This thread is not intended to be about when you lost your virginity but rather when you lost your childhood. Many boys never truly shed their childhoods which I think is a modern day travesty and becoming a man is oftentimes a difficult road that we need to find for ourselves or are forced into like having a kids, marriage, having parents die, or being financially independent. We no longer have any truly meaningful rites of passage from being a boy to becoming a man. Bar Mitzvahs, confirmation and loosing one's virginity all are rites but you can still be a boy at heart and go thru these experiences. Does becoming a man just happen these days? I can pinpoint the experience- my rite of passage - when I became a man and lost my childhood. I was 16, in the Boy Scouts, and went hiking up in the Northern Sierras to a summit next to our camp with 3 younger scouts leaving the rest of the troop behind at camp. Long story short, what was to be a 2 hour hike turned into a 9 hour ordeal. We got lost coming down the summit and could not find our camp. But I found the way back using the terrain map and a crude compass on a keychain and everything I learned about wilderness survival. I basically was responsible for the 3 younger scounts who were looking for me to get us back to camp. It was after nightfall when we returned, cold and hungry and the experience made for great campfire stories. It was a frieghtening experience but somehow I had changed. It no longer was only about me, and the feeling that I had the power to go it alone and to change things became internalized, a feeling deep down that I wasn't a boy anymore. I'm interested in hearing other men's experiences on becoming a man. It's something we rarely talk about anymore but important we keep alive.