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Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by luka82, Mar 9, 2011.
What was that defining moment when you said: "I`m a grown up, now"!
I became a man at around age 15, I would say. I became a woman after first hearing about that fabulous drag club behind the kebab house.
It hasn't happened yet.
Same here honestly. This is the one time I wish I were Jewish lol. They have a ceremony where loved ones acknowledge that a person has reached that level of (wo)manliness. What does everyone else get? A driver's license lol? Perhaps when puberty hits is when a person becomes a (wo)man.
I honestly don't recall there ever being a defining moment.
Well the relevant moment for this forum was when I was swimming at the Y with a friend - we must have both been about 14 - and when we were changing he took one look at my cock and said "Oh my god, that's huge!"
Not sure it was really true - he just hadn't gotten into the gonad growth part of puberty yet...a late bloomer - but I certainly felt like "hm, OK, things are different."
When I really felt like a grown up in real life? The first time I drove my own car to a job (I was 22). I still lived with my parents, but I felt like real life was really starting at that point.
I think that there are many moments in the different stages of our lives that lead to a final defining moment. The first for me was moving away from home and being responsible for my own bills, health and well being. The final moment was after my parents passed away and I did not have anyone to call to help me when I screwed up.
For me it was probably after my first children were born. I just stepped back and looked at my life realizing that I have a wife, children, job, bills and I am taking care of all of it. I truly felt like a grown-up then.
I think this is a good observation.
Some people just grow up, others have defining moments.:wink:
My mum congratulated me on becoming a woman when I started menstruating. It certainly didn't feel that way!
I'm now 26 and started to feel more like a woman than a girl gradually over the last 5 years. There have been small steps that have built up the feeling.
I'm definitely a woman now but can't but my finger on when it happened.
I think people often separate girl/boy to woman/man based on physical and psychological development so it's really subjective.
After the nightmare years taking care of my brother ended, went things got "stable" enough, i felt quite different after, i think that was the moment