When did you realise that the end of your penis was missing?

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  1. Drifterwood

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    I was just wondering while reading the everlasting cut/uncut debate, whether there is a moment that cut guys suddenly realise that someone has cut the end of their knob off?

    If so, do you remember your feelings about it?

    Mine's still in it's original wrapper btw, which is why I ask.
     
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    Here's how it more or less was for me. When I started trying to figure out circ I realized I had a truncated knowledge of male genitalia. I'm in the U.S., so my peers were also routinely circumcised, so I didn't even know anyone who was intact to find out where the stolen bits were originally attached or how or what their function may have been. All I knew was that my penis had been altered with a knife when I was born. I had mistakenly believed that this was normal. There was all kinds of pejorative words and nicknames for kids lucky enough to have escaped the knife, but they were just generally passed around because we didn't know anyone who actually had a foreskin. We were inculcated with strange health notions about the foreskin, again even though we didn't know anyone who had one. It really took me quite awhile to envision where the stolen bits were once attached or how. I finally figured this out in adulthood by looking at two friend's penises. One was much younger and hadn't been cut at birth as the trend is downward. Another is from Mexico. I was struck by how much redder and more vascular their penises are than the standard U.S. clip cock.

    When all was said and done I felt betrayed by my culture's disinformation campaign and angry that, of all things, a part of my penis was amputated. It turns out that all of my mom's brothers are intact, but they cut all their sons. So I'm the first generation cut on my mom's side, second on my dad's side. He was cut, but my grandfathers on both sides were not. I was ignorant of this fact until the last several years. Kind of a surprising discovery. As 80–85 percent of the world’s men have complete genitals, I could easily find pictures of intact men showing that they have a lot more skin on the penis and scrotum and everything moves more freely. I was cut so tight, I didn't know you could jerk off without Vaseline. I feel a loss and wanted to understand why such a thing was done to me. With difficulty I put the pieces of the puzzle together. I've long since abandoned a false pretense of superiority about being cut, knowing that my condition is one of inferiority.
     
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    I sure hope that you have sought out counselling or a self help group to get you past the betrayal and anger that you have experienced. One of my old girlfriends was traumatized when she found out that her mother pierced her ears when she was an infant. She grew up thinking that girls were born with holes in their ears and was really bitter for a long time because her mother had mutilated her.
     
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    No kidding. Did it affect her sexually?
     
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    Well, I suppose, not having a penis, I shouldn't answer this - but I do remember the first time I saw a cut penis I was extremely confused. It was about 2 years into my sexual experience and I'd heard of circumcision but never really given it a second thought. All the guys I'd been with had been uncut and that was what a cock looked like, as far as I was concerned. So when I was confronted with a 7" (at first) semi-hard cut cock my reaction was "what's wrong with it, it looks odd" - I didn't say anything out loud but I think my tentative actions must have been obvious because he asked me if I'd ever been with a cut guy - I heaved a huge sigh of relief and said, "Oh is that the difference? - fuck, I thought there was something wrong with you" then I got a fit of the giggles and he had to shut me up by sticking said 7" cut cock in my mouth - which was nice.


    Anytime you need a hand with that... :biggrin1:
     
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    Promises promises :rolleyes: :wink:
     
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    For me there was no sudden moment. I can vaguely remember my dad telling me what circumcision was and that it had been done to me but I was still pre-teen and I didn't understand it then. It was never discussed again with either parent. Later in my teen years I realized what it meant but it was a gradual realization so I can't pinpoint an exact year.

    In USA infant circumcision has been a secret that many don't want to talk about. It not unusual for guys to reach adulthood and not know they were cut! Some surveys have shown as many as 30% of 18 y/o's don't know! The secrecy is almost unbelievable. The internet is changing that. The internet is also helping to put an end to it.

    A few years ago I started doing foreskin restoration and I now have some inkling of what was guillotined away but I'll never know what it would have been like not to be cut.

    When I saw the title "When did you realise that the end of your penis was missing?" I knew instantly what it referred to but many others may think for a moment before they realize what it refers to. Some may have to read the O.P. before they know. Interesting title.
     
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    The end of my dick has not been cut off. My knob has not been mutilated.
    What was removed was my foreskin. I have no problems because of it. My head is not all callused. I don't have fissures, tags, or skin bridges. I have a healthy, happy penis that has provided me with hours of fun. I have quite a bit of feeling in it.

    I'm tired of being made to feel like I'm less of a man because my medical professional parents chose to circumcize me. For those who have such terrible emotional scars from being cut, I suggest counseling.
     
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    Good god, this is exactly what I wanted to say.

    I'm happy to be cut and anyone who thinks it better to have the fetid cheese collecting wrinkled skin at the end of their penis, then enjoy I guess. I'll go with hygene every time.
     
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    prepstudinsc, when did you realize your useless foreskin had been cut off? Hopefully you were told. So many guys were never told.

    Likewise, btrelll, when did you realize your "wrinkled skin" had been cut off?
     
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    I think I may be falling in love with you. :kiss:

    I'm cut (although it's really closer to being just more of a "trim"). I don't care. It's never bothered me, and I don't attach any thought or stigma to cut/uncut. I never really made an issue out of it. Until I found out what circumcision was, I just thought that different guys had different dicks, including how much/little of a foreskin that they had.
     
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    14th September 1986
     
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    Ignorant ass.
     
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    Drifterwood, try not to lower yourself to their level.
     
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    It never mattered to me. I never asked about it. All my friends were cut, all my family was cut, aside from my grandfather. The only uncut penis I ever saw was my grandfather's. I never gave much thought as to cut or uncut. In college, I saw porn that had uncut guys in it. That's when I realized that I like being cut.
     
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    The end of my penis is missing? That's the first I've heard of it! Thanks for the "tip."
     
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    That's what the rabbi's cat said, too. :tongue:
     
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    I was seven when my medical professional parents decided to have me circumcized.
    I have never felt the slightest trauma from this -- and anyone who does must wish to fertilize the sense of being a victim, imho.
    Counseling might not be a bad option.
    It's good to accept what is more or less irreversible.
    Especially if it makes basically no difference.
     
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    Rubi I'm sorry this happened to you. Notwishstanding your parents are medical professionals, there was probably no reason for it. At seven certainly it must have been traumatizing. You are often pretty insightful. I'm sure you would dislike perpetuating the notion that the middle part of the elastic skin system of the penis is completely dispensible. A notion that is unique among body parts. But then at the age of seven, you were not aware of the adult functions of your penis so I suppose it is possible that you really have no basis for evaluating the difference, just like all of us routinely cut at birth.
     
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    No, dxjnorto, there was a reason ... the foreskin was constantly cracking and becoming infected. (I had not been circumcized at birth because I was born prematurely.)
    Traumatizing? Well, I found the whole thing kind of exciting. Attention from nurses. Mommy visiting me in the hospital. Several days of ointment application.:cool:

    All I would say is:
    1) If it was damaging, I totally missed it.
    2) So many millions of men have been circumcized, and so few seem to carry a sense of trauma. It seems to me this is a very 'conceptual' trauma for those few who claim to feel it. (I have never heard anyone, in person, lamenting this particular form of disfigurement.)
    But why would one want to think about these things, blow on the embers of resentment, and create a sense of violation?
    I personally just don't get it.
     
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