When Do You Say It's Time?

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To our pets, our mates? I've been struggling a bit of late. Her back legs don't work as well as they once did, she's not incontinent. She is so happy and healthy in every other way, her quality of life is good.

Her front legs are good, she bunny hops...every now and then makes it up to all fours and then loses balance....

She is 13 in doggy years, yet if I put her down it would be for my convenience...I can't do that, it's just me.

She has not told me yet it's her time. I'll wait for her.
 

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It’s always a heart wrenching decision. With my last wolf it was time when I realised his days were filled with the anxiety of going through the day. Not being able to get up the stairs, not being able to walk properly. I kept pushing the border of what was acceptable and I realised I kept him around for my sake, not his. Not a day goes by without me missing him. I wish you all the best and wisdom.
 

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My Sammy, he suffered. I should have let him go sooner but I couldn't, because he was my baby.

I came home from work one day and his hips had completely collapsed. He couldn't stand, he couldn't move, he messed all over himself. It traumatized me. The look on his face, he hurt. I absolutely regret waiting for my own selfish bullshit.

I thought he had time. He didn't.

I'm not telling you to act now, but don't let your emotions take the wheel like they tend to do with me. If I had let him go just a week sooner, when I knew he was ready and he could have gone peacefully... I wouldn't have another of many grudges to hold against myself.

I held him as he took his last breath. My vet came to my house, offered to help bury my best friend. I love my vet. Genuinely.

Samson was almost 16 years old, large breed. He was, IS loved.
 

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It’s different with every pet. I never want any suffering. Never. My babies trusted me their whole lives to keep them healthy and happy, I could not fail them with that final decision. I’m tearing up just thinking about it now. Worst thing ever. I was with each one as they took their last breath. I have two more now, and I’ll do it again someday.

I guess you’ll know.