I'm not sure how many others are experiencing the same thing, but after 20 years of marriage with my wife, it seems we almost never have sex anymore as I believe it's now been about 18 months already. My spouse has had a history of health problem including asthma, 3 abortions, a c-section and a gastric bypass surgery. In the past 18 months, she's had a hysterectomy and a tummy tuck and figured I'd wait at least 3-6 months before attempting, but I fear she is either completely uninterested or has no libido anymore. In the meantime, I am almost going completely impatient about it and have avoided confrontations concerning it since she does have a quick temper about these things and I get very submissive about it. While I've been faithful to her, except perhaps exhibiting myself on cam, etc., I don't want to end up the rest of my life just masturbating instead of doing it with the real thing.