I have been struggling with this for a while and just wondering if I could get some opinions. First, some background. I have not come out to anyone yet and just barely came out to myself though I believed I might be gay since High School. I consider myself a social hermit and dont really go to bars or nightclubs so I havent really met anyone. I am just nervous about meeting people so my timidness isnt really intentional. I am currently back living at home to save enough money to move out (which hopefully is soon). I have a steady job and other than food, I am self-supporting. Where ever I purchase my house, my sister would like to temporarily rent a room from me, however she has made some subtle gay remarks. I dont think they rose to a level of anti-gay but I am slightly hesitant to have her live with me if she cant agree with who I am. She is my only sibling. Though my social hermit-ness has kind of instilled a fear of meeting someone, I have thought about coming out to my Aunt (who is a lesbian) before really meeting someone. The closest I have come to being with someone is about 7 years ago with a guy from high school and he ending up giving me a blowjob (after a little alcohol). At the time I was kind of in shock and unfortunately didnt return the favor. Hindsight says I should have done it. It feels like a puzzle on the timing and what should I do. I think I should the following in order: Come out to my Aunt Let my sister know so she can decide if she wants to live with me or not. Move out When I meet someone, finally come out to my parents (if it hasnt slipped out already) I know I need to get my ass out there to meet someone (no pun intended). I am not sure how my parents will react as they have dropped comments about me having kids to keep the bloodline going (since I am the only son in the family). I think I have a good family support as my Aunt is gay, and my female cousin would have no problem with me. Years ago, 3 different family members have asked if I was gay, and at the time said no, but I was kidding myself. Many times I have felt like my life has needed a reboot as I am 30 and there are many things I wish I could have done differently, including coming out sooner. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.