When nobody cares about your big dick, then what?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Aquaman, Oct 6, 2006.

  1. Aquaman

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    There have been times in my life when I thought having a big dick and being fairly goodlooking would get me somewhere with a girl or land me a job, and it didn't. There's also been times I was a butthole (and can still be a total butthole sometimes) and I think having a big tool has something to do with that, and I know I'm not alone here on this.

    K'mon, let's hear it. :cool:Str8, gay-bi -we've all had a watershed moment.
     
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    Well, considering being an asshole has to do with a person's level of confidence or emotions... and guys with big dicks tend to "feel" more confident, chances are good that there is a connection.

    Having said that, I think it is just one of those cases... becasue there are quite a few people here with big dicks, who are actually really decent guys.

    As for the dick and the looks getting you a job and a girl... I would hope that you had more going for you than just that, Aquaman.:tongue:

    I can see where you are coming from though.
     
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    When nobody cares about your big dick, I think you realize that the sum of a person is more than any of his/her parts.

    I certainly don't think about my dick half as much as other people seem to.:rolleyes:
     
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    I'm not getting the kind of play I used to, and I'm actually starting to get real no's. Not like a no you can work with, I mean a serious :mad: 'fuck off jerk' no and that's a new one! Like hey, woe girl!

    Guess there have been times I was like "Hey, least I look good -got this bigass dick". Pretty pathetic thinking about it now, because if I'd been 'all that', I'd have a movie or a soap by now :rolleyes: instead of putting my dick pictures all over the internet. Didn't happen.
     
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    What Sexy Lexy said.


    My buddy with over 10" went through this....so he quit shopping got married.:eek:
     
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    Well said Lex You hit the nail on the head :cool:


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    The only certainty about a big cock is that it is: a big cock! Unlike an automobile, it cums with no guarantees and makes no claims about quality of performance! :wink: :smile:
     
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    Lex, as big and wonderful as your dick is, I have to tell you, your big mind, heart, and personality are what REALLY makes you one of the biggest turn-on I have ever known.:smile:
     
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    Hear, hear! This dude is so right. You, Lex, are the TOTAL package! And I'm certainly doing my part in thinking about your dick!:tongue:
     
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    I can relate, aquaman... in fact I have had friends ask me point blank why it is I have such difficulty getting laid when I am easy on the eyes and possess a big dick. The answer has always eluded me, so I prefer to think of it as simply a matter of cultural surroundings (and it's no more or less easy for gay men than straight men). Now that I am in LA and no longer in Phoenix (which an AOL member's poll rated as the WORST city in the US for dating) I am hoping to find a greater appreciation for my physical attributes :)

    By living in Phoenix I did learn that one CAN exist quite adequately without getting laid, although it did take a lot of personal adjustment and assessment to overcome the self-inflicted notion that the rejection was a direct reflection of something undesirable about myself. I came to realize that the deficiency that was causing my sexual dry spell was mostly due to a dysfunction found in the people of my area and the prevailing negative (conservative) attitude surrounding sex... an attitude I did not share with my fellow Phoenicians.

    One can find a certain amount of satisfaction in having opposable thumbs and a fertile imagination, both of which help to weather thru the sexless periods that are also an inevitable part of growing older. I can't speak for the straight community, but in the gay community the period following age 30 can get progressively more brutal to one's ego as general interest fades.

    I would offer this piece of advice: don't put the entire stock of your self-worth in your looks, penis, or other people's opinions of either of those attributes. If you do you will undoubtedly be let down again and again.
     
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    Have a good personality and you will go far! Tom
     
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    Comes with age, I think. Some of us take a little longer to learn that than others, and the path can kick your ass, along the way.

    Me? I look at it from the other side of the aesthetic.

    Most of my life, since eleven or twelve, has been spent dealing with destructive criticism about my body image, and it's been hell affirming for myself that I'm fine, even when people don't give me that affirmation. It's taken me awhile to accept that this body is just a machine -- not my arch-enemy, a toxic waste dump, a curse from God or Mount Everest.

