When It Comes To Sex, There's No Such Thing As Discrimination.

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So in general I've had a really great first few weeks on here, but there's one thing that's become a common thread that I'd love to hear more opinions on. Discrimination.

So this is LPSG, a site literally all about focusing on large dicks to the detriment of smaller dicks. It strikes me as odd that a site literally designed to discriminate against the VAST majority of men out there would be so full of extremely touchy guys. It's not even dick size I'm dealing with either, it's age.

When a girl says "I'm not usually into older guys," or "yeah sorry you're a little young for me," she is not saying "I WISH EVERY OLD PERSON AND ALL THE KIDS WOULD JUST HURRY UP AND DIE!" She's saying "that's not for me, not my thing." There isn't much else in this world outside of art that is 100% a question of preference. Like, am I mad at all the beautiful men with huge dicks on here that only like other men? Not at all! So why is it that as soon as I state MY preferences, all the people who aren't in my range start flipping the hell out? Like, it's kinda my body. These are my holes, I get to choose which pegs to put in them. ... Right? Am I missing something fundamental here?
 

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It’s mutual. You get to decide which pegs go into your holes and the pegs get to decide which holes they fill. At least in theory.
Yeah, that's what I thought! Seems like it doesn't work both ways though lol. These guys can walk around rating women from 1-10 but as soon as I say they're not what I'm looking for the sarcastic sniping or waterworks begin.
 

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Yeah, that's what I thought! Seems like it doesn't work both ways though lol. These guys can walk around rating women from 1-10 but as soon as I say they're not what I'm looking for the sarcastic sniping or waterworks begin.
Wait?!?! I’m not what you’re looking for? Bitch! (Lol...total sarcasm)
 

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Wait?!?! I’m not what you’re looking for? Bitch! (Lol...total sarcasm)
Lol yes I detected a small tremor on my sarcasm monitor ;)

And noooooo way am I a 10. 10s don't have to work food service to keep the bills paid lol
 
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Not all of us are that sensitive. The name LPSG is really sort of a misnomer; all sizes are found on here. Perhaps to the chagrin of some ladies as many will have their interests listed in their profiles things like: Monster Cocks, 8+ Inches, Well Hung Men, etc. Which is cool; some prefer large. But not all are like that. Some are here for the conversations, which can be fun.

I think you'll find many men are secure with themselves but you have some who are overly sensitive about their size, which makes LPSG a rather odd place for them to seek solace as it skews large in terms of size.

I think if you have a preference, it's your preference and if someone else has a problem with it, they can go sit on a thumbtack. We have no control over what makes our hormones go crazy. There's an element of agitators who like to castigate others for their preferences. We live in the age of the Scarlet Letter, but instead of the letter A for Adultery it's R for Racist. It's thrown around with reckless abandon without real care, though there are real racists out there. Anyway, I won't derail the thread with political polemics....

LPSG has a pretty large contingent of gay and bisexual men on here, but a fair number of 100% straight men as well, so there's a mix on here. Aside from some infighting here and there, for the most part it's pretty chill, I think.
 

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So in general I've had a really great first few weeks on here, but there's one thing that's become a common thread that I'd love to hear more opinions on. Discrimination.

So this is LPSG, a site literally all about focusing on large dicks to the detriment of smaller dicks. It strikes me as odd that a site literally designed to discriminate against the VAST majority of men out there would be so full of extremely touchy guys. It's not even dick size I'm dealing with either, it's age.

When a girl says "I'm not usually into older guys," or "yeah sorry you're a little young for me," she is not saying "I WISH EVERY OLD PERSON AND ALL THE KIDS WOULD JUST HURRY UP AND DIE!" She's saying "that's not for me, not my thing." There isn't much else in this world outside of art that is 100% a question of preference. Like, am I mad at all the beautiful men with huge dicks on here that only like other men? Not at all! So why is it that as soon as I state MY preferences, all the people who aren't in my range start flipping the hell out? Like, it's kinda my body. These are my holes, I get to choose which pegs to put in them. ... Right? Am I missing something fundamental here?

I think the butthurts are a fairly common phenomenon around here. Like the incels, the smalls-obsessed, the sph-ers and some of the other cliques, unless it is specifically your thing, I reckon the best approach is make your polite apologies and back away slowly .. :joy: like any microcosm of society, we got plenty of our own itchy and scratchy crazy relatives bumbling around the site...

