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I knew since I was 13 but I had come out after I graduated from college.
Well- I have a different scenario- I'm only just coming out now... at age 25... after lots of reltionships with girls, I've jsut come to like guys more over the years- since about 20.
I think it's always been there, but i never really went with it, wanted to, until now. With being gay, are all the difficulties of realising having a family of your own isn't such a strightforeward process- and the possibility thats it just wont happen is ominous- and not nice for me.
I love kids, coming from a big family with many cousins, step bros and sisters of all ages, and having a family has always been something at the forefront of my mind, as direction for my life... and I still like the idea of having a relationship with one woman too- I can still fall in love with a woman, but just don't have the sexual attraction there...
I still get confused with the spectrum of relationships- 'love'- and find that it's just best not to delve too deeply into it and jsut keep it simple and go with what feels good.
I guess I've come to terms with the fact that family may or may not happen, but that it's STILL a possibility.
Right now I'm focussing on a career that makes me happy, and when I'm there, I'm sure other things- priorities- will fall into place...
It's a nice feeling to be 'out' though- def feels good![]()
I hold out hope for I too love children, but at my age every day counts against that happening.
don't be so sure...I actually have a much older cousin who never had any kids until the ripe old age of 72...this was about 5 years ago & he had a set of twins with his much younger gf...
I think I've always pretty much accepted it. There was no particular age where I had that "eureka" moment.
I had Charlie's Angels posters and the quintessential Farrah Fawcett poster above my bed.
:biggrin1: I had Farrah posters all over my room too. I guess I liked her beauty. I would be surprised if any straight guys had Farrah posters all over their walls.
You know what though? Be grateful that you're not my age and just realizing what you are now. Having fallen in love with one woman and two men, I think I'm just discovering that I may not ever love another woman again. It's frightening and confusing at the same time. It's also liberating in a way though I don't know that's truly any consolation.
I am, however, extraordinarily happy that you can even think of having a child. This was something unheard of just a few short years ago. I hold out hope for I too love children, but at my age every day counts against that happening.