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Hello all,
I've recently gone through quite a devastating breakup with a friend and wanted to know if any guys out there have experienced the same and how'd it turn out for you?
I recently helped a friend out who was in a dire situation and over a relativity short period of time, I believed, we became very close friends and while I'm happy to think of it as a bromance, past a little bit of manly hugging and massage, (long story) it wasn't a gay or even a bi thing as he's proper straight.
I was certainly led to believe he felt as close to me as I felt for him. In fact I've never had such a masculine and close male friendship before but in short, we got into an argument over a difference of opinion and the next thing I know, he's gone, and treating me like a pariah.
It was an deeply angry exchange but were as I recovered and wanted to move forward, it seems to of injured him in a way I just don't understand. To the point were I'm growing more convinced he's used the situation to distance himself from me on purpose to change the circumstances around him in his life.
I've gone from feeling loved to immeasurable disgusting him overnight.
I am so truly heart broken, I've been in such pain for weeks.
I was comfortable being accepting to his natural alpha nature and would have done pretty much anything he'd asked of me, I trusted him so implicitly. I have struggled all my life to have close male friendships and the loss of this one has wounded me in a way I just don't know how to recover from. I'm not to be dramatic, just intensely emotional hurt.
I've tried fixing things but as the weeks have progress, it just started to feel like he was being cruel and punishing me with no intention to reconcile, despite how much I tried to appease him. It's not like I fucked his mother's skull in front of him, we just had a difference of opinion.
Recently I lost my shit with him for being emotionally held face down in the dirt and after the ensuing exchange of emotional charged angry discourse, that my self respect and dignity embolden me to express, it seems I've done far more damage then the initial petty argument had as well now being far angrier and hurt by his repressed grievances.
So despite how much I miss him, how much love I have for him, I now have to accept he simply doesn't want me in his life. So much so, it started to fell like he literally want me to beg just so he could say no.
So for the second time in my life, I've lost my best friend, and he's gone for good.
Why don't bromances come with a warning that they can go so horribly bad?
I've recently gone through quite a devastating breakup with a friend and wanted to know if any guys out there have experienced the same and how'd it turn out for you?
I recently helped a friend out who was in a dire situation and over a relativity short period of time, I believed, we became very close friends and while I'm happy to think of it as a bromance, past a little bit of manly hugging and massage, (long story) it wasn't a gay or even a bi thing as he's proper straight.
I was certainly led to believe he felt as close to me as I felt for him. In fact I've never had such a masculine and close male friendship before but in short, we got into an argument over a difference of opinion and the next thing I know, he's gone, and treating me like a pariah.
It was an deeply angry exchange but were as I recovered and wanted to move forward, it seems to of injured him in a way I just don't understand. To the point were I'm growing more convinced he's used the situation to distance himself from me on purpose to change the circumstances around him in his life.
I've gone from feeling loved to immeasurable disgusting him overnight.
I am so truly heart broken, I've been in such pain for weeks.
I was comfortable being accepting to his natural alpha nature and would have done pretty much anything he'd asked of me, I trusted him so implicitly. I have struggled all my life to have close male friendships and the loss of this one has wounded me in a way I just don't know how to recover from. I'm not to be dramatic, just intensely emotional hurt.
I've tried fixing things but as the weeks have progress, it just started to feel like he was being cruel and punishing me with no intention to reconcile, despite how much I tried to appease him. It's not like I fucked his mother's skull in front of him, we just had a difference of opinion.
Recently I lost my shit with him for being emotionally held face down in the dirt and after the ensuing exchange of emotional charged angry discourse, that my self respect and dignity embolden me to express, it seems I've done far more damage then the initial petty argument had as well now being far angrier and hurt by his repressed grievances.
So despite how much I miss him, how much love I have for him, I now have to accept he simply doesn't want me in his life. So much so, it started to fell like he literally want me to beg just so he could say no.
So for the second time in my life, I've lost my best friend, and he's gone for good.
Why don't bromances come with a warning that they can go so horribly bad?