When is Bullying Cool?

[Patchos]

Are you saying that I might be responsible for someone committing suicide because I give them SPH? :scratchchin:

Where did you get the idea that SPH is the same as bullying? And why single out SPH and not all the other humiliation/domination fetishes that people have like rape scenarios and stuff?

I know more guys into SPH than probably anyone on this site and I've never come across someone who even hints at being suicidal from receiving SPH. They are all just a bunch of pervs wanting to get their rocks off like everyone else!

There is far too much SPH hate on this site, it's very prejudice and judgmental. Shame on you.

 

[deleted3782]

Here ya go :biggrin1:

Like a said, a whole new world. :tongue: Thanks

 

[tgirlsrgreat]

you do not want my fist plowing into your face ? :argue: :fight:

no problum, give it a try!

 

[D_Phallus P Phyllum]

It's not bullying if it's consenual.

/thread

 

[D_Rosalind Mussell]

I don't consider there to be any connection between bullying and what I'll call "alternative sexual behavior". As Bbucko stated, bullying might have had some effect on him, but it hardly classifies as a singular reason for his proclivities. I am not into pain or humiliation but I've been in many role playing scenarios and I was always in the dominant role. As the dominant my focus was to be inventive and intensify the pleasure of my partner, whatever their pleasure may be. There seems to be some type of implication here that a dominant person wants to "abuse" and the submissive person wants to "be abused", which I don't believe is true at all. I tend to see the dom/sub dynamic as something that is opposite from our daily lives. Someone who is a sub might have a lot of responsibility in life and have a lot of power in their everyday lives, so being a sub might help offset that dynamic. Someone who is a dom might lead a quiet, mundane life and their dom activities offset that. Then again, I could be completely wrong. Either way, I don't think bullying (or being bullied) is a gateway to BDSM. Sexual preferences are too personal and multi-layered to make such a generalization. Interesting topic, though.

 

[D_Rosalind Mussell]

This might also answer some questions as well.

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[D_Chaumbrelayne_Copprehead]

At what point are sexual fetishes harmful to people? Are these individuals being drawn deeper into a psycho-sexual disorder, or are they simply expressing interests specific to their own development and personal history?

Does it matter the intent of the aggressor? Does it matter what those around them experience (a guy with a normal size dick hearing from a side conversation that his 5 1/2" dick is "tiny")?

Is indulgence of these fetishes simply healthy role playing and fantasy, or is the humiliation just an invited form of bullying that is harmful to the victim's emotional health in the long run?

I think these are great questions. For me, it all comes down to:

1) Permission/planning ... if I get off on you bullying me and we agree how it's going to go, and we're all consenting partners ... well, OK. Not my thing .... but OK.

2) Safety. There's got to be some sort of agreed-upon line that people don't cross ... I guess this is part of the planning process ... but it's like having a safety word if you're into being dominated.

Intent? I don't know how much of that we can judge. If you get off on bullying and you find a sexual partner who enjoys being bullied ... well, you guys have fun. I would prefer that a bully be enlightened enough to know that you can't bully people in real life, but to figure out that in sex play might be a way to work it out.

 

[D_Myer_Dogasflees]

Getting bullied is not the same as enjoyfully consenting to humiliation during sex.

I was called gay so much in high school that I thought I was going to lose my mind. It's scarred me in so many ways. And often in front of the teachers who did nothing.

If you have to resort to calling another boy "gay" to feel powerful or superior, you're a sad case.

True, what's so horrifying about it is having to deal socially with so many people who come from strict religious or macho/gangsta backgrounds, even the teachers who have to mark your work. Don't underestimate the insidiousness. First they throw mud, call these things 'dirty' and 'perverted', use baseless shame, take advantage of the undeveloped reasonless idiots that children are. You'll need to be overprotective, don't ever allow your friends or family to find your porn. They attack you from all sides then scrutinize you for being weak(vulnerable and outnumbered), as if receiving this from your own family and being in the corner of being chased out of your own house is not enough already. You're constantly under siege, you're always wondering what's going to go wrong around the corner. 28% drop out in the states alone. You've got no idea what happens in the rest of the world. For many/most like being born into constant raging war zone

people should sue more and throw around more lawsuits, get these pigs in jail, and dio it fast, we don't want people like this to further their ways. people should take action against this and all bulling. bulling is one of the most crude and inhumane things people could do, bullies put us all at danger later in life, get them nd their mentality out of society where they can't breed as quick as possible and for as long as possible.

 

[chrispy]

never

What he said...

 

[PrincessBlueEyez]

BULLYING IS NEVER COOL.:irked:

agreed

 

[D_Asston Kutcher]

When they want or need to be bullied.
And every other Thursday between the times of 5:00AM and 5:15 AM.

 

[surferboy]

never

this

 

[Smallprivate]

To me bullying is a form of humiliation...if everyone involved is into it, then I see no problem. Now if its one-sided and all parties are not enjoying it in some fashion, then that's a problem.
I was bullied as a kid and I didn't like it...but as an adult with the right person I really get into it.

 

[EdmBoy]

Grew up in Canada and graduated from high school in 09. I have never seen a bully in my life throughout my entire schooling. Maybe I got lucky or maybe it's because I grew up in a very wealthy area or maybe it's just because I grew up in Canada?

 

[Over-reaching]

Why would bullying ever be cool?

 

[Nevfx]

"When is bullying cool?"

Simple answer: NEVER.

 

[MrMXYZPTLK]

Bullying, totally cool, UNTIL the person getting bullied comes to school with a gun and shoots the bully !!!

 

[798686]

It isn't cool when it's uninvited. If it's a form of control or harrassment which the victim objects too, and is hurt by, then it's totally off. I'd define it as being against the victim's wishes.

I'm not sure role-playing is true bullying. I don't particularly get it - but the 'victim' has at least some control over the situation, and is enjoying it. Not sure how healthy it is...but because the victim has requested it, then in some ways he/she is the one calling the shots.

 

[601900]

Why would bullying ever be cool?

Ditto.

 

[helgaleena]

Ex, I think your question is based on a confusion with social situations and sexual, or bedroom, situations. Bullying is a way of characterizing behaviors that happen in public or in social situations that have nothing to do with sexual gratification. Those who are into dominance play in a sexual context are very careful not to let it carry over into other areas of daily life-- unless they get extra thrill out of the possibility of being arrested for breaking laws, that is.

Basically, if you add sex and pleasure for both the humiliator and the humiliated, it is not bullying, just a kink.