So one year ago, my ex-cheated on me with 12 other men after they moved away to get a nursing degree at a college from another state. I was extremely devastated. I went into therapy to talk to a psychologist about my problems and I haven't been in another relationship ever since.
I wanted to know if it would be rude when going online searching for partners to ask if they identify as a bottom or a top? I mean, when it comes down to relationships, I am looking for something personality-wise. My therapist told me my ex had BPD and that I qualify as a codependent and suffer from a savior complex.
I don't want to make the same mistake by choosing someone for their tragic back story, but someone who is more emotionally stable, mature, similar education level, as well as interests and hobbies. But I am worried if we are going to come across issues when it is time for physical intimacy.
What if my partner wants to top, but I tell them I am not okay with that? What if we had a good friendship going on, up until sex was brought up? Do we just end the relationship there? Is it easy to spot a bottom or a top?
I wanted to know if it would be rude when going online searching for partners to ask if they identify as a bottom or a top? I mean, when it comes down to relationships, I am looking for something personality-wise. My therapist told me my ex had BPD and that I qualify as a codependent and suffer from a savior complex.
I don't want to make the same mistake by choosing someone for their tragic back story, but someone who is more emotionally stable, mature, similar education level, as well as interests and hobbies. But I am worried if we are going to come across issues when it is time for physical intimacy.
What if my partner wants to top, but I tell them I am not okay with that? What if we had a good friendship going on, up until sex was brought up? Do we just end the relationship there? Is it easy to spot a bottom or a top?