To paraphrase slightly your delightful metaphor, it is obviously utterly reasonable that you get to decide if you like the look of any "peg" before it goes next nor near any of your "holes" :)
 

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Wait?!?! I’m not what you’re looking for? Bitch! (Lol...total sarcasm)

that’s not how it goes.
It’s:
You won’t fuck me, ok, fine u just a fat ugly slut N e wayZ.

yeahhhh, a “fat ugly slut” you were all over and begging in a message three seconds ago.
 

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LPSG actually started as satire about dudes who think a big dick seriously mattered.

As far as discrimination goes, we all discriminate. Not in the because you are a POC, not a POC, woman, man, trans, disabled, whatever.
We definitely discriminate when it comes to sex. We like what we like, we are willing to try, perhaps, with certain people.
I am simply not attracted to large men, be that fat or over muscled. I like slender. And long hair. I even like the much maligned balding with ponytail. I guess someone has to. Lol.
I am not attracted to men who marinate in cologne, are rude to wait staff, brag incessantly, think money is a marker of human value, or think Lisa Lampanelli is funny.
I absolutely discriminate based on age of my partner. I have a lower limit based on compatibility and an upper limit based on how close they are to my parents’ ages.

I’m walking if a guy wants to wear my underwear. Or any women’s clothing as a sissification fetish. Because it’s running down women, in my book.
I discriminate based on how important he thinks his size is. If you tell me about it before I’ve played with it, there’s the door.

I absolutely discriminate when it comes to politics. There has to be a region of overlap. They don’t have to be tree-sitting level of concerned, but they must understand why I carry a straw and avoid single use plastic and packaging in general.
There is a huge difference between a gentle tease about my quirks and running down my beliefs.
I have been carrying a straw for almost a decade now. It’s symbolic, and maybe a windmill at which I’m tilting, but it’s my windmill to take on.
 
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LPSG actually started as satire about dudes who think a big dick seriously mattered.

As far as discrimination goes, we all discriminate. Not in the because you are a POC, not a POC, woman, man, trans, disabled, whatever.
We definitely discriminate when it comes to sex. We like what we like, we are willing to try, perhaps, with certain people.
I am simply not attracted to large men, be that fat or over muscled. I like slender. And long hair. I even like the much maligned balding with ponytail. I guess someone has to. Lol.
I am not attracted to men who marinate in cologne, are rude to wait staff, brag incessantly, think money is a marker of human value, or think Lisa Lampanelli is funny.
I absolutely discriminate based on age of my partner. I have a lower limit based on compatibility and an upper limit based on how close they are to my parents’ ages.

I’m walking if a guy wants to wear my underwear. Or any women’s clothing as a sissification fetish. Because it’s running down women, in my book.
I discriminate based on how important he thinks his size is. If you tell me about it before I’ve played with it, there’s the door.

I absolutely discriminate when it comes to politics. There has to be a region of overlap. They don’t have to be tree-sitting level of concerned, but they must understand why I carry a straw and avoid single use plastic and packaging in general.
There is a huge difference between a gentle tease about my quirks and running down my beliefs.
I have been carrying a straw for almost a decade now. It’s symbolic, and maybe a windmill at which I’m tilting, but it’s my windmill to take on.
Well yes. We all discriminate when it comes to sex, what I meant is it's not "discrimination" in the same way that refusing to sit near a POC is. My age preference is not "ageism." My preference for men is not "sexism." I'm sure that was clear enough but I figured I could be clearer lol.

Also, I had no idea this started as satire lol. That kinda makes this site even better. It certainly isn't serving its original purpose any more! Lol
 

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When it comes to sex, the topic of discrimination is tricky, because while you can say discrimination doesn't apply to sex, it does apply to life and society, of which sex is a part. Everyone has their preferences, which is totally fine. Anyone who faults you for liking people of a certain body type, complexion, sex, gender, tit/ass/dick size, etc. is probably a hypocrite, as they undoubtedly have their own type(s) that they swear by. However, sexual preference can be fueled by greater overlying prejudices, which is not ok. For example, being attracted to people with darker or lighter skin is a-ok. However, saying anyone else who doesn't match your ideal is disgusting, throwing stereotypes their way, and otherwise insulting or condescending towards them is messed up, since at that point you're just a bigot, and your sex life is dictated by that hateful bias.

tl;dr, Have your preferences, enjoy them, but don't be a dick about it.
 

