Trust me thread has a point. And i dont want to come off as an asshole, but the stuff that i'm gonna say is honest. Ok. So a friend lied to me about being raped.... and I'm pissed. Now, when i picture rape, i picture screaming, crying, and pain. I see punching and choking. To be more specific, I see a man's penis penetrating a woman, anywhere, without her permission. I'm angry that she led me to believe that what i described above happend to her but in reality it did not. 2 months after she told me that she'd been raped, she told me that she wasn't penetrated at all (we used that term). but later she said a finger was used a little bit. but if being press up against constitutes as rape then i should shut up right now. I know that what happened to her was horrible, BUT SHE SHOULDN'T CALL IT RAPE! I should say that this situation made me think.... I never thought about how many ways a person can be raped. rape can be totally painless and it doesn't have to involve a penis at all. If a finger was used "a little bit" to penetrate..... i guess that still is rape.... but i feel that just saying that she was raped overblows what she's been through compared to what actual rape victims like my cousin have been through. please tell me what u think..... am i wrong for thinking this way?