Where is the line between appearing too eager and being too nonchalant?
The same goes for getting another person's email.
The same goes for getting another person's email.
Where is the line between appearing too eager and being too nonchalant?
Where is the line between appearing too eager and being too nonchalant?
The same goes for getting another person's email.
When you meet someone and get a phone number how long do you wait to call? Where is the line between appearing too eager and being too nonchalant?
The same goes for getting another person's email.
Three days? Maybe that's cool for gay guys; but a straight man needs to call me the next day. Otherwise I assume he is either not interested, a player, or he maybe relegated to the "friend zone."Three days. No more. Maybe less, but just not the same day.
Where does one learn these "rules"? And njqt, why do you assume these things? I mean if someone is meeting tons of people every day, then I could see being so picky, but why dismiss someone because they didn't wait long enough or waited three days to call? Maybe the guy doesn't know your rules.24-36 hours anything over that is too much. An e-mail contact can be later that day. However, it needs to be brief and perhaps a bit breezy in tone.
Three days? Maybe that's cool for gay guys; but a straight man needs to call me the next day. Otherwise I assume he is either not interested, a player, or he maybe relegated to the "friend zone."
A same day call makes you seem needy or desperate more than interested.
I can't answer the OP's question. I'd like to hear other people's answers. I don't know why people would have these rules of not liking someone because they called too soon or waited too long.
Where does one learn these "rules"? And njqt, why do you assume these things? I mean if someone is meeting tons of people every day, then I could see being so picky, but why dismiss someone because they didn't wait long enough or waited three days to call? Maybe the guy doesn't know your rules.
The 'wait 3 day thing' was mentioned in a dating book or a romantic comedy a few years ago. I assume if a man waits 3 days it is because he expects me to know how to play the rest of this game . . . I don't. :frown1: If you like me, call me. If you don't like me, then don't ask for my number just to be nice.
Well, I'm hopeless confused. What if the guy is just shy or was busy or thought you were busy the days after he got your number. I don't understand why you think he is playing a game if he waits too long. Or maybe he is testing you to see if you are into playing games.The 'wait 3 day thing' was mentioned in a dating book or a romantic comedy a few years ago. I assume if a man waits 3 days it is because he expects me to know how to play the rest of this game . . . I don't. :frown1: If you like me, call me. If you don't like me, then don't ask for my number just to be nice.
I can't answer the OP's question. I'd like to hear other people's answers. I don't know why people would have these rules of not liking someone because they called too soon or waited too long.
Where does one learn these "rules"? And njqt, why do you assume these things? I mean if someone is meeting tons of people every day, then I could see being so picky, but why dismiss someone because they didn't wait long enough or waited three days to call? Maybe the guy doesn't know your rules.
I can't answer the OP's question. I'd like to hear other people's answers. I don't know why people would have these rules of not liking someone because they called too soon or waited too long. ...
I think dating books and their silly "rules" are hurting more relationships than they are helping. I don't know how to play the "game" either, and have no desire to learn. The sooner people get over game-playing and rules in dating books, the better.
My advice is really radical (to the OP)... Be yourself! :smile:
It takes me under an hour to a year- if a year passes, I realize it ain't about to happen and I dispose of the # and/or address.Where is the line between appearing too eager and being too nonchalant?
The same goes for getting another person's email.
Meh. You and I didn't cam before we met.The same can be said for online stuff. If you are local and are not willing to go from IM to phone to coffee--take it for what it really is: chatter. Nothing more. Oh--and ALWAYS make someone get on cam before you meet them live (this is the TYphu31 rule as he made it up). I have many friends who have had people pretend to be something/someone that they were not.