When a man refuses to move on from you when you have.

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I'm curious of anyone of the other side of the coin what it is like to be through and done with someone who you regrettably had a relationship with who you never want to see again, when that person you suddenly cut ties with just can't let go.

The worst relationship splits are the no explanation, discontinue contact from the other variety. It seems outlandish to pull this when a relationship is many years, not just weeks or even months old. I read about them far too often - but only from the one being ghosted, and never the angle from the perpetrator.

A common theme I see - me included - is the age gap is just too great for it to work, and the younger one wants more to explore in life, so he does.
 

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Been through this. One guy I've been with in the past (were BFs then casual FWBs) for over a year and half. Things ended when he moved away for work opportunities, (this was during the first lockdown) and after he met somebody new that he started an open relationship with, he moved back to try and get me involved. I'm very monogamy-oriented, so when he asked for me to see him, with or without his partner, he got mad when I refused and started berating me while also still trying to get me to see him again. It eventually got so bad I had to permanently block him from everything.

I don't regret having spent time with him though, I think what we had was decent, albeit not ideal. Also in this situation, he was the older one. It just really angered me when he wouldn't respect my space and decisions after he already met somebody new, and I was perfectly fine just being by myself. Ultimately, our needs become very different and he wouldn't see that.

I can agree that the relationships where you're the one ghosted really sucks, especially they've gone for months or even years. It just leaves you frozen and wondering what went wrong forever, making it hard to find closure. Thats why I'd never ghost anyone, and make my intentions clear even if I risk getting a negative response. It's the responsible adult thing to do, but anyone who's ghosted me would never be deserving of that respect IMO.
 

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In most relationships, there's often one who wants to get out of the relationship and the other who gets blindsided.

Ways in which people get out of a one sided relationship:

1. It's not you, it's me - yes, this old chestnut. Talking your way out is probably the most mature way to end a relationship but might not be a good idea if your partner is a psycho or you have no balls.

2. Ghosting, but not in a Patrick Swayze kind of way - Your partner comes home to find half of everything missing and finds your phone and social media blocked. A good option if your partner is a psycho or you have no balls.

3. Cake and eat it - This is where you enjoy having your partner pay half the rent, clean the toilet and suck your dick while you are having a real relationship with Jim from Marketing. Is there something worse than having no balls?

4. It's not me, it's you - this is where you tell your partner that you should have an open relationship (or a baby or any other life changing thing he doesn't want). When he refuses and angrily storms out, you can shrug and tell all your friends about how unreasonable your partner was.