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What happened technically is not unusual but the way he handled it sure was. It actually sounds more like he is fetishy about it. It's obvious when he asked you if you liked it. I am not sure why you said it didn't bother you and WHY did you wash his ass for him?? I would get some advice on how to handle that in the future because you didn't take control of the situation at all.
 
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That's fucking nasty, dude! Haha I always wondered about that. Personally, all I have done is bottom, but when I am going to have sex, I shoot soap and water up there and keep running until there is nothing. I'd be embarrassed if I ever got shit on someone's dick. I'd feel terrible.
 

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What happened technically is not unusual but the way he handled it sure was. It actually sounds more like he is fetishy about it. It's obvious when he asked you if you liked it. I am not sure why you said it didn't bother you and WHY did you wash his ass for him?? I would get some advice on how to handle that in the future because you didn't take control of the situation at all.

Yep! You're right. I should have handled it differently. I didn't. Maybe the reason why I opened up about it here. When he didn't get in the shower on his own, I told him to come jump in with me. He just stood there so I soaped him up and washed him - even his ass which, guess what, still had shit in the crack!

Here's his deal: 25 year old Vietnamese kid raised in the US. Maybe he's looking for a daddy figure. IT'S NOT ME! I don't do "daddy" well at all.

Anyway, not sure this will happen again because of this. If he wants to come over, fine, but I'll definitely say something before bedtime.
 

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What would you do if the guy you're stomach deep in is dirty? I mean, dirty!

Last night I was with this cute guy and we got into it. I put on a condom and got to it. A few minutes into it I noticed the smell. I pulled out to shit everywhere. All over the condom, on my pubic bone and the sheets. I took off the condom and went to the bathroom and washed off. I went back and he was just lying there and wanted me to go back! I said no and he asked me if it turned me off. I said no but I'm not going back there. He never got up to even wash his ass until I said let's jump in the shower and I WASHED his ass.

WTF is up with that? Was it a youth thing (he's 25)? Or just stupidity?
Definitely a youth thing. Only young people have shit in their ass.
 

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Hey, not to spoil the bitch-fest or anything, but did it occur to anyone that a rectum is generally going to contain fecal matter?

I mean, filth between the buttocks would be pretty unhygienic, but once one begins sticking things inside rectums, it is unreasonable to think that there won't be fecal matter exposure. Only with meticulous and quite uncomfortable cleansing can one remove fecal matter from the anus...and very few people do this habitually.

What I suspect though is that perhaps just inexperience, not knowing that sometimes anal sex, if you have "one one the way" can cause premature movements down there..
 

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Fortune cookie - "If you hang around a barber shop long enough sooner or later you will end up with a haircut."
I think it applies here.
 

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No, sorry, disagree Ironlion. I'm more of a bottom and while there have been times when I thought I was good to go and there was poop on the pole, it was NEVER EVER like this. I'm sure others will agree that it does happen but when you go somewhere and your intent is to get fucked, you make the effort to evacuate your bowels and clean. He clearly knew what was up. He initiated the date and he initiated the sex and asked me to fuck him. I guess I should have asked if he was clean and "good to go" but I presumed that he came over prepared for the inevitable. His actions following that were either fetishy or immature.
 

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And he disgusted you that much that you let him stay the night anyway? lol :biggrin1:

Not everyone preps their ass on a daily basis with an enema/douche just on the off chance they may get a cock up there. If you met him somewhere & he was a total random then you can't really expect him to be clean as a whistle...

Unfortunately it is one of those things that happens, shit comes out of your ass, so if a cock goes up there you always risk there still being a trace, especially if sex is a random 'spur of the moment' thing & not a planned 'session'...

I have to agree with you.:smile:
 

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I think I said that he didn't TOTALLY disgust me! Where are you reading that? I find that shit to this degree to be disgusting but it happens and you move on. What I found worthy of writing about was his nonchalant attitude about it. As I said, I would have been apologizing and jumping in the shower and apologizing more. He did nothing but lay there and then had the nerve to ask me if I wanted to put on another condom and go at it again. Ok, that's disgusting!
 

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I think we've beat a dead horse with this thread. He seems like he had a bit of a fetish, or thought you might not care..either way, you both found out. To each his own.
 

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He may be into a fetish of some kind. there are all kinds of people and some get off on this. At 25 I can't see it as being that he is young. His laying there after and still dirty says that he was getting off on it some how. The fact that he then had you wash him also says he may have been doing a fetish kink thing where he was seeing you as the Daddy and he was the young son who couldn't do for himself.


My only question here is why was he still there in the morning and was he actually in bed with you the whole night? WTH?

