When did you start finding the mom/dad hotter than the daughter/son?

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I had a little existential moment today when I found myself checking out some grade-A beefy dudes. More on that in a sec, but first, just a lil' bit about me.

I've always been primarily attracted to guys my own age or (reasonably) younger. I'm generally top-ish/dom, but also kinda vanilla I guess. I mean I think I'm fun, and I'm definitely sex-positive, but my point is that I've never had any special thing for older/bear/leather/daddy type scenarios.

But today it was hot and sunny and as I was leaving a park I found myself walking behind (trust me, it was obvious) a hot young dad, carrying a football, and his, I'd say 19 y/o, son and his son's friend. All 3 were wearing b-ball shorts and wife-beaters, looking very schlong-y, and suddenly I noticed that I was just not very interested in the kids. But I was totally scoping out the dad the whole time.

I'm 33, and I hope not to raise any controversy about age and what's too old/too young. That's totally not my point. It's just that, as I was checking out the dad, I suddenly thought: this is it—the moment when I can be certain that I'm more interested, sexually, in the parents than the teenagers. And I hypothesized to myself that this probably happens to everybody, gay or straight.

Straight example: One day you're watching Modern Family and you realize you find the mom hotter than the daughter (the older one, of course, who is definitely in her 20s, so don't get nervous).

Gay example: On the sitcom The Middle, you find the dad sexier than the son (same deal).

I'm still on the fence, I guess, b/c in that show The Middle I'm sort of into the son, which is why I thought of it. But, again, I hope this doesn't seem controversial, b/c I don't wanna get into heated stuff about who's too young to think of sexually. I just thought others might have thoughts on this and/or similar experiences about getting "older" with your sexuality...

My theory: our sexual tastes age much more slowly than we do, but they age nonetheless. And it's interesting when you notice that.
 
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At my age now anything older than me is in their mid to late fifties..
However there some very hot 55+ year old women around, they are rare. There are more in the big cities, but it is difficult finding them, and connecting with them.
The young( twenty upwards) girls are so good to look at though...all firm and toned.
 
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I was about Starkee's age when I first started noticing the mom's as much or more than the barely legal daughters. For me I think the change in emphasis was simply a matter of the generation gap. There came a time when young gals just struck me as immature in their language, manner and behavior. From that time forward I was much more into women my own age or beyond. There are always exceptions, or course, and since my married days I have had a number of relationships with quite young gals (and guys) but they were always more mature in their demeanor than their years would otherwise suggest.
 

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I think that I have started to cross that line, because the sons and daughers, though of legal age etc are starting to look like kids to me. uggggh..
 

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I was young. I was probably 20-25 when I started paying more attention to the older guys than the guys my age or younger. In fact, when I was 25 years old I dated a 39 year old for a while. We got along great! I think a lot of it had to do with the fact that I had a kid at 19 and was more worried about meeting a nice stable guy to settle down with than a "young buck" that wasn't ready for the same things I was.
 

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Heh, to me, even when I was younger, hot was hot. Didn't necessarily have an age.
 

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when I was 23, I started dating a 19 yo gal. she was stacked, pretty naive tho. I was her second "guy" ever. her mom was divorcred with a "weekend" bf. mom was 39, still attractive even after having 5 kids. I found her easy to talk to and one night her bf and her, and her dghtr and myself went out to eat. we had a good time, the mom and I did most of the talking. the dghtr later confided in her mom that she was having trouble having sex with me because of my size, and she did have a small pussy. the mother pulled me aside one evening while I waited for her dghtr to get ready, and told me she understood I was hung and she needed it. so eventually, I wound up banging dghtr and mom from time to time.
 
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i'm the same age as the OP, and i've never found myself in to younger guys.... it's not that younger guys can't be attractive, but i've just found that older guys exude more of the 'manly' qualities that i'm attracted to.... younger guys i see as more 'boyish', and boyish guys do have their place in the meat market.... (just look at all the people who love to eat veal.....) but personally i like beef.... thick, juicy beef that i can sink my teeth in to rather than a supple veal that simply melts in the mouth....

it's an acquired taste i guess.....
 

