When She Suddenly Stops Texting/ Replying?

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Hi everyone, this is my first thread also here :)

But I am going through a hard time trying to understand what has gone wrong.

Long story short.
I am 35 years old now. I have my own business in engineering and I consider myself more of a sapiosexual person; educated women with a strong personality and with confidence have always been my first choice before really looking into her physical aspect.

I became friends with this woman(28) through facebook who just got Phd in physiotherapy; there is a mini war going on where I live at the moment; but it turned out that between me and this girl there has also been lots of common relatives(her aunts have married a couple of men who were relatives).

So far things felt great;
and later we even met; I met her, her whole family.
They were really the kind of people I always wanted them to be part of my life.
She did a little party with small gathering for her graduation, and I was the only one amid her relatives and closest friends who was invited.

Everything was very wonderful until that last party.

The party was very wonderful; we all enjoyed and had a great time.

But right after that, the following days... I just felt that she has not been the same person replying/ talking to me.

Her replies have become straight to the point.
Sometimes One word only like: Yes/ True/ Correct.

She used to get involved in a discussion. And just recently, I did go through a terrible thing with my job and as much as I would have loved her to be by my side, it has been 5 days that she did not reply back.

I was planning last week to invite her for my birthday as well;

It has been a short period since we have known each other, but I had high expectations which are suddenly turning into a huge disappointment and I feel bad about this.

I really want a woman like that to be a part of my life.

What is the wisest thing to do?
 

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Specify “short period” ( for ease of dealing with English we’d say “a short time”)
Have you known her more than six months? Does she consider you two dating, whatever that looks like in her family? Does she return your feelings?

We have known each other for about 4 months only till now.

I am very fond of her personality; She has got everything I always wanted to find in another woman and I was very happy we are having a beautiful friendship and I was aiming to express to her my feelings and how much I really liked her.
But I do not want to rush it all; they are still 4 months, but I was happy to see that our friendship is growing everytime with things i would tell her and the complements I would tell her and also the way she would complement me...

We do not consider ourselves dating, like I said, our country is going through what you can call like a mini war; it is not safe to go outdoors very much. But we were always connected and interacting.

And what has left me with this disappointment is that after all that has been going on with daily contact, she suddenly stopped replying me for no obvious and clear reason.

Have she wanted me to tell her "I LOVE YOU" sooner; and felt that I am not worth it;

IMO, it is too soon to tell her that, but I was always clear with her that she is someone I admire and very happy that she came to my life.

Well, I think I got the message that she just does not want to get involved with me anymore;
no matter how weird and bizzare the situation is because there is no logical reason for it to happen.
 

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I don't have much to add, I am horrible at replying to txt o_O

I will keep you both in positive energy. :heart:
May the mini war be a contender for mildest conflict ever.
 

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The party thing has me puzzled. Did anyone know you at the party? Did someone say something to her about you? I mean, there are so many things that could have happened.

Did something happen in her personal life? Family life?

I feel really bad for you, but maybe time is what's needed to get things going in a better direction.
 
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Is she job seeking/starting a new position? That takes almost all my free time and mental energy for a while.

It could be the topics aren’t as interesting.
She could be talking to a few people and one is more of a fit for her.
She might think that you need more emotional support than she wishes to give.
She might be a bit sick.
 

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The party thing has me puzzled. Did anyone know you at the party? Did someone say something to her about you? I mean, there are so many things that could have happened.

Did something happen in her personal life? Family life?

I feel really bad for you, but maybe time is what's needed to get things going in a better direction.
She replied me yesterday and yes, like you pointed out; she is starting something new with her job which is making her occuppied.

I invited her for a lunch next week to which she said almost yes, but not with actual confirmation. She said:"Yes, sure, we will see."

I know that if someone is really very interested in someone else, they will always find time to reply, express that interest.

Girls who play I AM HARD TO GET really turn me off. I hope she is not just playing with my feelings and is really as busy as she says. I will see what happens next week; I do believe she will come up with an excuse to reject the invitation.
 

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She replied me yesterday and yes, like you pointed out; she is starting something new with her job which is making her occuppied.

I invited her for a lunch next week to which she said almost yes, but not with actual confirmation. She said:"Yes, sure, we will see."

I know that if someone is really very interested in someone else, they will always find time to reply, express that interest.

Girls who play I AM HARD TO GET really turn me off. I hope she is not just playing with my feelings and is really as busy as she says. I will see what happens next week; I do believe she will come up with an excuse to reject the invitation.

so, if you don’t trust her, why do you want to force a relationship that isn’t there?
 

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I have to agree with Scarlet here. What is it about her that makes you want to move forward with someone "hard to get?"

I don't know how old you are, but I'm 50, and I'm way too old to play games. I highly recommend that you avoid them as well.
 

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I think social media and cell phones themselves have given people a skewed view on time.

Someone I know blocked a guy she hooked up with when he didn't call back with 24 hours. She. BLOCKED. Him. Because he didn't call the next day. She's used to instant gratification. When he did try to get ahold of her the day after he was dumbfounded. Had no idea she was gonna go from 0-Fuck You in literally one day.

If you don't like the way she's "playing hard to get", stop trying to get her.
 
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I know that if someone is really very interested in someone else, they will always find time to reply, express that interest.

I think you may have answered your own question.

I'm not sensing that feelings are equal from what I've read in this thread. I'd stop chasing.