what's up with this????

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  1. campbell

    campbell New Member

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    Ok, I have a question; my wife doesn't care for the whole oral sex thing; she'll let me do it to her but only for a few minutes because she says the whole oral sex thing she doesn't like, and she won't even give me a blowjob!!!!???? What should a guy do? I'd love to lick her pussy until she comes but that ain't happening and a blowjob for me in return is out of the question. I sometimes think of just wanting to meet a gal just to have some oral sex; I love it so much.:confused:
     
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    Is it the concept or the sensation she does not care for?

    I'm guessing that she probably (even if she doesn't realize it) thinks it is dirty or wrong.

    I'm not a big fan of blowjobs myself, but I have discovered that so few men do it as well as I would like. If it is the sensation, or the act itself that she does not like, you could try a few different techniques. But as she will tolerate just a few minutes of receiving, and will not give at all, makes me think it is something else.

    I'm not sure I have the best advice for you, except do what you can to convince her that it isn't dirty, it isn't sinful, it is just simply another (incredible) way to share sexually.
     
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    Well, I'm like her about not caring for oral in me because I never orgasm from it...than I do not have patience for it prefering penetration...and than most men that I had shorten the foreplay in there for me and do 'my' thing..that in reality is their thing too.

    Did your wife ever orgasm by oral alone ?

    Well, does she knows you really love doing it sooo much? Hmmm...if he really love doing it I would let him stay there a bit more...

    Well, if she really does not has any issue (shyness, selfcouncious etc) about oral other than dont care..is a situation like mine...to discover the hidden pleasures in there, but than you have to be very patiente and good on it, to show her..I think.:confused:
     
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    Have you tried serving yourself?
     
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    Next time you want to give her oral, let her have the TV remote. That should keep her busy.
     
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    If she thinks it's dirty, or if your tongue stimulates her clitoris too much, consider covering her pussy with clingfilm before you go down on her. Maybe do it in the dark or put the quilt in the way so she can't see what you're doing. Or maybe just make it a game and ask her to shut her eyes. You both might be pleasantly surprised.
     
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    Well it's the concept that she doesn't like and truely thinks it's dirty even though I have told her otherwise lots of times; she also thinks I am gonna cum in her mouth but for me to cum for oral takes a long time unless being deep throated, which no female has ever been able to do on me.
     
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    I'd never try to suck my own cock
     
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    I have to ask the obvious? How on earth did you (a man that loves oral sex) end up with a woman that despises it? Did this not ever come up before you were married. Sex is not the only part of a relationship, but it's an important one. As evidenced by the fact that you are posting queries on a web site and thinking about cheating on your wife.

    I would suggest your wife has definite issues when it comes to sex. Time for counseling.
     
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    My last girl friend wasn't all that into receiving oral initially, and usually wouldn't leave me down there for too long. But once I got good at it, it was a different story.

    Do you take your time, making your way down there?
    Or does she know where you're going right off the bat?

    Some guys might dive right in, porno-styles, and that doesn't always work for the ladies.
     
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    hey folks...my 2 cents worth follows! never really understood the whole fuss about oral either way, i don't like giving it and i certainly don't enjoy getting it. maybe it's because i have a big foreskin and sensitive glans but it actually sometimes downright hurts! it's the watching paint dry of sex for me. way prefer manual stimulation and penetration! oh well diff strokes etc..no?!
     
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    I like being on both ends of the oral game. In terms of giving it, it's like exploring & experincing your woman's body from a different perspective. It adds a bit of variety, and even a challenge - getting her to climax in a different way. And the experience between shagging and head is definatly noticable.
     
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    Peersonally i dont really enjoy the sensation of oral but what does get me off it the idea that he is smelling, tasting consuming the most intimate and private parts or me, and that he can feel every move and twitch i make.

    Anyway i m realising that there are many of us women who arent totally into oral. I dont think we all have hidden unresolved issue but rather somethings just dont rock the boat.

    For your situatioon id say maybe she is concerned about you being down there. Concerened about the groomming, odour, look anything or again it could be nothing. Also id suggest instead of using your tounge try your hands or a vibrator so it isnt to intimate and daunting for her, then maybe she will grow more comfortable with you and like you going down on her..she may also relaise the fun of giving you oral aswell.

    If that fails..I really do suggest trying the self-sucking...Dont be shy about it as ss-ing is a huge turn on :tongue:
     
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    hungthickdc,

    What is counseling going to attempt to achieve in a situation like this?

    If A doesn't like it and B loves it will counselling try to convince A that it is important to do it ocassionallly for B, and try to convince B that there are more important things in a relationship than oral sex, so get over it?
     
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    I agree and further it by saying that the tone of hungthickdc's post was judgemental & condescending. Yeah in a perfect world we'd ALL communicate better and make sure we talk about ALL our sexual desires & perks and really KNOW the other person sexually but that isn't always the case. Plus, peoples' desires can change through-out a marraige. I'm not at all certain counseling will help - I'm in pretty much the same situation myself, actually - and I'm just trying to enjoy whatever I can sexually with my spouse & not have expectations that she can't fulfill.


     
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    I never used to come from oral, but that was because I'd told him NOT to use his fingers but only his tongue - once I gave an okay to the use of fingers --> BOOM! :biggrin1: (and even then it takes a while)

    Sadly, Mr OBsessed doesn't enjoy giving me oral unless I'm freshly shaved and showered (and how often can you shave?? waxing is way too painful :eek:), and even then I have to almost beg for it. I'm sorry to hear that some of you guys have wives who don't appreciate your oral skills and/or aren't willing to give oral to you. I love giving head, and would love getting it, too, far more often than I do now.
     
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    I would suggest counseling is going to attempt to achieve a resolution. As that is typically the point of counseling. In my experience (personal relationships, speaking with friends, relatives), I find in general, people are pretty bad communicators. They are reluctant to tell their partner what is really on their mind. Sometimes afraid to reveal certain aspects about themselves (especially sexual proclivities). Counseling provides a venue for people to discuss things with a non-judgemental third-party intermediary. This intermediary is equipped with the skills to isolate issues and provide a plan to resolve them.

    Communication and compromise are two VERY important aspects of a successful relationship.

    I didn't intend my original post to be inflammatory, condescending, or judgemental. I was simply asking how he got in this situation in the first place. From the tone of his post, it seemed to me that oral sex was rather important to him (in respect to a fulfilling sexual relationship with his wife). Yet, he seems very disatisfied with his wife's inability to embrace oral sex as a regular part of their sexual activity.
     
  18. campbell

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    Ok, OBsessed we need to get together; I am sure you and I could have a wild time. LOL
     
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