Your pics look pretty hot bigguy, so if you can find me, sure, you can kidnap me and keep me in your study chamber!
Redboy, you're very kind. Thank you....even more reason to kidnap and keep you in my studly chamber :wink:
so...ummm, it's more difficult when woman leaves a woman to be with a man? or more difficult when a man leaves another man to be with a woman? (short- or long-term; ya never kno IF it's "long term" til it IS lol) sorry, i just dont get that....but that may be where a lot of the HATE lies. maybe.
I don't know if this is going to help you, but this is pretty much the kind of outlook that I've had for about two years. It enabled me to lay my cards on the table with my wife (when I offered her divorce) and at the same time, it's helped me to maintain a healthy balance when it comes to my being polyamorous. I don't expect anyone else to embrace it, but it's sure been helpful to me:
Regardless of whether I am monogamous in my marriage or not, the brutal truth is that I will never be able to give all of me to my wife...and it's not out of choice. There are parts of me that I can only give to a man (and that can be touched by a man) and there are parts of me that I can only give to my wife (and no man can ever take it from her) and in the same way, there are things that only a man can give me (and my wife will never be able to give me those things) and there are things that only my wife can give me (and a man will never be able to give them to me). That's the brutal truth.
In the other "bi thread" that's running concurrently to this one, a couple of peeps said that if the bi guy is unable to be faithful to his wife, then he ought to divorce her. If only it were that simple. Now, if he was gay....but he isn't....and that's why he's bisexual. It's not that simple because a monosexual solution has been put before him, so where is it a solution?
This is going to be a crappy analogy...but anywhoo
There are three types of people. Some people are vegetarian and they don't only enjoy their diet but they obtain all of the nutrients that they need from it. Other people only eat meat, and like vegetarians, there's no need for them to supplement their diets in any way. Finally, there are people who need to consume meat and vegetables in order for them to walk away from the dinner table feeling satisfied...and for them to get all of the nutrients that they need. However, they are faced by the vegetarians and "carnivores" telling them to decide. Yes, they may be able to opt for one or the other, but will they be as satisfied and nourished as the other two sides? Sometimes it's not about whether the glass is half empty or half full, sometimes the bigger question is, "What can you do in order to get the maximum benefit from what lies inside of the glass?"
I don't want to hijack your discussion Tulsa and I admit that the whole cheating issue ought to be discussed in the other thread since that's what the discussion is about...however, this thread is more constructive and I'd much rather explore that topic in an environment where people are willing to discuss and exchange ideas, than one that revolves around judgment and an imposition of beliefs upon others.
For what it's worth, I do not condone bi men opting to cheat on their wives with other men, but I also do not judge it. I have no right to do either. Ultimately, he has only two people to answer to, himself and his wife. Period. I am nobody's parent or teacher or preacher. His life and choices are his responsibilities and not mine. I can explore where it comes from and what dilemmas lay before him, but it's up to each person to draw his/her conclusion.
That's it!! Just RUIN the hunt for me!! Give away all my secrets!! You know how us Cherokees love a good hunt. .................*grumbles/stomps off*...............now i gotta go find some other unsuspecting prey......................AND THESE ARROWS AIN'T CHEAP NEITHER!! :biggrin1:
LMAO
Well so sorry for spoiling your fun. Punish me behbeh!!! LOL
I dunno why you see a need to use arrows, though. I would of thunk that with you being who you are, you'd be the prey.
Nice thread. Good to see Biguy writing extensively. He is interesting not least because he sees this from a more worldly perspective. Not so North American in his assumptions.
Thanks for your words, Doc. I have the greatest of respect for you and I know that when you talk about bisexuality, your words have weight, so coming from you, it really means a lot.
I can't begin to tell you how happy I am to see that you're still around, special man.
