When It Goes South.

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It was only an internet thing, but there was closeness/common life issues...we both just clicked...both out of relationships, lonely, etc. This goes on for a few weeks and he's ultra supportive (he gets all of my pics I post before I post them for "approval" etc). We talk every day.

We speak both on a human level and a very sexual level.

This evening we were speaking sexually and he just blurts out "you're never gonna speak to me again once you start getting fucked again" (we are states apart).

It struck a chord with me and I blocked him from everywhere. Was I hasty? Was I wrong and just being emotional?

I hope he can't see this.
 

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Your first sentence states "it was only an internet thing". Were you planning to take that further, knowing your physical distance? Do you think he was?

His statement was an expression of insecurity. What I suspect he really said is, "I'm afraid this is only a temporary relationship, and that once your life returns to normal you'll forget about me." By ghosting him you may have confirmed his fear. Serious question: did you act as you did because he was right?
 

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Personally, I probably would have given myself a couple days to cool down, then told him how I felt before blocking him. Maybe he would have thought you were ghosting him anyway, that’s what happened to me!

Internet relationships are weird and complicated. You can’t really know what’s going on with the other person is feeling, and they can mask their true selves much longer than they could in real life. You didn’t like what you saw under the mask. That’s fair. He may have been asking for a statement of reassurance of where your relationship stands or he may have been making an accusation. Or maybe something else entirely. You’ll never know by blocking him.

I guess what you did and how you feel about it depends on the importance of this relationship to you. Nothing has been done that can’t be undone. Or you can seek a real life relationship in your new city and look at this as a learning experience. I truly hope this works out for you. I know this hurts.

Btw, if he’s a member here, he can see this post even if you block him.
 

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I have a friend who overuses the block function on her phone.
She gets pissed and blocks her main playfriend for weeks at a time.

I think it’s immature, since she isn’t using her words and telling him she’s going underground.

I felt a need to be left alone, without alerts, and turned my phone off for a day. Next day
I mentioned I’d missed a call from my sweetie and she freaked out. How could I do that???

Games suck.
His comment could have been a play in a game, @ChanelleNo5


Also, we need sitewide restraining orders. Full blocks where neither party can interact or see posts from the other.
 

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What's the old REM lyric? It's easier to leave than to be left behind.

Being left behind was his fear when he acknowledged you won't need him when you find someone new. Blocking him was your way of leaving first before he knew he said something wrong.

Is that the TITS nuclear power plant in your avatar? :cool: love it
 

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i think you were acting very selfish. seems as though he was connecting with you at some level and you were enjoying it. whether or not you were simply using him is the question here. you seem to be in a bad spot in your life and you latched on to him as he did you.

based on your sudden actions, i would say that he was correct and is correct since you're no longer talking to him. this doesn't make you a bad person per se. looks like you saw something, went after it, and now that reality is knocking at your doorstep, you've simply bailed.

only sharing my observations based on what little you shared.