When Have You Had No Standards?

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Have there been times in your love life when you had no standards and got with someone who was objectively below you?

I can't think of any time I had no standards, but I do think I was that person for quite a few of the women I've dated and had sex with.

What has been your experience?
 
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I think I didn't have any until a year ago probably. I had a strong set of morals (still do) that probably has protected me from worse, but I accepted far too much that I shouldn't have. Having a real friend showing me better made me realize that past behaviour of someone else was not ok and I definitely shouldn't have accepted it. If the person guilty of said behaviour can't be a better person, I should walk away. (I did, it still hurts when I allow myself to think of it, but I did walk away and my life is better except for missing him and a friend I also lost this year due to the same situation and drama that came with it).
 
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absolutely zero standards?... never. i always had some standard. i will admit that during my younger years when i was chasing pussy, my standards were a lot lower than it is today because low-quality pussy was better than no pussy.

nowadays, my standards lean more towards personality and sexual prowess than physical because i've ran into enough crazy that i'm weary about whom my dick goes into. the only physical thing that is a must is good hygiene and not so fat that we're limited to certain sexual positions only.

lastly, i will say that i've seen no shortage of many men and women who will fuck anything willingly so i will certainly never impose any of my own values onto them. we all need love sometimes :).
 

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absolutely zero standards?... never. i always had some standard. i will admit that during my younger years when i was chasing pussy, my standards were a lot lower than it is today because low-quality pussy was better than no pussy.

nowadays, my standards lean more towards personality and sexual prowess than physical because i've ran into enough crazy that i'm weary about whom my dick goes into. the only physical thing that is a must is good hygiene and not so fat that we're limited to certain sexual positions only.

lastly, i will say that i've seen no shortage of many men and women who will fuck anything willingly so i will certainly never impose any of my own values onto them. we all need love sometimes :).
“Chasing pussy”... fuck I hate that word. Hi, Trump!
 
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What do you mean?
Your post... “objectively below you”. If you’re viewing someone as below you, then objectively, you’re a prick lol.
 

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Your post... “objectively below you”. If you’re viewing someone as below you, then objectively, you’re a prick lol.

Jessica Alba is objectively above me. Above me in every way. If I was to somehow even speak to her, it would be an example of her lowering her standards.

Some people are of higher status than other people. If someone of high status communicates, in a romantic way, with someone of low status then That high status person is lowering their standards. That is just the way of things.
 

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Jessica Alba is objectively above me. Above me in every way. If I was to somehow even speak to her, it would be an example of her lowering her standards.

Some people are of higher status than other people. If someone of high status communicates, in a romantic way, with someone of low status then That high status person is lowering their standards. That is just the way of things.
So because she’s rich and genetically attractive she’s “above you”? No dear. Someone rich and hot can be, objectively, the worst people in the world too.
 

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So because she’s rich and genetically attractive she’s “above you”? No dear. Someone rich and hot can be, objectively, the worst people in the world too.

True. You can be an attractive and rich, but below something like me if you have a huge personality flaw or evil views. I can't deny that. However, does Jessica Alba have any bad views? Is she a Nazi or evil in someway? No. She seems like a decent person. So add her basic decency to her superior physical traits, wealth and fame. That gets you someone far superior to whatever you might call me.
 

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True. You can be an attractive and rich, but below something like me if you have a huge personality flaw or evil views. I can't deny that. However, does Jessica Alba have any bad views? Is she a Nazi or evil in someway? No. She seems like a decent person. So add her basic decency to her superior physical traits, wealth and fame. That gets you someone far superior to whatever you might call me.

To paraphrase CherryBoom66 if I may: All of that is subjective. And IMO, extremely so for some folks.

My standards and your standards and Cherry's standards are based on our respective life experiences from birth until today. That's why each of us have our own individual standards. What we like. Don't like. What turns us on. What turns us off. Our unique life experiences.

You may think you have objective standards. You don't.

What you may have is your "ideal". Jessica Alba may be your ideal. But you don't "know" her. You know of her. Her public persona. Which may or may not be who the "real" Jessica Alba is.

And that's what it seems you are drawn to with Ms. Alba--what you do know about her. Which could be a carefully cultivated public relations image. Or it really could be who she is. Since none of us is likely to meet her and really get to know her, we'll never know.

But I do know that thinking someone is above or below another person is not healthy. I think we need to remember that old adage: Never judge a book by its cover.

Cuz you really never know what that book is about until you get to know it by reading it.

Same applies to people IMO.
 

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Inspired by the above video.