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When it comes to sex, the topic of discrimination is tricky, because while you can say discrimination doesn't apply to sex, it does apply to life and society, of which sex is a part. Everyone has their preferences, which is totally fine. Anyone who faults you for liking people of a certain body type, complexion, sex, gender, tit/ass/dick size, etc. is probably a hypocrite, as they undoubtedly have their own type(s) that they swear by. However, sexual preference can be fueled by greater overlying prejudices, which is not ok. For example, being attracted to people with darker or lighter skin is a-ok. However, saying anyone else who doesn't match your ideal is disgusting, throwing stereotypes their way, and otherwise insulting or condescending towards them is messed up, since at that point you're just a bigot, and your sex life is dictated by that hateful bias.

tl;dr, Have your preferences, enjoy them, but don't be a dick about it.
Yeah, generally in agreement here. I try to be really gentle and casual about my preferences. I'd never say "ew gross, an old guy!" I'd say "you're a little older than I usually go for." Even when I start seeing serious red flags I try to stick with conversation and learn more about the person. If I really get along with a guy well I'm usually able to find attraction there, even outside of my comfort zone.

The problem is, once I make the preference known, the butthurt gets so hardcore that I can't salvage a proper conversation any more. Like don't ask why I'm not immediately jamming your parts into me if you don't want an answer!
 

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Yeah, generally in agreement here. I try to be really gentle and casual about my preferences. I'd never say "ew gross, an old guy!" I'd say "you're a little older than I usually go for." Even when I start seeing serious red flags I try to stick with conversation and learn more about the person. If I really get along with a guy well I'm usually able to find attraction there, even outside of my comfort zone.

The problem is, once I make the preference known, the butthurt gets so hardcore that I can't salvage a proper conversation any more. Like don't ask why I'm not immediately jamming your parts into me if you don't want an answer!
Oh yeah, that fragile male ego. I used to have one of those (Oh who the hell am I kidding, I still do).

But I get it. Even if you try to take a polite and measured approach, some people will still fly off the handle. It sucks, but human beings will always be a least some fickle and sensitive creatures, so what're you gonna do?

Oh, and I can't decide whether "jamming your parts into me" is exceedingly unsexy, or fun and humorous enough that it's endearing, but it's definitely one of the two :yum
 

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That's not (as far as i can tell) discrimination though. When it comes to this site anyone can create an account. Anyone can share their pictures. Anyone can comment. There are more than a few guys on this site with small or smaller. I don't really understand why that's the case as you'd think that would be like a small or smaller woman signing up for a bbw lovers site but i adventure quest. So that isn't actual discrimination. If the site said no men with small or smaller then yes that would be. That doesn't happen.

As far as guys being touchy goes. You're opening a universe sized can of worms there. There's age, height, weight, penis size, muscle definition, finance, geography, language, religion, race, political affiliation, the time of day, previous experiences, the kitchen sink, masculinity, toxic masculinity, psychology, the effect and affect of sexism, elitism in general, relationship troubles, rejection, insecurity about style, questions of sexuality, questions about gender roles and a whole host of things that could be factors to why men in general are being touchy.

And each one of those subjects branching out in other subsystems of topics that may even branch out to others. Sexism itself has zero logic in it. So anyone who believes in it even a little will have their ability to think logically about topics regarding men, women, trans people, the lgbtq community in general, gender roles and so on negatively effected (and for those with a good eye also affected). To what extent that may be is a different story. That's dependent on how much they believe in it. Oh and this counts for women too. Anyway, after that it pretty much goes downhill from there. How much again is dependent on how much they believe in sexism.

And that's because sexism even hurts the people that believe in it. Man, woman or trans. If they think men are supposed to hold in their feelings it hurts them. If they think women should always or at all cater to men it hurts them. At that point men lose the ability to express themselves emotionally. And just like a soda with mentos in it those emotions explode. When it comes to women having to cater to men or thinking they have to over long periods of times causes resentment. And they explode. It's much more complicated than that of course but i often write bibles on here and i'm trying (and failing) not to do that.

Anyway, with all that in mind and within the context of discrimination...big old can of worms. I don't know if you've heard the term but here it is.