    It's just the machine my spirit rides around in. Keeping that in mind and up front, these other things tend to fall into place.

    And nice post, Aquadude. It's more than you've said here in the real world all week, but, you're making sense. :wink:
     
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    (And the crowd goes wild! they are doing the wave!)

    I am not of model looks. My body has been badly damaged but I still have attractive people flirt with me and show an interest in me. A whole lot of it is personality. Aquaman, your body still looks hot but you are now in the age range where a lot of women want more the just a hunk in appearance. There is a huge difference between self-confidence and arrogant cockiness.
    Hope you are able to work it all out.
     
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    Thanks, david. I really don't buy my own hype. I am just a regular ole guy who tries to be honest, open and approachable.

    I grew up feeling very unattractive and, thus, tend to focus on the entire person rather than any single physical attribute.

    One of the funniest things about being here on LPSG is that everyone assumes that I like large cocks exclusively. I don't. I like Men. Their penis size is not a huge deal to me at all.

    Some people (including my EX) make a big deal out of my dick--I don't. It's just my dick to me. Nothing more or less.
     
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    i have the same experience as you i by far have the perfect body but i still have my friends in awe at the people who pay an interest in me, all i can put it down to is the person i am, and lets face it if you are going to spend many years with someone would you not rather be with a person you find interesting than a pretty face, your looks may open a door but they wont keep you inside, and id much rather be around people who take the time to know me looks aside
     
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    I always try to leave my dick as the last part of the equation, and it's been a deal breaker at least as often as a deal maker.

    Growing up I was always kind of a geek or a nerd, and While I still am, I'm a fairly well adjusted nerd, so I find that my glasses, less than perfect skin and body really aren't that big a detriment to me.

    I'm a Very nice guy, but also very self confident, but it's not the "I'm the best looking guy here" type of confidence, but rather "I know who I am, and I don't need to be anything else" type of confident.

    I also find that women are attracted to the fact that I'm quite happy with myself (I know I'm flawed, but I'm also aware that my flaws are part of what make me who I am)

    I'm dating some of the most attractive women I've ever met right now, and none of them are interested in me because of my good looks or big dick.
     
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    At 20 I am already learning how little my cock size matters in the big scheme of things. In fact, I'm pretty "over it," as I'm sick of being a freak show for the amusement and awe of others. My boyfriends are also well-endowed, and I am so grateful to have two nice, attractive men with whom I can have every permutation of sexual intimacy that we can imagine. There aren't many guys who can accommodate me, and I'm to the point that I would gladly have only Mike and Steve and none other.
     
  18. Aquaman

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    My godbro has a saying -wherever I go, there I am. :confused: It means the one we end up finding the hardest to live with is ourself. If you can't stand to be alone like me, it probably means I need to work on myself in more ways than just running or lifting. It's hard though -real hard. So I am trying to spend more quality time with myself, but its driving me nuts and I've been beating off like mad! I'm so lonely.

    Hopefully next year I'll have the first finished issues of my comic book to show for all the good times I'm missing out on now. :mad: :rolleyes: Work, work work!
     
  19. D_Coyne Toss

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    Attitude can open many doors.

    I have never used my size to reach my goals, but I try to bee charming, kind, but firm. I listen to people, try to understand what they want, and move consequently.

    Being a bit psychologist can help more than having a big tool, unless you are applying for a pron actor job :) .
     
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    Think about it man, not about your penis... my girlfriend had 2 EX's and they both were hung loooww... (typical indian penis) and she left each of them because they were assholes (even before they cheated on her). now shes with me, not cuz of penis (im ur average joe :) ) but cuz of who I am. Our relationship is 100x better than her past ones were and she admits to her family and friends that she is happy and for once in her life, actually uses the "L" word with me. That really isnt something a girl would do just because of what you have in your pants, but who you are.
     
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