When to try harder or just move on

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So. This guy and I have been together for 5 yrs..
Same age. His first relationship, my 5th.. 3rd long term.
I'm more adventurous .
Still trying to figure out if we are together for conveyance or afraid that we don't want to be alone.
I like the beach , water. Scuba, kayaking, travel, motorcycle rides.
He... Scared of water- he can't swim. Kayaking once in a while.
Travel- not appreciate it like I do. Don't care to lern to ride a motorcycle .

I'm neat clean and organized. He not so much.
I like sex in the shower... He says that is what the bed is for.
I'm trying to figure out if a couple need s to have a lot incoming ..
Or if sex is all that matters..
 

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If the inside feelings are strong and there's love then the differences can often enhance and make the relationship better. Each gets to do some things the other doesn't care for doing and later can spend time recapping the events which happened. Just because a person doesn't want to swim doesn't mean he can't appreciate hearing how it makes you feel.

Bottom line the 2 of you need to decide is this right for l.t. or is it just sex. I figure after 5 years together there must be something which keeps you together so find that and build on it.

*mind you I am not in any way a relationship expert....ask the trail of destructed lives I've hit.:redface:*
 

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Time is like a long, winding river. It flows fast down waterfalls, meanders slow through hills and meadows, stops a while in lakes and pools. It's all the same water, but it takes different forms at different points.

You do need some common interests. Things you pay attention to. Things you like to do. Things you believe in. But, it doesn't have to all be the same.

Until you reach the sea.
 

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Time is like a long, winding river. It flows fast down waterfalls, meanders slow through hills and meadows, stops a while in lakes and pools. It's all the same water, but it takes different forms at different points.

You do need some common interests. Things you pay attention to. Things you like to do. Things you believe in. But, it doesn't have to all be the same.

Until you reach the sea.

^^Awesome!