My first impulse after that happened and then his behavior of not cleaning up would be to have him leave. If you felt he needed to stay the night because it was late then he should have been in a different room in a different bed but really you should have had him leave.
The bolded part was what would have pissed me off. Accidents happen sometimes. Hell Even with meticulous clean out, and knowing your body and healthy diet, there are times when things get ta moving and maybe you are going to have some shit on a dick (hopefully not a lot). That said Dear GOD! Fucking be the one to jump up, apologize, clean yourself up, and apologize again! If he had done that, I think then your letting him stay, would have made sense.
And he disgusted you that much that you let him stay the night anyway? lol :biggrin1:

Not everyone preps their ass on a daily basis with an enema/douche just on the off chance they may get a cock up there. If you met him somewhere & he was a total random then you can't really expect him to be clean as a whistle...

Unfortunately it is one of those things that happens, shit comes out of your ass, so if a cock goes up there you always risk there still being a trace, especially if sex is a random 'spur of the moment' thing & not a planned 'session'...
True enough, but most people would not lay there in filth (it was ON THE SHEETS as well!) and then not only NOT take the initiative to clean themselves, but shunt the responsibility off onto the partner (the whole, wash my shitty ass for me thing)
EEEEeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. That is all kinds of nasty.

I don't think it's an age thing. It sounds to me like he a) has no idea what's going on inside his body (seriously, wouldn't you know if you had that much shit in your colon?), and b) he has some kind of horrific diet.
I don't knos if it is an age thing or what. Maybe an experience thing. Again, the reaction (or lack of) after the poofest, on the part of the kid, is what is out of the ordinary.
Firstly, he didn't totally disgust me to the point where I would tell him to leave. He did ask me if it was a turn off and I did say no - because it's not a turn off to "accidentally" have this happen. It didn't occur to me until later that maybe it was a fetish thing. I washed up and went back to bed and enjoyed kissing him but I was not going back to his ass, period. Now, if he asks to come by again, I'll mention it. I think then I'll bring up that if he expects me to top him, he'll need to be sure he's spotlessly clean or don't bother.

Oh, and I wanted to mention that on a few other occasions with young guys, their asses aren't always clean - I mean smelling of something. Like BatmaninRobin mentioned, sweat but in some cases like they just didn't do a good enough job of wiping. In another thread it's discussed about how we clean our asses. I thought I was the only nut job who cleaned himself squeaky clean each and every time.
I have unfortunately experienced this with young, mature, gay, bi and "straight". Some people just do not believe in cleaning properly. Ugh! Now freash sweat (they were freshly showered and went for a run and then we got into sex) I have no issue with, and really can be intoxicating. Stale, nasty, all day body funk? BARF!
lol oh man, the turmoil of gay sex.... i for one find the smell/sight/feel of shit a 100% turnoff, especially since I don't use a condom (committed, monogomous relationship of 5 years, tested, etc...) and that bacteria cas cause an infection.

my man is really good about keeping clean, and all i need to do is ask "Good to go?" and he knows what it means. he's always honest if he's not good to go, which i appreciate.

but this one time, lol... oh my god... we had broken up for a year and incidentally it was better that we each got to experience (safe) sex with other people. when we got back together, our first sexual reconnections were oral and manual, and it wasn't until a week or so later that we got back into the SWING of things. i forget now if i even asked if he was good to go, but he was. not. lol i didn't even feel it i was so sexually excited (and emotionally. i had MISSED him!!) but as soon as the smell hit me, i pulled out and same as you, it was all the way up to my pubic bone, in my pubic hair, ugh... not on the sheets though, i think we saved them lol

i just remember being respectfully grossed out, running to the shower, and laughing it off later :) it's not like it was a 1-night thing, if you can't laugh with your partner about this kinda stuff, who CAN you laugh ab it with? also, i'm a Top so I've never been the dirty one, but once when I was sick (and naked) i pooped on the bed a little, so he's seen ME in some embarassing situations too I guess lol

oh my.
LOL! You seem to have the right attitude! more people should be like you!
Wouldn't the proper thing to do be, if you notice thing are heating up, excuse yourself, go in the bathroom and clean as best you can. Especially if this is a spur of the moment thing. It is possible to get clean without an enema or douche. It's a lot of work, but possible and Im sure the top would appreciate it. Thats why you always keep baby wipes on hand. Preferably un-scented.
Naturally, if you are going out and expect something to happen, the definitely clean well before hand.
The situation you described is not a youth thing just bad hygiene. You are good one for showering with him and washing his ass.
That would have been the thing to do, but obviously this kid is either way naive or way into scat...
What happened technically is not unusual but the way he handled it sure was. It actually sounds more like he is fetishy about it. It's obvious when he asked you if you liked it. I am not sure why you said it didn't bother you and WHY did you wash his ass for him?? I would get some advice on how to handle that in the future because you didn't take control of the situation at all.
Agree 100%!
Yep! You're right. I should have handled it differently. I didn't. Maybe the reason why I opened up about it here. When he didn't get in the shower on his own, I told him to come jump in with me. He just stood there so I soaped him up and washed him - even his ass which, guess what, still had shit in the crack!

