The person that you're dating that you've been sexually abused? A lot of my friends were sexually abused when we were younger (myself included) and I know this can be an issue when you're dating someone. Some of my friends (mostly people who weren't sexually abuse) feel that you should wait until you are in a relationship to tell your partner, at least until you know that they really care about you. A friend told me about a male friend of hers that waited 6 months before he told his gf what had happened to him. One of my male friends didnt find out that his gf had been raped when she was younger until he had been dating her for over a year. I feel like its better to tell someone early on that you were sexually abused pretty much because I have to. My friend who was also abused for multiple years by multiple people (kind of like how I was) agreed with me that you have to tell them something. Granted, we both flinch when people touch us, sometimes we pull away when someone reaches out to touch us, we just do weird things. And then people ask questions, usually going for the were you abused as a kid one. If someone is trying to make-out with you and you pull away and/or make a sound like youre disgusted, they are going to ask you what is wrong. And you cant lie to them forever and say that you, just suddenly felt sick. I feel that telling someone early on helps prepare them to date you. It gives you a chance to tell them how you might react if they touch you a certain way, long before you freak out in bed. I also feel like if I dont tell someone that Im lying to them and that I have something to hide from them for fear that theyll reject me. Even so, what do you think, LPSGers? Tell em early, make em, dont tell them at all, or something else?