When a Top Meets a Top...

[italiancollegeboy]

So, I've gone out on dates with 5 or 6 guys this year and ended up dating one of them for four months. Having that first date is exciting, but always a little bit awkward as you're getting to know one another, seeing what the other person is like. So far when I've flirted with guys and later end up in the bedroom with them, things just happen to work out: I'm a top and he's a bottom. We didn't talk about it previously, but it just so happened that it worked out this way. So, that leads me to two questions:

How do you sense that the other guy is a top/bottom (without explicitly asking)?

What happens when two guys start dating, get to the bedroom and find out they're both tops (or both bottoms)?

 

[D_CountdeGrandePinja]

BEST advise - T A L K - why not know before hand, especially if it's someone you are hoping to date or a possible LTR - and not just a one-night stand!
Hope you don't mind my words - BUT - you asked for ideas.

 

[Countryguy63]

Luckily intercourse isn't even close to the only fun that you can have :biggrin1:

Two tops can still have lot's of touching and body contact. Mutual jacking, nipple play, and oral feels awesome!! :naughty:

 

[MrGoodDate]

Don't have a problem... I am a male and love the females.

 

[hunkydory]

When you are kissing him give his ass a squeeze - you can tell a lot by his response. I have done this often.

 

[hrdhatdad]

I just take it for granted that they are a bottom or versatile. I'm more than willing to mess around with another top but I rarely meet one.

 

[tominatlanta]

Not always but:

1) eye contact : does he glance at you and then look down demurely , or does he stare at you without blinking - you do the math on this one

2) does he put his arm around you or does he sort of scooch up against your crotch and then put YOUR arm around him (this is me - I guess I am a Power Bottom)

tom

 

[erratic]

I dunno about where you come from, but in my neck of the woods (and in my age range) people rarely identify as 100% top or bottom. Guys will say what they prefer to do, but most are more than happy to switch things up.

And, like Countryguy said, there's a whole world of possibilities out there. You don't have to put your dick in a butt to have great sex.

 

[Infernal]

If neither is willing to be the slightest bit versatile, then you spend a lot of time perfecting your oral technique.... or find a bottom to share.

 

[B_thickjohnny]

I've been in bed with a guy who's just as eager to bottom as I am. It looks like fucking synchronized swimming in the bed with those legs pointing to the ceiling and no one wanting to switch.

 

[D_22]

I was talking with a dude for a while and things seem to really start to get a bit serious, but then we had the sex talk. I was still sorta new to everything then the whole "top or bottom" thing became an issue because neither of us wanted to bottom. Me, I felt we could have fun and continue talking and do other things that didn't concern with one of us having to bottom, but he wouldn't have it and just dropped it. That really pissed me off. We've played around here and there since then, but not crossing that line.

I'm at a point where I'm actually interested in being verse and won't be into someone who isn't the same.

 

[prince_will]

When you are kissing him give his ass a squeeze - you can tell a lot by his response. I have done this often.

I'm curious. What can you tell from his response?

 

[D_Bubba_Butter]

Two tops are only produced in high energy proton-antiproton collisions, but display a degree of asymmetry that may be explained by the presence of something like axigluons, diquarks or further dimensions.

 

[houtx48]

Don't have a problem... I am a male and love the females.[/QUOTE
Shakes head..............

 

[Yankee82]

Does not happen, as a very dominant top I know right away, if he is going to be submissive to me! I fuck pussy more than guys, however I have turned numerous married guys into bottoms for me. When I see a guy at the gym coming on me, I check his ass first! I like a nice beefy ass, has to be plumb, and if I want it, I start the conversation, usually very quickly I bring up my intentions of fucking him! And when I do couples, I tell them that I will fuck his wife he watches, however I tell him that if his naked ass is there in front of my hard dick that I will eat his ass too, and show him the pleasure of fucking with a big dick! However mostly married guys that want to have another guy with his wife wants dick himself, or he his a cockhold with a small dick and gets turned on knowing that a real man is taking his wife! Most guys see my cock and want to jack me ooze suck me ow feel me, and on all of them, they end up getting fucked by me, it is what I do, Even dominant guys try to pick me up, I tell them I am after their ass to be used as a pussy! It is up to them, if they want to continue to meet with me! However I will say that I think my dominant trait shows a lot from the beginning and they are attractive to me. I fuck pussy and ass, it is all about fucking for me! It seems these guys who want to be fucked behind close doors, submissively, without there wives, gf's or even male partners knowing, I have fucked guys, who say they are the top in their relationship, but they need their ass taken care of too! So for me it is about fucking holes' I fuck more girls than guys, however I fuck a lot of guys! My cock is conditioned to holes!

 

[mikeyinbrooklyn]

In my discussions with other guys, I find there are very few strict tops or bottoms. Some yes, but not many. Most guys have a preference, though. I am BLV (bottom leaning versatile). I also have never hooked up after interrogating a guy about what his bedroom intentions are. You just proceed there and proceed. I am not frequently anal on a first experience with a guy, regardless. You make out and things go where they go. If the only thing a dude liked to do in the bedroom is top, he is probably an awful lover, no matter how hot he looked or big his dick was. Let's kiss, suck, lick, tickle, wrestle, caress, etc. Of course fucking ain't bad either, but it's not everything.

 

[Exbiker]

Naked wrestling can sort it out.

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