When you hear the word "gay", which definition comes to your mind first?

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When you hear the word "gay", which definition comes to your mind first?

  1. Happy, bright, colorful

    4 vote(s)
    12.1%
  2. Homosexual, homosexuality

    27 vote(s)
    81.8%
  3. Stupid, silly, dumb, broken, undesirable, negative

    2 vote(s)
    6.1%
  1. MisterMark

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    Be honest. It's an anonymous poll, after all.

    Comments are welcomed, of course.
     
  2. dreamer20

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    The poll is so anonymous you forgot to post it.:biggrin1:
     
  3. MisterMark

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    No, I didn't. :biggrin1:

    When you post a poll, the question gets posted first, and then you have to create the poll separately.
     
  4. No_Strings

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    Homosexuality. I hear it used with negative connotations a lot, but I tire of trying to correct/open the mind of everyone I hear using it that way. (Often, considering my generation.)

    Usage that has always puzzled me is why many people(homosexuals included), will say "a gay" rather than "a gay person" or "the gays" rather than "people who are gay". It just serves to emphasise any potential discrimination and allow a person's sexuality to be defining, in my opinion.
     
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    When I hear the word "gay", I think of Mister Mark.
     
  6. Northland

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    It depends upon the timing. Sometimes I think of homosexuals and sometimes I think of happy-it all depends where my mind is, what's going on at the time, where I am and who I am with.




    (I did not vote in the poll; since, two answers-the first two-hold equal weight for me.)
     
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    It depends on how it is used. In the 1920's it meant happy. When kids say "that is so gay' they mean "lame". The word by itself means a gay person to me.
     
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    What he said^
     
  9. MisterMark

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    Yeah, "a gay" seems to have become almost common now. I remember ten years ago when it was considered insulting to even refer to "the gays". It's a dehumanizing way to refer to gay people, but I'm sure that that was the intention of those who first started putting an article in front of "gay" or "gays".

    You never hear people talk about "a straight", do you...
     
  10. MisterMark

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    I was looking for the primary definition as you see it in 2008, so your last sentence is what I was after. Thanks.
     
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    Well I think there is a double standard here, because I find it equally disappointing to hear straight people called "Breeders" by gay people.
     
  12. Jason

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    Your third definition is now well-established in British teen slang - I don't know whether it is so used in the US also. This new usage suggests that homophobia is alive and kicking in the teenage group.
     
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    What's the double standard? I was talking about calling someone "a gay" versus "a straight"?

    If you want to get into slurs for homosexuals versus heterosexuals, there's a LOT more slurs for homosexuals than heterosexuals.
     
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    Yeah, I tend to think that it's died down a bit here in the U.S. over the past year.

    I was reading comments on a Guardian news article about this very topic, and I couldn't believe that 90% of the comments were things like, "Quit whining" and "Get over it". I used to think of the Brits as more respectful to gays than Americans are, but I'm not so sure now.

    We've also had campaigns in schools and on American TV to encourage people to not sue "gay" as a slur. I don't know if you've had anything like that in Britain, but it sounds like you haven't.
     
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    pretty simple, I'm gay and even when I call something gay it just means it's dumb or silly lol Doesn't always have to actually refer to gay people
     
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    And I am equally discouraged that anyone feels the need to use any of them whether it is someone's life style, religion or skin color.
     
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    For me gay is happy and light and fun. But I can also use it to refer to my mother even though that technically is incorrect I suppose.
    cigarbabe:saevil:
     
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    When I was growing up, the word mainly meant happy and carefree. It was hijacked to describe hickboy when he would masquerade as Matilda Pickerell.
     
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    Personally, I would think either cheerful or homosexual, but listening to todays youth, it seems that 'gay' has morphed into a pejorative. There was an extensive thread about this last February.

    ''Gay'' as a bad word.
     
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