Here's his deal: 25 year old Vietnamese kid raised in the US. Maybe he's looking for a daddy figure. IT'S NOT ME! I don't do "daddy" well at all.

Anyway, not sure this will happen again because of this. If he wants to come over, fine, but I'll definitely say something before bedtime.
I still do not know why you are entertaining the thought of a second go round!:eek:
Definitely a youth thing. Only young people have shit in their ass.
:rolleyes: Ummmm again i would say it is an experience thing...but whatever...
Sometimes so much that it spills out of the top end, too.
:biggrin1::lmao:
Hey, not to spoil the bitch-fest or anything, but did it occur to anyone that a rectum is generally going to contain fecal matter?

I mean, filth between the buttocks would be pretty unhygienic, but once one begins sticking things inside rectums, it is unreasonable to think that there won't be fecal matter exposure. Only with meticulous and quite uncomfortable cleansing can one remove fecal matter from the anus...and very few people do this habitually.

What I suspect though is that perhaps just inexperience, not knowing that sometimes anal sex, if you have "one one the way" can cause premature movements down there..
Yeah we get that, but again the reaction of the kid was...odd...to say the least.
Wow. I have only been fucked 2 times, in December and January and cleaned out both times before hand. And my partner and I had a great experience and nothing dirty at all.
I have a feeling that even if something happened you would have laughed. apologized, and cleaned yourself and your parter off. You srtike me as very conscientious. Always have. :smile:
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I think it applies here.
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No, sorry, disagree Ironlion. I'm more of a bottom and while there have been times when I thought I was good to go and there was poop on the pole, it was NEVER EVER like this. I'm sure others will agree that it does happen but when you go somewhere and your intent is to get fucked, you make the effort to evacuate your bowels and clean. He clearly knew what was up. He initiated the date and he initiated the sex and asked me to fuck him. I guess I should have asked if he was clean and "good to go" but I presumed that he came over prepared for the inevitable. His actions following that were either fetishy or immature.
Yep.
 

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Here's his deal: 25 year old Vietnamese kid raised in the US. Maybe he's looking for a daddy figure. IT'S NOT ME! I don't do "daddy" well at all.
[\QUOTE]not sure what you are driving at here. Is this supposed to be because he's Vietnamese or because he was raised in the U.S.? What does that have to do with him being clean or not or his laying there in the filth afterwards while you cleaned yourself up?



Anyway, not sure this will happen again because of this. If he wants to come over, fine, but I'll definitely say something before bedtime.

In other words for all your bluster it didn't really bother you all that much.
 

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UPDATE: this guy is asking to come spend the weekend and to make things clear I told him that he's welcome to come over but if he is interested in bottoming he needs to be squeaky clean. He apologized and told me that his ex loved dirty sex and that he didn't think about it. I said, it's not my thing in any way shape or form so if there will be any sex it will be clean sex. So it was deliberate! yuck!
 

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UPDATE: this guy is asking to come spend the weekend and to make things clear I told him that he's welcome to come over but if he is interested in bottoming he needs to be squeaky clean. He apologized and told me that his ex loved dirty sex and that he didn't think about it. I said, it's not my thing in any way shape or form so if there will be any sex it will be clean sex. So it was deliberate! yuck!

Erm, you must be more forgiving than me. If there was that kind of shit ass nasty coming out, and he didn't even bother to get up, ah, no, I would have shown him the door, and not ever invited him back.
 

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UPDATE: this guy is asking to come spend the weekend and to make things clear I told him that he's welcome to come over but if he is interested in bottoming he needs to be squeaky clean. He apologized and told me that his ex loved dirty sex and that he didn't think about it. I said, it's not my thing in any way shape or form so if there will be any sex it will be clean sex. So it was deliberate! yuck!

All I can say is...

You sure do like to learn some gross things the hard way don't you? May as well give this guy a key to your apartment because even talking to him after the fact makes you look extremely tolerant of this behavior. Wonder what else he has up his sleeve for you?