When is it too early for the 'L' Word

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Can it ever be too soon to say you Love someone? Regardless of how you both feel about each other.

What would you deem it to be too soon?

Or do you just bite the bullet and say it?

Or does it matter how and where you say it as opposed to just blurting out during sex for example?

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I think it depends on the situation and personalities? There is definitely a time that is too soon because I'm not sure you can really know that you are in love early in a relationship. I think saying it first, the first time you ever say it makes you vulnerable so that can be awkward if you blurt it out during sex. I personally wouldn't even know if he was serious or just caught up in the moment. I like this question, it is making me think.
 
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Oh yeah, absolutely there is a time period (although it varies depending on the relationship) when it is way too soon to say it. Like, if a guy said that to me on the first date (which has happened) he's dismissed.

Personally I have found that it's only appropriate to say once you've really gotten to know someone enough to have seen some of their flaws, and that whole act most people put on initially has been dropped. You don't have a chance to know someone well enough after a week. Maybe after a month, I'd say. If I had to give a timeline, I think that if you are spending a LOT of time together, a month, if you are really feeling like you are in love, then it might be OK to say it. 1-3 months of mutually enjoyable time spent together, and the recipient is probably going to feel comfortable saying it back.

Just go with your gut-although if your gut tells you that you love a girl on the first date, remember that isn't your intuition, it's just lust =)
 

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While I agree with what alot of what you guys have said and it is interesting to hear your views; are you both of the opinion that you can't love at first glance?

That it really does that time to get to know someone and love them?
 

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I totally believe in lust at first site but not really love at first site. Maybe I'm naive, innocent, or something but I think love just takes time and effort to develop.