visit him in Washington during summer of '06. We got along famously and I had a good time on my vacation. We laughed insanely, yet got into a few heated discussions as well. In the end, I discovered that he was an accounting problem - an overvalued asset. I had him up on a pedestal and had to put him back on the ground like everyone else. The good thing is that now I'm emotionally free to move on.
 

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I split with my ex in August 2004, and I still think about him every day (we were together for 10 years). I've tried to date other people and "move on" (as everyone keeps advising me to do), but the fact is, I'm still in love with him -- and I don't think I can give my heart to someone else as long as I still feel that way.
 

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About 6-8 years, hung up on someone I was very close to in grad school. :banghead2: But the experience taught me a lot about what I didn't want (or need) in a partner, and in a way it let me move on to the man I love and live with today. It's funny--then, I thought it was going on for the longest time, but now, having actually calculated how long it was, from this vantage point it doesn't seem nearly as long. Whaddya know! :thinkerg:
 

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Or can't get them out of your head, still think about them, etc. Just wondering. :redface:

Some of them will be with me forever.

To answer your question, I think headbang8 and snoozan touched on it the best. If you felt an intense emotion to another (whether it be love or hatred) it is quite difficult to 'just get over it'. I'm assuming the reason is because that person was a big part of your life for a period of time and you were deeply connected.

Having said that, I don't think you could ever get them officially out of your head. I'm going on two years for one person and nine for another. To this day, the smallest thing reminds me of them. :smile:
 

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To answer your question, I think headbang8 and snoozan touched on it the best. If you felt an intense emotion to another (whether it be love or hatred) it is quite difficult to 'just get over it'. I'm assuming the reason is because that person was a big part of your life for a period of time and you were deeply connected.

Having said that, I don't think you could ever get them officially out of your head. I'm going on two years for one person and nine for another. To this day, the smallest thing reminds me of them. :smile:

Glad to see you back man! How ya been?