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I think the word for this is 'maturity'.

As you gain experience you begin to realize that a certain look or youthfulness is not really the hottest thing about sex. That the personality, the experience, the whole person is where true hotness resides.
For those who do grow up, they come to the point where what they find attractive is a person they feel they can relate to, and who is more likely to relate well with them.

I don't care how well formed some 25 year old woman is... I can certainly appreciate her as beautiful, but at my age she looks like a child, and the mere idea of having to sit thru a dinner with her, listening to her prattle about the silly ass idiocy that most 25 year olds are concerned with is my idea of pure hell.

You never lose the ability to find an image of youth and beauty sexually stimulating...
But when it comes to actual engagement with another person... a grown up wants a peer.

As you age, if you really do mature, its only natural to start finding people with similar mileage more attractive.
And if you acquire an outlook or temperament that is beyond your years... then someone a little older might seem more relatable.

An athletic and active guy, who's kept himself in good shape, with grown sons and who obviously has a strong relationship with them... established in his career and life... knowing of and content with who he is...
Its amazing how much you can take in with a short glance that speaks volumes beyond the physical benefits that come with youth but say nothing of character.

Your sense of attraction is deepening.
And that speak well of you.
 

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Interesting conversation, fellas. Some thoughts

1. I've always found guys my own age attractive—just not significantly older guys (but maybe that's changing, I think). I agree it'd be problematic if somebody is only attracted to significantly younger people.

2. I'm a little surprised by how many gay guys on here tend toward older guys. Maybe it's just an LPSG thing, but you might suspect there was a gap or a problem in the dating pool, since everybody wants a more mature guy, which would make it numerically impossible for everybody to find somebody.

But I'll stick up for dating younger guys, which I always have in the past. Some people are being a little harsh about how (im)mature younger people are. A lot of, say, 25 year olds follow current politics, read good literature, are lukewarm about facebook, don't go to the tanning bed, etc., etc.

PS: thanks, IT! Didn't mean to exclude you with that reference to "fellas."
 
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I had a coach in gym class in high school, who also coached the wrestling team (I was not a wrestler, but I had him as a gym teacher). He was probably 45 at the time, and he was a beefy manly man, thick muscular frame, kinda hairy with a stubbly shaved head and face. I would sooner have let him have his way with me than any dude in my class. Never got the chance, unfortunately. I think he was the first "daddy" I was ever into. Prior to him, I mainly jerked off to my classmates or guys in their 20s.
 
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It is an interesting conversation, though I've never thought of it in the way its framed here. If I see a parent with their 20-something kids, and any of them are hot, I think of them as hot...not hot because they're the son or hot because they're the dad, just hot.

There is a big difference though between sexually hot, and someone you'd be interested in dating. Hopefully you meet a person where both of those are true. When what I'm looking for is sex, I have found age to be immaterial. There are incredibly hot 50 and 60 somethings and there are incredibly non-hot 20 somethings. For me though, the guys I've dated seriously have all been 10-15+ years older than me (and hot lol). I say that and people say "oh, you like older guys then." No, not really, necessarily.

Cher once dated some guy who was in his 20's when she was in her 50's or something and, when asked about it later, she said "Well, it's not like I was carding people at the door." I always liked that quote.
 

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Probably in my early 30s, when my first child was born. As my daughters get older, "hot" women get proportionately older.

Now when I look at something like a "Victoria's Secret" catalog I don't see hot women. I see skinny girls barely out of high school wearing too much make-up.
 

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Probably in my early 30s, when my first child was born. As my daughters get older, "hot" women get proportionately older.

Now when I look at something like a "Victoria's Secret" catalog I don't see hot women. I see skinny girls barely out of high school wearing too much make-up.

I have to agree. I'm only 20, but I generally find people 35-20 to be attractive. I'm now disgusted when a woman looks too young ever since my little cousins started high school. I can't imagine myself with a 17 year old because they don't look any older than my 13yo family members. Personal relations and responisbilities surely have an effect on the perception of attractiveness.