[When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression]

Which is also a large factor in how men behave. Even before we get to the possibility of ageism. Which in some instances is a real thing. We also have to consider history. And for insane amounts of time we men were told by way of history books, religion, movies, politicians and so on that we are the best of the best. Of course though i'm not accounting for race, sexuality, particular religion or so on right now. Just men. So for most of our lives we've seen, heard, been a part of and generally were given the impression that we are better than women.

The last few decades have been a bit more of a mix. Women's rights. There being larger and larger attempts at treating women with more respect to a good number of men seems like oppression. And that's because most of our lives we've been accustomed to a certain amount of privilege.

And that's a very very large factor in why so many men across the world freak out so hard and so often. Much more than women.

When we reach the age portion of this. All of that comes with it. Standards of beauty for women for hundreds upon hundreds of years have been tortuously bad. We're talking one wrinkle, one sag and so on and a good portion of men are no longer interested. To this day women literally using products that harm them just to look attractive to others.

While at the same time for men they could look like burt renolds and still be considered massively attractive.

The problem is the switch over. What women in general have gotten so used to that they don't even bat an eye towards. Men on the other hand are just now getting a fraction of a fraction of. And don't have anywhere near the wherewithal to even understand whats happening. Girls are primed as girls to see it coming. To understand at some point they will no longer be desirable or as desirable. Men on the other hand only hear as much in whispers.

It's like having two fighters. One has boxed since their teens. And is now in their early thirties. Being told they should just give it up while still fighting the good fight. While the other boxer just stepped in the ring mid forties. Only having had slap fights in their teens.

I'm not saying the reactions are right. If anything we men should see it coming from a mile away. If you're asking why that happens though. This is why.

Oh and it gets even worse when you go down the different categories of men. The more privileged the man the higher the chance they'll freak out.
 
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Good post, as usual, from spaj8987. I’ll add a couple of points. Being butthurt and wailing isn’t reserved for men. Want to see the “wrath of a woman scorned”? Decline her advances...

Either reaction is an aspect of human nature - specifically retaliation. It just happens more often in the type of circumstances described because socially men are more expected to make the advance, and they’re less likely to turn down women. Like my son said: “we’ll fuck sheep ferchrissakes...”
 

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Good post, as usual, from spaj8987. I’ll add a couple of points. Being butthurt and wailing isn’t reserved for men. Want to see the “wrath of a woman scorned”? Decline her advances...

Either reaction is an aspect of human nature - specifically retaliation. It just happens more often in the type of circumstances described because socially men are more expected to make the advance, and they’re less likely to turn down women. Like my son said: “we’ll fuck sheep ferchrissakes...”

So true. Okay maybe not the sheep part--not for me anyway. ;) Some of the harshest words I've ever heard are from women who make a play for me and get rejected. Female or male the human ego is made of fragile stuff.

My momma said it long ago: men ask, women say no, so ask lots of women and don't take rejection personally. Move on to the next.
 

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you're missing the last ten years of social discourse on how its wrong to have any opinion or bias that impacts ANY other person's precious identity.

You're not allowed a preference;
You're not allowed to make a joke;
You're not allowed to SAY or DO anything that might, by some perverse sense of fragile self worth, Offend any other person of any kind.


Discrimination is not just a synonym for prejudice.
Its also the ability to tell shit from shinola.

Trust me- it does not matter how vociferously people scream that you are wrong for what you like, or what you laugh at, because THEY find it offensive.
You are not responsible in the slightest bit for how Someone Else chooses to react to the realization that they are not the boss of the whole damn world.

I often have to remind people that I am a poorly sprung truck on a very bumpy road. Don't expect your cherished cargo of conceits to survive the ride un-damaged.
 

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So true. Okay maybe not the sheep part--not for me anyway. ;) Some of the harshest words I've ever heard are from women who make a play for me and get rejected. Female or male the human ego is made of fragile stuff.

My momma said it long ago: men ask, women say no, so ask lots of women and don't take rejection personally. Move on to the next.
I guess I have a pretty limited experience because the only guy I ever tried to pick up irl ended up being my husband. Online is a slightly different story, I've been rejected a good few times and while it was annoying I never really got upset about it. A few of them are still my friends at this point.

That being said, I never tried to make this an "only men are like this" issue at all. I was just describing the frustration from my perspective. I am fully aware of how bibbity-bobbity-bonkers girls can get when a guy turns them down. It's the same thing, in my book. Nobody is the preferable sex partner for everyone. I don't understand how anyone can fail to understand that!