Whats with the hair pulling?

[Principessa]

Why is it that every time a guy fucks doggie style he feels the need to pull you by the hair?

A little bit is ok but guys, too hard and it hurts

Plain and simple, they are watching too much porn.

I think it's like a primal thing, I dunno.

One of my partners did that *constantly* during doggie as well as put me into some sort of headlock from behind

Constantly?! Didn't you tell him to stop? A headlock? :wtf1: It's sex, not WWF! He would have been banned fom my bedroom so fast his head would spin.

I get that it's "primal," but a witty comment rings my bell better. I don't like my hair, neck or head being pulled around.

On this we agree. I am a big fan of doggystyle but all that rough animalistic crap from porn needs to stay in the studio and out of reality.

i think its all about communication. talk to the partner before you get into it or even when your getting done doggy its an act of dominance really. i guess it depends how submissive each of you fine women are

I can be somewhat submissive sexually. I have often said in threads that I like to be dominated by a lover; but I will not tolerate humiliation. There is a fine line between the two and many men just don't get that. :frown1:

Maybe it's like riding a horse, you have to hold on really tight, just in case she tries to toss you off :biggrin1:

They call it doggystyle for a reason. You ever see the male dog pulling the females ears? NO.

 

[D_yammalamma]

njqt466 LMAO yeah the smackdown element was a little odd so I hinted we try some other positions until he calmed down just a little

 

[SpeedoGuy]

Why is it that every time a guy fucks doggie style he feels the need to pull you by the hair?

I've also wondered about this. Hair pulling during doggy has always struck as me as being some very, very contrived porno fantasy (meaning male fantasy).

One is forced to wonder how long it will be before life (meaning pop culture) begins to imitate art and people actually start doing it because it seems, well, hip.

 

[SassySpy]

Oh I'm definitely in the 'love it' camp, if its done right. ie, not faked- not violent, etc. The guy who turned me on to it only did it as he reached orgasm, then just kind of wrapped my hair around his hand and tugged while cumming, no matter what position we were in. Speaking of what CoTD said, he was a cowboy, now that I recall.:biggrin1: God it was hot though.

 

[lorne]

WTF I never understood that need. Doesn't do anything for me and looks retarded in pornos. I assume it has to do with dominance but can honestly admit I haven't ever done it. I have on occasion found it hot when a woman is hugging me during sex to grab a fist full of mine. A woman putting her fingers through my hair is like pulling a rip cord on my loins.

 

[JBisme]

My girl get's off on it, but it is not hard, just a tug, especially when she is close I would have never done it if she had not tols me she liked it

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

Its its leverage they are after then go for the hips, or even the shoulders. But what is fantastic and im sure it has a name i dont know but when in doggies he pulls you up so you are kneeling in front of him the holds you in close to him around the waste :yup: that is a winner every time

 

[Diesel2215]

My wife loves it. But I must admit there is a time and place for it though. I think it is a mixture between a little bit of pain mixed with the excitement of coming!!

 

[Mackleanen Beebarf]

I don't get the pulling thing. I probably couldn't do it very well anyway as DW usually keeps her hair no longer than down to her shoulders. I may grab a little hair around the nape of her neck and just hold it, but I'm not pulling on things unless somebody asks for it. I'm usually running my fingers up & down her back instead in that position. She loves the back rub.

 

[OPPinSLC]

I never pull hair, but I do like to grab my girlfriend by the shoulders and pull her closer.

 

[Erector]

I like to play with my wife's hair in this position. The reaching around and caressing her neck/throat/jawline/face is for her benefit. Playing with her hair is because I like to see her hair on her back and not waving back and forth. I don't pull hair though.

 

[Mr. Snakey]

Ive never pulled a womans hair. At least not that i can remember

 

[Principessa]

I never pull hair, but I do like to grab my girlfriend by the shoulders and pull her closer.[/quote] Now that's HOT! I love it when my guy does that. :flirt:

 

[Maia]

I like having my hair pulled :redface: My husband won't let me make him come if I haven't had several orgasms, so sometimes when I am sucking him before intercourse he starts insisting that I stop before I get him off. I don't stop, because I know one of my favourite treats is on the way: he will grip me by my hair and pull my head down to the bed, cursing me for getting him so turned on. "You stubborn little bitch! You know I can't take much more of that sucking yet you continue to test me!" He usually follows that by pulling me around by my hair and holding my face into the bed while working himself into me from behind. Then I know I really have him crazy because he never starts with that position since it hurts me if we haven't warmed up with me on my back.

 

[modestlyhung]

It's a control thing I think. I like pulling hair, but not while in doggy style. I like to grab a handful when in missionary, and not so much pull but control her head so I can kiss her neck and such, but still have complete control of it. I don't really do that with my current girlfriend as she doesn't like it.

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

I couldn't do it. I don't like inflicting pain on people I care about. I had one peep pull my hair while talking to me, and it was on.

 

[nay-nay]

i was at a club once and this guy kept playing with my hair, and then he pulled on it from the roots. which turned me on quite a bit!! if its pulled at the roots its great, but if it's pulled on the ends it hurts, which i don't like.

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

nay-nay, where you been? I haven't seen you since you quit the post office. I hope you are happy.

 

[xxxsarahuk]

I dont mind it a bit either when in doggie or me giving head.

 

[Runco]

I missed this thread due to being on holiday. I haven't laughed so much in a while! Loved these explanations:

'traction'
'grip' (this made me laugh the most!)
'leverage'

(picturing this in my head reduces me to fits of laughter!)

Then this: headlock

HEADLOCK??? WTF is going on in your bedrooms people?

:biglaugh: I am crying with laughter here! I have to go and compose myself!

Okay, I'm back now!

My ex used to grip my shoulders or grip me across the chest with one arm and wrap the other one around my hip and place his hand on my stomach to pull me back - VERY hot!