Have there been times in your love life when you had no standards and got with someone who was objectively below you?

I can't think of any time I had no standards, but I do think I was that person for quite a few of the women I've dated and had sex with.

What has been your experience?
I see the OP is phrasing questions with his stereotypical pin-point accuracy, in no way apportioning blame nor shaming people before the discussion began.

Well done.
 
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To paraphrase CherryBoom66 if I may: All of that is subjective. And IMO, extremely so for some folks.

My standards and your standards and Cherry's standards are based on our respective life experiences from birth until today. That's why each of us have our own individual standards. What we like. Don't like. What turns us on. What turns us off. Our unique life experiences.

You may think you have objective standards. You don't.

What you may have is your "ideal". Jessica Alba may be your ideal. But you don't "know" her. You know of her. Her public persona. Which may or may not be who the "real" Jessica Alba is.

And that's what it seems you are drawn to with Ms. Alba--what you do know about her. Which could be a carefully cultivated public relations image. Or it really could be who she is. Since none of us is likely to meet her and really get to know her, we'll never know.

But I do know that thinking someone is above or below another person is not healthy. I think we need to remember that old adage: Never judge a book by its cover.

Cuz you really never know what that book is about until you get to know it by reading it.

Same applies to people IMO.
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To paraphrase CherryBoom66 if I may: All of that is subjective. And IMO, extremely so for some folks.

My standards and your standards and Cherry's standards are based on our respective life experiences from birth until today. That's why each of us have our own individual standards. What we like. Don't like. What turns us on. What turns us off. Our unique life experiences.

You may think you have objective standards. You don't.

What you may have is your "ideal". Jessica Alba may be your ideal. But you don't "know" her. You know of her. Her public persona. Which may or may not be who the "real" Jessica Alba is.

And that's what it seems you are drawn to with Ms. Alba--what you do know about her. Which could be a carefully cultivated public relations image. Or it really could be who she is. Since none of us is likely to meet her and really get to know her, we'll never know.

But I do know that thinking someone is above or below another person is not healthy. I think we need to remember that old adage: Never judge a book by its cover.

Cuz you really never know what that book is about until you get to know it by reading it.

Same applies to people IMO.

I agree with one thing that you wrote here. I don't know Jessica Alba. She could be a horrible person in real life. We just don't know.

Other than the above though, you're completely wrong. People do have objective value. Some people are more valuable than others. That is just life.
 

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I agree with one thing that you wrote here. I don't know Jessica Alba. She could be a horrible person in real life. We just don't know.

Other than the above though, you're completely wrong. People do have objective value. Some people are more valuable than others. That is just life.
To some people.
 

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There was a small period of a couple months about a year after I moved out on my own where I had what I call my super slut phase. I was willing to sleep with pretty much anyone, even people I wasn’t even attracted to, I just wanted to stuff a hole. It wasn’t worth it overall though, got laid plenty, but most of the sex was bad cause I wasn’t actually into it and the sex partners were way below my typical standards as well - many of them were complete dead fish/pillow princesses in bed. I think I was more into the idea of sex than the act itself.
 

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Other than the above though, you're completely wrong. People do have objective value. Some people are more valuable than others. That is just life.

Objective value to whom? Your opening post asks whether people have standards/no standards. And whether someone is objectively below you. Whatever that means.

First, let’s start with understanding the definition of these terms:

Subjective: Based on or influenced by personal feelings, tastes, or opinions. ‘his views are highly subjective’

Contrasted with objective ‘there is always the danger of making a subjective judgement’

Objective: (of a person or their judgement) not influenced by personal feelings or opinions in considering and representing facts. ‘historians try to be objective and impartial’

You now claim people have objective value. How so? Because no matter who we are assessing or judging, our life experiences color those judgments. Which in turn means we are making subjective judgments. Pretty much all the time.

Stating that Jessica Alba is above you objectively may be how you feel. But, you are not being objective; that statement is subjective. Stating that Jessica Alba is subjectively above you would be true. Because it's you expressing how you feel.

With pretty much everything we all do in life, we are applying our subjective values to most every situation we face. Based on our life experiences. Whether it's people or politics. What we eat. Where we go. Where we shop. Who we hang with. And in your case, whether you believe someone is above or below you.

Objective is not a descriptor I would ever think of when I think of you given your post history. Your daily perception is colored by subjective slants that inform how you think and how you approach your life. It's innate. And in turn, it affects the threads and posts you make here at LPSG.

But then again, that's how people are. Seldom objective; almost always subjective. Like your thread here.