What's your reaction and impression to a woman asking about your size?

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I guess what I'm conveying is that knowledge of size ahead of time can result in significantly better sex, and therefore in a casual relationship, knowing it can be valuable. Too big or too small, either way can be a barrier to great sex.
Knowing size ahead of time can be valuable whether the relationship is casual or not. Good sex and orgasm help to cement the emotional bond in loving relationships. Ho hum sex and lack of orgasms don't.

I happen to think sexual compatibility is even more important in long term relationships than it is for casual encounters.

With a casual encounter lack of satisfaction just means you don't repeat the encounter.

With a relationship continual lack of satisfaction can lead to discord in other areas of the relationship possibly leading to cheating or break up.

Why do many think it's okay to ask when the consequence of incompatibility might be one missed orgasm but not okay when the consequence might be heartbreak?
 

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Knowing size ahead of time can be valuable whether the relationship is casual or not. Good sex and orgasm help to cement the emotional bond in loving relationships. Ho hum sex and lack of orgasms don't.

I happen to think sexual compatibility is even more important in long term relationships than it is for casual encounters.

With a casual encounter lack of satisfaction just means you don't repeat the encounter.

With a relationship continual lack of satisfaction can lead to discord in other areas of the relationship possibly leading to cheating or break up.

Why do many think it's okay to ask when the consequence of incompatibility might be one missed orgasm but not okay when the consequence might be heartbreak?

Being slightly too large or small may not equate to complete sexual incompatibility, which is why it may well not be a barrier to a long-term, serious relationship.

Meanwhile, a casual relationship is mostly about sex. Being even slightly incompatible is more significant an issue when the entire point of the relationship is sex.

It's been my experience being on one end of the spectrum that it's an issue in most sexual relationships, but not such an issue that it's a "deal breaker" in a serious relationship.

Penis size has never been a major factor in achieving orgasm for the women I've been with in my life. Maybe I'm just that good with my hands and tongue. If so, more power to me, I guess, but this idea that avoiding "ho hum sex" or achieving orgasm requires a penis of a certain size for most women has not been true at all in my experience... in fact, to the contrary, the penis isn't even required for orgasm for any of the women I've been with. :tongue:

Also, when was I talking about a "casual encounter". I said "casual relationship" didn't I? Suggesting more than just one night.
 

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Knowing size ahead of time can be valuable whether the relationship is casual or not. Good sex and orgasm help to cement the emotional bond in loving relationships. Ho hum sex and lack of orgasms don't.

I happen to think sexual compatibility is even more important in long term relationships than it is for casual encounters.

With a casual encounter lack of satisfaction just means you don't repeat the encounter.

With a relationship continual lack of satisfaction can lead to discord in other areas of the relationship possibly leading to cheating or break up.

Why do many think it's okay to ask when the consequence of incompatibility might be one missed orgasm but not okay when the consequence might be heartbreak?

I agree with you. Sexual compatibility is what I would go for in a relationship. I'm straight for this reason. If I was going to choose purely on personality I'd be open minded to both men and women. So sex is a huge deal.
 

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It's kind of like saying "Can I see a picture of you mother first? I'd like to know what I'm getting into"

Not really, as she's talking about short-term situations.

There are some guys who are not very big who brag about how large they are and there are some very big guys who think they are average.

Very true.

Women have a hard time with this issue. Society's take on it is that if you know exactly what size cock you like, that says you've sampled quite a few. If you like big ones, it might also imply (to some) that you're a slut and you've worn your pussy out and you need crazy barnyard animals or pornstar slutty men to have sex with. Plus if you're being so harsh on men about penis size, where is your sense of priority? Why wouldn't you prefer a nice, stable man (even if he's a little boring to you)? What kind of slutty childish girl wants boys with big cocks? When a guy wants a young bimbo with big tits and a tight body, he's just being human. But if a woman has that mentality, she's putting her basest, most shallow desires before being a wife and mother (according to society). We can change the laws, but we can't change the fact that most of us were raised by sexist people and everything we learned was just a generation's influence away from the same sexist institutions we pretend are long gone.
 

