When a guy says "Buddy"

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  1. Panthology

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    What does it mean when a guy calls you buddy? For instance I'm gay and sometimes when I see guys that I know or even barely know. They call me buddy and I know that it could just mean friend or acquaintance or something, but it's just a weird feeling like it's not always just that. Like it means something more sometimes? I could be wrong. I just wanted to know. :confused:
     
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    I guess it depends on that "thingamajiggy whacha call it" (when you get the meaning from the moment or from the rest of the words-like?)...

    Anyway, when I use it (as in "Hey bud, can you frekin' move your car a lil faster??) it's hardly complimentary, but WAY nicer than "asshole".
     
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    It's just a common expression/title. I get stuff like buddy,boss,dude, ect.
     
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    haha okay thanks.
     
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    I get the "buddy" thing sometimes. It does sometimes feel belittling. Like, sometimes it seems like a taller dude or heavier set guy will call me "buddy."
     
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    It depends on the context. Buddy can be a term of endearment. I have several friends who call me buddy. On the other hand, it can be totally condescending. It really depends on who is saying it, your relationship with him, etc.
     
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    Buddy, Mate, Pal, Fella, Man, Dude etc, its all good. In my old village, everybody called each other 'Duck' ,males. females, it went with the turf. As In " Hi Duck", moved to another town 45 miles away its " Hi Cock". go figure...
     
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    I've always heard a "good buddy" is one that goes out and gets two blow jobs then comes back and gives you one! :tongue:
     
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    In Nottingham (as in the Forest of, and the Sheriff of,) they tend to call each other "Ducky." At least, they did when I was there 20 years ago.
     
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    If you live in Matt Stone and Trey Parker's version of Canada, it does not indicate friendly intent.

    Terrance: Don't call me a rat, buddy!

    Stephen Abootman: I'm not your buddy, friend!

    Phillip: He's not your friend, guy!

    Stephen Abootman: I'm not your guy, buddy!

    Terrance: He's not your buddy, friend!

    Stephen Abootman: I'm not your friend, guy!​

    --South Park, "Canada on Strike"
     
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    hmmm I always wondered the same thing when another called me "big guy"
     
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    All i know, is that if i hear the term of endearment "buddy"....a hook up ain't 'a happening.
    All of my straight friends (some of whom are slightly more affectionate than others) use the terms bud, or buddy.
    If i hear it from them or an acquaintance or someone i've just met, i get the strong impression of "dude'siness" or "total straight guy"....hence the 'no hooking up'.
    Well, in my experiences anyway...
     
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    When a guy says it to me, I feel that he is distancing himself from me.
     
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    Most likely it means that person doesn't think you're too heavy to carry. :smile:
     
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    Prolly because you dont have enough of an alpha male mindset. I bet you rarely use the phrase in return. I used to think the same way, I changed my ways of thinking by reading psychology & pop psychology,

    They are calling you 'buddy' as an equal with no sexual connotation. Like anyone would talk to their father or brother.
     
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    They use "Pet" in the North East of England.

    I'm OK with "Mate", but I know some gay men who aren't.
     
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    I'm short and look younger than I am... I get called buddy all the time. I feel its a standard term for a young guy without having to say 'kid' or 'sir'.
     
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    It means he wants to fuck you, of course. Or your girlfriend. Or your boyfriend. Or both of you.
     
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    Just don't address a French person that way, at least not if you want to seem friendly. The homophonous word in French means "fart."
     
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    Completely off topic, Le Petomane.
     
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