When did you know?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by jeff black, Mar 15, 2006.

  1. jeff black

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    To all the people in the forum... this question may have been done... but I didn't want to look :rolleyes: .

    I have been talking to a few people lately (gay, bi, and straight) about the time when they realized they were the sexual orientation they are now. I guess this is more aimed at people who are gay and bi.. but I am sure that some straight people in here may have thought about homosexuality and some homosexuals who have thought about heterosexuality.

    So if you are comfortable sharing... When did you realize that you were the sexual orientation you are now??:cool:
     
  2. GoneA

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    despite my sincerest efforts, i think i'm still straight :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:
     
  3. jeff black

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    Don't fret GoneA... it happens to the best of us:biggrin1:
     
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    Hindsight is usually 20-20, I guess. I knew that I was different when I was 8 or 9. Other boys would giggle and give attention to naked paintings of women in art books whereas I preferred to look at photos of Michelangelo's David.

    I realised that I found men and other boys sexy at the age of 10 when in a communal changing room for swimming I got erect and felt faint and breathless at seeing so many naked teenagers and men.

    In my early teens I hoped that my gayness was just a phase that I'd grow out of. (It was a criminal offence in the UK until I was out of my teens). By the time I was 16, I was sure and totally convinced that I was gay.

    Then women tried to "change" me. I enjoyed the occasional blowjob or fuck with women but it wasn't as good as the "real" thing for me.

    Hindsight tells me that I really knew at 10 yrs old.
     
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    Puberty, so like 12.

    There was never any question for me for one second.
     
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    Ditto. It took me a years before I was OK with that, but I knew who I was attracted to from puberty.
     
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    I looked at guys when I was growing up but I thought everyone did. I dated women and had an active sex life with them. I had my first experience with a guy when I was 19. He was a friend of mine and we had the whole "I think I might be Bi" talk. We sucked each other's dicks and it was disgusting. I figured I must be straight. Right before I turned 22, I met a guy at the beach. He was 29 and hot as hell. That night he lit my M4M fuse. He was the right guy. It was all downhill from there.

    So I guess it didn't really hit me until I was 21.
     
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    oh that was you....


    (no really Sorcerer, lolol, have you considered writing for playboy or something like that - they'd pay you good money to put on paper the sexual trashy-talk that goes on in your head :tongue:)
     
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    I'm sure that homosexuality has a lot to do with who we are as people and the things that we are exposed to when we are young. When I was young (geez, I must have been about 7 or 8 at the time), I was at a friend's house. We were playing hide-and-seek and inadvertantly stumbled onto his dad's nudie magazines. I think that event sealed the deal on my heterosexuality. On the flip side, one of my best friends was straight (or didn't know for sure) until we were in the seventh grade. (Disclaimer: if I sound either pompous or ignorant, I apologize.) In his case, he was raised mainly by his mother, and didn't really have a strong father figure in his life. I'm not saying that that was the determining factor, but I do feel that it may have had some influence. Overall, though, the important thing is that we are comfortable with who we are and not afraid to admit it. Happiness is key, and the easiest place to find happiness is in ourselves. I think that the sooner you can come to terms with who you are, the better. (Do I sound like I'm imitating Frasier?)
     
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    At some level, I think I always knew. I felt different than other boys, and I felt a sexual attraction from a young age, even before I really had a real clue. I had had a few breif encounters, the first of which I call my first time, despite the fact that it was only blowing my best friend, him zipping up and leaving, and then telling another homophobic friend who spread it around schooll:tongue:. I didn't accept ot for forever, though. I can still be aroused and find a beautiful woman attractive and sexually appealing and all, so I thought I was just wrong. But after being alone, totally alone, for 10 years, with only coworkers as any social outlet, I had a little breakdown, and finally accepted myself as I was. Once I finally accepted it, I felt alot better. My life didn;t really change, but I didn't carry that wieght around anymore. Eventually, I actually started dating. I had my first relationship, ever, at 31. It lasted for 4 and a half years, before him moving killed it. I've stayed on the gay side of the fence ever since.
     
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    Jeff, as we have discussed, this process of self-recognition is different for everyone. Some men know very early that they only like other men, some know and fight it, some don't realize it until well into adulthood.

    Lightning struck me a little over 2 years ago.
     
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    I knew in high school (about 15 yrs. old) but basically was asexual through college. I finally accepted my sexuality and had my first experience at around 23 or 24 yrs. old.
     
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    when i was about 11, i'm still straight and lovin it. as we get older we develop more, and as we explore we begin to know what we like and dislike.
     
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    Can't say I've ever had any doubt.

    Found some "Whitehouse" magazines of my dad's, back in the days of "tasteful" photoshoots, and brillo pad minge shots when I was about 6 yrs old, an innocent time of life when I'd nick me mum's tampax out of the box to play telescopes with the applicators....

    All the pics of nude ladies got me excited and I knew I wanted to see more right then, even if I had no real idea about sex. Few years later I went to an all boys school with communal showers and alot of "experimenting" lads. I never indulged, not out of repulsion, but because I couldn't see the attraction in men's bodies when there were women to play with instead.

    Since that time I've had many gay friends, been to gay clubs, adult events where gay and bi sex occurred in the open and obviously seen gay porn. Nothing about men has yet got a sexual reaction from me. Even the idea of mfm (or any other) threesomes is a dead duck for me.

    Guess I'm a boring old, traditional, one woman at a time heterosexual, but at least that leaves more ass out there for the guys that appreciate it.:wink:
     
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    Always known I was attracted to both women and men... playing drs and nurses made that clear. I have an awesome relationship with my wife and am a Dad, but only recently started experimenting with men... It's been incredible and liberating, expressing myself sexually with other guys but makes me uneasy coz I haven't told my partner. Not a guilt thing as much as a disapointment that I'm not able to share this part of myself with her. Know she's not ready for the "Hi Honey, how's your day? You know what...I'm bi!" chestnut.
     
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    I suppose I always knew that I was 90% straight. The most important realisation was that it is OK to have the other 10%...
     
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    Haha I hear you! I have hooking up with girls for as long as I can remember, I love it! A fairly recent drunk experience (a gay friend went down on me) has really opened the door on that side. I worry sometimes that I'm gay (though I know i shouldn't) but I feel confident I'm straight as women is all I go after...I just have realized sexuality refers to sex and penises can be sexy too! Who knows what the future holds, so just roll with it. I know I have a confident relationship with a girl, but I know male sexuality doesn't scare me (and I have a feeling the girl is ok with it! hahah)
     
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    Here's Gunther, coming out to his parents and enjoying his new life.
     
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    i didn't
     
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    I knew I liked other guys when I popped a prepubescent rod for my coach in the third grade.

    It's been all uphill since then.
     
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