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Being slightly too large or small may not equate to complete sexual incompatibility, which is why it may well not be a barrier to a long-term, serious relationship.
Slightly, no, but significantly, yes.

It's been my experience being on one end of the spectrum that it's an issue in most sexual relationships, but not such an issue that it's a "deal breaker" in a serious relationship.
Had your experience included a relationship where you could never once have satisfactory penetrative sex you might feel differently.

Penis size has never been a major factor in achieving orgasm for the women I've been with in my life. Maybe I'm just that good with my hands and tongue. If so, more power to me, I guess, but this idea that avoiding "ho hum sex" or achieving orgasm requires a penis of a certain size for most women has not been true at all in my experience... in fact, to the contrary, the penis isn't even required for orgasm for any of the women I've been with. :tongue:
Not every woman likes oral or manual stimulation. For me the feeling of bonding occurs during penetration. Simple, primal and real. It is very much a plug in socket connection for me so proper fit is important. I don't even need the orgasm to feel that sense of bonding.

As to the other options I've yet to feel a sense of connection while I was being diddled or licked. I find those more about skill than passion.

Meanwhile, a casual relationship is mostly about sex. Being even slightly incompatible is more significant an issue when the entire point of the relationship is sex.
Didn't you just finish saying that the penis doesn't even have to be involved for an orgasm? Why do you feel penis size is more important for casual sex but that fingers and tongue can make up for it in a long term relationship?

Also, when was I talking about a "casual encounter". I said "casual relationship" didn't I? Suggesting more than just one night.
Nevertheless, casual, hence able to walk away from without hurting the other party.
 

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Very true.

When a guy wants a young bimbo with big tits and a tight body, he's just being human.
And he will probably be criticized for it.
If his desires are dismissed then it is chalked up to him being shallow, stupid and immature. ("Just like a man")

But if a woman has that mentality, she's putting her basest, most shallow desires before being a wife and mother (according to society).

Yes, but it is harder because she will be subject to more criticism


...we can't change the fact that most of us were raised by sexist people and everything we learned was just a generation's influence away from the same sexist institutions we pretend are long gone.

Part of what is going on here is that prior to the woman's liberation movement, men could choose their wives based on simple criterion - take care of kids, take care of house, take care of man. Sort of nanny, maid and whore rolled into one.
So men get criticized for not treating women as people that are more than the above combination.
Marriage was a partnership and we should choose are partner based on a higher criterion.
Men are learning but we still give points for big tits and curvy ass. Too many points and it is a when will those boys ever learn and grow up.

So when a woman uses a physical attribute as a criterion, it seems hypocritical. Maybe even anti-feminist.

 

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So when a woman uses a physical attribute as a criterion, it seems hypocritical. Maybe even anti-feminist.

Maybe it does seem that way, but sexual satisfaction is important (to most it is, anyway). And if a big one is physically required for your orgasm, more power to ya for speaking up about it as long as you're not tactless and insensitive.
 
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Its both a turn on and a turn off. Sure its shallow. Plenty of women wouldn't date me or even give me a chance because I am shorter than average or not some kind of physical adonis. So, sometimes I might take offence, even though I am not shy about the size of my penis.

Other times, its a turn on, because I know that if I meet her minimum, I am prolly getting a sure thing.

So perhaps it depends on if they person asking gets past my own shallow criterion.
 

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I guess if all you want from a man is cock, it is all right. Do you ask him the size of his checkbook? The size of his heart? The size of his social skills. The size of his brain? The size of his friendship circle. What part of your anatomy houses your brain?
 

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I tend to assume, if a guy doesn't want to tell me his size it's because he thinks I'll be disappointed.

Eyescream, one thing I think you haven't mentioned in this thread is what is the size you are exactly looking for? Under what size is considered disappointing to you?
 

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I guess if all you want from a man is cock, it is all right.
Who said it was the only thing?

