I think most of us (especially women) have a healthy fear while out in public. Before I was attacked 3 yrs ago, I might have become uncomfortable in an elevator by myself with a man, or if I was alone at night and I saw a guy or two walking towards me, but I never showed it. Now I think I show my nervousness on my sleeve. I will walk out of the elevator if guys walk in, I will walk to the opposite side of my car if a man walks in my direction while I'm about to get into my car. There's been a few times with no words ,but just eye contact and body language ,that guys could tell that maybe I was scared and they would just look down or offer a nice smile. Still I'd rather be safe than sorry. I have gotten better as time goes by and maybe less paranoid, however every now and then when things start to feel "normal", I'll get a trigger and feel low.
The other day I was helping my make friend ( known since high school) get his apartment ready for a party. We got into a little argument ( more like a disagreement) over where a table should go. I started to move a chair and he rushed over, put his hand out as to say no it would make more sense for the table to be over there instead of here. Because his hand got close to my face, I ducked and covered my head.Total over reaction, and since I never told him what happened, he didn't know how to I interpret my over reaction so he just laughed, and said "did you think I was gonna hit you"?
I left, and told him I'd be back bc I didn't want him asking me any questions that would lead to me telling him. Does anyone else feel like your healthy fear has turned into paranoi? I guess I'm just talking out loud, or seeing how others have moved on or gotten thru something similar?
The other day I was helping my make friend ( known since high school) get his apartment ready for a party. We got into a little argument ( more like a disagreement) over where a table should go. I started to move a chair and he rushed over, put his hand out as to say no it would make more sense for the table to be over there instead of here. Because his hand got close to my face, I ducked and covered my head.Total over reaction, and since I never told him what happened, he didn't know how to I interpret my over reaction so he just laughed, and said "did you think I was gonna hit you"?
I left, and told him I'd be back bc I didn't want him asking me any questions that would lead to me telling him. Does anyone else feel like your healthy fear has turned into paranoi? I guess I'm just talking out loud, or seeing how others have moved on or gotten thru something similar?