Living a straight life, it seems there has been a progression,through time, beginning with simple thoughts of man on man sex. Progression took me into the porn booths, where I first saw gay porn. Then the internet came along with the porn sites. Still, there was no personal interaction until chat rooms and then eventually web cams. Each step is a bigger step. With each step, is desire overtaking a simple fantasy? And will desire eventually give in to an even greater step?
When a fantasy becomes a desire
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Yes. That is just about how I became bisexual. One day I thought..... you know I've had all these fantasies over the years. There must be something to it. I knew I was I denial. I longed to do it but just never had the courage. So, I decided to test myself thinking if I didn't like it, all I had to do was not do it again. So I started looking for the right guy to have my first m/m experience with and that first step was the hardest step to make, as I kept coming with dumb ass excuses as to why this guy or that guy wasn't right. And I knew I was in denial again. I was playing mind games with myself. I told myself I was thruedenying the truth and I was going to do it. So, I met a guy online that seemed like a nice guy that was understanding that this would be my first time. I went to his house and after the formalities of introducing our selves he ask me ... Would you like me to suck you first or would you like to go first? I told him I would like to go first that way I won't have an excuse to chicken out. He dropped his pants and sat back on the couch and I got on my knees and put his semi-hard cock in my mouth and started sucking on him.... I'm not kidding...within under two minutes I knew I was really liking having his cock in my mouth. Not knowing how to go about it, I thought I'll just do to him what I would like done to me. And it worked. Then he gave me toe curling blow job. Afterward, I knew I wanted to do that again. I mean suck a cock again. And I've never regretted it since with the exception of..... Why didn't I do this when I was 16 years old instead of 52 years old. I've had numerous with men, and couples over the years that were really great.
I'm not writing all this to be erotic, but rather to show you how someone else went thru the process of accepting the truth about oneself.
I'm not writing all this to be erotic, but rather to show you how someone else went thru the process of accepting the truth about oneself.
Many of us have gone through this same "progression." Myself included. As Collstorm say, "just go for it." Find a decent, caring guy who knows its your first time and will be willing to go slow. Its a wonderful experience that will change your life.......the sex is so good.........Good luck my friend.
LOL. Sucking a man's cock feels and tastes so nice....like the most natural thing in the world....uuummmm. Great post, and thanks for sharing.
Best advice on here! Seriously, with the Internet and various hookup sites, you'll be able to find someone you're comfortable with. Just go for it. And that first time another man's hard penis is in your hands and then your mouth, you WILL wonder why you waited.
Ive been feeling the same way. Thank you for sharing.
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Reality sometimes does not live up to the fantasy, you need to be certain in your mind you want to get close and personal with another man.
Do you want to hold his cock in your hand, cares his balls and him to do the same to you
Are you willing to take his cock in your mouth and him to take yours.
Do you want him to fuck you and you to fuck him
and what about kissing another guy
If the desire is deep for any of these then try it,
Do you want to hold his cock in your hand, cares his balls and him to do the same to you
Are you willing to take his cock in your mouth and him to take yours.
Do you want him to fuck you and you to fuck him
and what about kissing another guy
If the desire is deep for any of these then try it,
Truer words were never spoken. Something I consider all the time. When I'm out and about, I would pick a guy out of a crowd and ask myself. "would you?" most of the time it ranges from no, maybe, not sure. When I'm watching a gay porn, I'm all into it. In reality, not so sure. Saw an effeminate male a while ago and had a very positive reaction to his presence so maybe that's what I'll look for.
Adam, Nikki---have you taken that step? Just asking. Hope all is well with you both......
Things are so different now. The internet was so basic when I was in my early 20's, when these feelings/desires were starting to fully manifest. There was no easy way to watch a movie, to minimally understand the basics. And.....there was nowhere near as much openness.
Not sure if this is all for the best. I can imagine that my fantasies were much stronger, more special. They weren't as easily satiated visually.