I'm not just a girth queen.
I'm an intelligence queen, a humour queen, a good posture queen, a thirst for knowledge queen, a sensitivity queen, a logic queen as well as an animal lover queen. I want all these traits in a partner.

If all you have to offer me is a big dick then I can't even be bothered using you as a masturbation toy.

Do you ask him the size of his checkbook? The size of his heart? The size of his social skills. The size of his brain? The size of his friendship circle.
All things that can be learned during typical date conversation while clothed.

What part of your anatomy houses your brain?
What? You mean it's not your cock?:rolleyes:
 

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My situation is kind of reversed. After getting divorced a while back and starting to date a girl I've known for years, I mentioned to her that there was a pretty good chance that we wouldn't be sexually compatible. I told her that I valued our friendship and if things didn't work out, our continued friendship was most important to me. She told me not to worry about it and in hindsight I shouldn't have!! At the time I felt like it was necessary to say something because I am 14" taller and twice her weight. We have never talked about it since other than my occasional joke about where she stuffs it all :)
 

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I dont feel like a woman asking about the size of my cock is wrong, i find it kinda hot actually. A girl i work with asked me once kinda joking to make it seem more playful and i told her, no big deal.
 

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I actually got that while in high school. I figure 9 out of 10 times the girl already knew the answer. When it happened, I just assumed they were "hoe-ish," and that I was going to get some lol
 

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The only person to ask me that was a gay guy, who knew I was straight, but oh well. And I answered, "You'll be the last to know."

If a woman were to ask me, I would say something like, "Well, I aint small. And I dont know what you would consider big, so I dont know what to tell you."

And, it would send up a red flag for me if a woman were to ask me. I think its in the same catagory of a guy asking a girl, "Are those real?". Just tacky.

But there are clever ways for her to get that info if she knows how to ask the right questions. For example, "What kind of condoms do you use when you have sex?"
A big guy would have to answer, "Well, comdoms are tricky because I often need the larger size and they are harder to find." And as far as anyone is concerned, she was asking a safe sex question.
 

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if the girl is willing to tell me her bra size it's fair if she isn't she isn't worth the time cus she expects double standards
 

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Not really, as she's talking about short-term situations.



Very true.

Women have a hard time with this issue. Society's take on it is that if you know exactly what size cock you like, that says you've sampled quite a few. If you like big ones, it might also imply (to some) that you're a slut and you've worn your pussy out and you need crazy barnyard animals or pornstar slutty men to have sex with. Plus if you're being so harsh on men about penis size, where is your sense of priority? Why wouldn't you prefer a nice, stable man (even if he's a little boring to you)? What kind of slutty childish girl wants boys with big cocks? When a guy wants a young bimbo with big tits and a tight body, he's just being human. But if a woman has that mentality, she's putting her basest, most shallow desires before being a wife and mother (according to society). We can change the laws, but we can't change the fact that most of us were raised by sexist people and everything we learned was just a generation's influence away from the same sexist institutions we pretend are long gone.

sexism is really closer to reality then most women care to admit
liking curvy in shape women is natural and desireable for the continuation of the species
liking in shape men is as well
likeing big dick isn't
it's not even close actually
 

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Maybe it does seem that way, but sexual satisfaction is important (to most it is, anyway). And if a big one is physically required for your orgasm, more power to ya for speaking up about it as long as you're not tactless and insensitive.

how doyou tactfully and sensitivly ask someone you hardly know how big thier dick is?
I'd like to casually and 'with lots of respect' ask girls how big thier tits are, any advice?

let me tell you why this pisses me off
in a thread where a guy wants to feel good about having a big dick, a ton of women come out and insist size dosn't matter

in other words he should not feel any pride whatsoever for having a big dick

but if his dick isn't big enough, a woman can throw him to the side becaus big dick is important to the womans pleasure

in other words you just want to have it both ways in order to make men 'wrong'

that's bullshit
pick a side and stick to it
I have a big dick
is that better able to give women orgasms or not I want a yes or a no and then stick to it, not this bullshit bouncing back and forth to make people feel bad, give a real HONEST answer and stick to it