When you meet someone and get a phone number how long do you wait to call?

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Meh. You and I didn't cam before we met.
We also did not plan to meet and we had shared many pics and seen each other's profiles on other sites. I knew you were the real deal long before we spent any time in your dungeon.

People gotta be honest with me, or I don't care to be around them.

I am with you there. I am finding that some people enjoy being lied to. It's as if they enjoy the whole online illusion. Ugh.
 

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Good question.

I went out on a date with a girl I met on E-Harmony. We had lunch and talked for three hours. At the end she shook my hand and offered to pay the tip!

Well!

That was that. I emailed her that night saying what a great time I had and how I hoped to see her again but she took three days to reply.

I took that as a sign that she didn't give a shit so I never contacted her again. It's a pity because I did find her attractive which, in male parlance means, I'd have fucked her silly.
This is what I don't understand. I agree that since she didn't email back for 3 days it's likely that she wasn't that interested. But on the other hand, why not at least send a short email back and see what happens? That takes hardly any effort. Why give up so quickly?
 

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I would like to know one person who plays these games who ended up in committed relationship.

I would people to stop thinking about "right" and "wrong" and consider if it "works". If what you are doing does not work, do something different.
 

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It depends greatly on how the woman was raised..alot of us ladies are taught that the man makes the moves and that isn't a womans role to pursue men.
To do so would to come across as unlady like, fast, loose and aggressive.
It's not an attempt at playing games, just a diffrent value system.
 

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Meh, there's no real formula... If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, whenever you call. If it's not meant to be, no matter when you call, it won't be happening. Just do it when you feel comfortable. I usually wait at least 1 day if not two.

Listen to Simcha.

Simcha is God.

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People gotta be honest with me, or I don't care to be around them.
BINGO!

I am with you there. I am finding that some people enjoy being lied to. It's as if they enjoy the whole online illusion. Ugh.
Enjoy being lied to? Is that a new sickness or something? :confused: How bizarre. :eek: I know some people definetely enjoy the charade of fooling someone into belieiving they are something they aren't.

According to my male friends, women are more likely to shave years and pounds off their actual self, post 15 year old photos and then show up as if they really believed their own lies. :rolleyes:

If what you are doing does not work, do something different.
Preach it, Brother Lex!:cool:

It depends greatly on how the woman was raised... a lot of us ladies are taught that the man makes the moves and that isn't a womans role to pursue men.
To do so would to come across as unlady like, fast, loose and aggressive. It's not an attempt at playing games, just a diffrent value system.
Ahh, now you are talking my language! :cool: That is exactly how I was reared.

I have no problem giving a man my number or e-mail; but it would pretty much take an act of Congress to get me to ask a man I had just met for his number or e-mail. For me and my admittedly archaic value system that is just too forward.
 

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According to my male friends, women are more likely to shave years and pounds off their actual self, post 15 year old photos and then show up as if they really believed their own lies. :rolleyes:
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Well, my straight male buddy had his share of this, but let me tell you: gay men are notorious for this nonsense as well. Talk about a lack of self-esteem.
 

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BINGO!

Enjoy being lied to? Is that a new sickness or something? :confused: How bizarre. :eek: I know some people definetely enjoy the charade of fooling someone into belieiving they are something they aren't.

According to my male friends, women are more likely to shave years and pounds off their actual self, post 15 year old photos and then show up as if they really believed their own lies. :rolleyes:

Preach it, Brother Lex!:cool:

Ahh, now you are talking my language! :cool: That is exactly how I was reared.

I have no problem giving a man my number or e-mail; but it would pretty much take an act of Congress to get me to ask a man I had just met for his number or e-mail. For me and my admittedly archaic value system that is just too forward.

I hate that doble standard with woman . Is unfair to them and make things harder to some guys. For that reason nice shy guys are screwed with girls. I'm not shy but I'm nice .:mad::smile: I get girls but is harder to me than some of my jerks friends.
 

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It depends greatly on how the woman was raised..alot of us ladies are taught that the man makes the moves and that isn't a womans role to pursue men.
To do so would to come across as unlady like, fast, loose and aggressive.
It's not an attempt at playing games, just a diffrent value system.
I hate this doble standard .
 

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When it comes to dating, I believe that people tend to govern themselves according to their past experiences and their personal comfort zones. Most people who look for specific dating guidelines are actually looking for someone to affirm what they already plan to do anyway. In other words, regardless of popular opinion, most people will only do what is comfortable for them.

Hey, if you put your dance card out there, then be ready to do the "Dating Mambo"! It's sweaty palms and unsure footing. It's push, pull, shove, embrace. And all the time it's either bad timing, perfect timing or no time at all. And you got to be ready to dance that dance.

The rule is: THERE ARE NO RULES!! Everyone should use common sense, common courtesy and basic etiquette. But beyond that, there's a wide open playground to have fun. So, go ahead and play.
 

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If someone gives me their phone number,they should expect me to call them as soon as possible.
I don't think you look needy,unless you've already "talked needy". Surely any competent adult,can pick out the signs of a needy, and clingy person.
Thats why I always suggested,when I was dating on match and other sites,that the men and women,come and have coffee with me,as soon
as their schedules allowed. I don't like to waste my time jerking off, sending emails for months,{some wanted to chat by mail for 6 months!}all for naught. I can usually tell after coffee if I want to see the person again.
If they liked me, fine,if not,oh well! It's only coffee,and it won't be a big waste of time,if we don't hit it off. Plus if you find that they aren't your type,you can always leave,because, IT'S only COFFEE! Haha!
Okay, now I'm rambling.
cigarbabe:saevil:
 

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Damn STUPID rules....

I'm not available to be in the dating scene now, but if I were, if someone was kind enough to offer to give me their phone number, then I would assume that they were interested.

I would call them no later than the next day, even if only to say I enjoyed meeting them or talking with them. It could be a short call, or depending on the feeling, a bit longer....but not a long and involved one. Keep it short. I might not be in a rush to ask to meet again, during that first call, but it is a good chance to set the stage for a future call and request to meet again.

However, if there is a good feeling during that first call, and they seem to be interested and receptive, then I would not hesitate to ask to meet again.

But, being pushy and too eager is not a good thing, as far as I am concerned.