Not sure if this is all for the best. I can imagine that my fantasies were much stronger, more special. They weren't as easily satiated visually.
I was in my mid-40's and involuntarily celibate in my collapsing marriage. I had a few discrete affairs with married women I worked with but such things get complicated by emotional entanglements, jealous husbands and office rumor mills. I was very frustrated and bitter about having to return to the sexual outlet of my adolescence after my wife and kids were asleep. I watched a lot of porn for inspiration and although I initially tried to deny it to myself, I had to accept that I was turned on by guys sucking each other. The forbidden and purely hedonistic act of two men getting together and pleasuring each other was something I wanted to experience. I loved oral sex and my then wife seemed to take pleasure in making sure I didn't get it. I wanted to find a guy and take turns giving each other what we wanted.
I came to the realization that I wanted to stop fantasizing about it and make it happen. I didn't want to spend the rest of my life wondering what it would have been like to experience. I placed a totally honest ad on CL (it wasn't as crazy then) explaining that I had no same sex experience and wanted to find another married guy who would be willing to help me experience taking turns sucking each other off.
Long story short, a perfect candidate responded. I was filled with nervous trepidation as I pressed the button for his door bell. When I heard the sounds of the door being unlocked I realized I was about to be face to face with a man who knew about my secret urge to perform oral sex on another guy.
He invited me in--he was a very good looking athletically built man with an easy manner. He had had his first experience six months before and understood my situation. We talked for thirty minutes about a subject I had never been able to discuss with anyone before and then he asked if I was ready to go through with it. I was.
I followed him into the living room and we proceeded to get undressed. He was down to just his underwear and I knelt down and took hold of the elastic waist band and proceeded to unveil what I couldn't wait to see. It was truly a beautiful sight to behold - and much bigger than what I was expecting. Nevertheless, I attacked with gusto and choked, gagged, and slobbered my way as my fantasy became reality. The experience was so intense it made me dizzy and I came spontaneously from the experience. I recovered quickly and he reciprocated skillfully - and I wish I had given to him what he did for me.
When it was over and I was driving away thinking about what I had just done, I was glad that I had no regrets as I replayed in my mind what had occurred.
I came to the realization that I wanted to stop fantasizing about it and make it happen. I didn't want to spend the rest of my life wondering what it would have been like to experience. I placed a totally honest ad on CL (it wasn't as crazy then) explaining that I had no same sex experience and wanted to find another married guy who would be willing to help me experience taking turns sucking each other off.
Long story short, a perfect candidate responded. I was filled with nervous trepidation as I pressed the button for his door bell. When I heard the sounds of the door being unlocked I realized I was about to be face to face with a man who knew about my secret urge to perform oral sex on another guy.
He invited me in--he was a very good looking athletically built man with an easy manner. He had had his first experience six months before and understood my situation. We talked for thirty minutes about a subject I had never been able to discuss with anyone before and then he asked if I was ready to go through with it. I was.
I followed him into the living room and we proceeded to get undressed. He was down to just his underwear and I knelt down and took hold of the elastic waist band and proceeded to unveil what I couldn't wait to see. It was truly a beautiful sight to behold - and much bigger than what I was expecting. Nevertheless, I attacked with gusto and choked, gagged, and slobbered my way as my fantasy became reality. The experience was so intense it made me dizzy and I came spontaneously from the experience. I recovered quickly and he reciprocated skillfully - and I wish I had given to him what he did for me.
When it was over and I was driving away thinking about what I had just done, I was glad that I had no regrets as I replayed in my mind what had occurred.
Thanks for sharing. My first experience was very similar. I was so nervous....but when I took that hard, throbbing cock in my mouth...it felt and tasted so damn good....like the most natural thing in the world.........I felt peace and contentment..........loved every minute of it since.........Peace.
Has it been six months yet? In other words, are you ready to "pay it forward"?
Nope not yet. Thinking of hiring an escort or male erotic massage therapist and get the jitters outta the way.
