I thought this was a befitting thread since my boyfriend and I may have dunked our own relationship by getting too zealous over the holidays. We engaged in a sexual encounter with one of my room mates and her partner, and at the time my boyfriend was completely OK with this -- encouraging actually. We both thought this would be a mutually beneficial thing, as he had never partaken in any sexual event with more than one girl, and had hinted on previous encounters that it could be something he was comfortable exploring. For me, I got to stroke a few things off my to-do (or try list, as abhorrent as it sounds), and I thoroughly enjoyed myself, as well as seeing my boyfriend copulate with my friend, as weird as that may be. The problem, however, seems to be that somewhere along the way my boyfriend became uncomfortable with the situation, but never took the precedent to vocalize, or stop us/stop himself with us. Regrettably, this has effectively put a damper on our relationship, because as he has confided, he saw something in me he didn't like, and at some point didn't like the idea of another male being able to pleasure me. It sounds horrible to say, but part of me feels like I actually don't care if it ends because I don't think I should have to essentially censor myself, apologize for enjoying myself, or deprive myself of possible future experiences such as that. But I do understand how selfish and objectifying the statement is. Has anyone else found themselves in a conundrum like this because they've pushed it "too far?"