Whena work friend says “ i love you

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At work?

I can't tell you because I wouldn't be doing anything like that at work. When I'm at work I'm not touching Anyone, and no one should be touching me. Period.

I have worked with my man before. On the clock, there was *NO* contact, no discussion of our relationship, nada.
 

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At work?

I can't tell you because I wouldn't be doing anything like that at work. When I'm at work I'm not touching Anyone, and no one should be touching me. Period.

I have worked with my man before. On the clock, there was *NO* contact, no discussion of our relationship, nada.
Off the clock happy hour with
A group of others
 

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Off the clock happy hour with
A group of others

I still have no answers, because I still wouldn't be pursuing a co-worker. My man and I were already together and get hired separately at the same place. Different circumstances.

From ..I got there first everyone knows to leave a seat next to me so she can sit next to
me..

It's no one else's business though, right?

To be perfectly honest this all sounds very unprofessional to me.
 

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Really.? We all work long hours,
some days fourteen hours together.. so once a week everyone goes to a local
Happy
Hour

I'm not talking about the happy hour part.

The fact that everyone you work with knows to let you two sit together? In my opinion that's unprofessional and inappropriate.

I'm not completely against co-workers finding a relationship at work, but *acting* on it at work or in a group of colleagues is a no-no for me. So, I couldn't relate to this woman you're asking about.

It's a lot more complicated than that, but I think you can get my point from what I wrote here.
 
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Make sure you understand office policy.
Many business specifically address this issue in policy, even so far as dating.

If your company policy does not address the issue, you still might want to run it by HR if you are considering turning a co worker into a love interest.

It could potentially end one or both careers with the company.

On the flip side, other businesses allow it openly.
 
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Depends on the context.

Have you just said something that set them off into fits of laughter and they are expressing an appreciation for a shared sense of humour?

Did you answer their phone and lie that they weren't there to that annoying customer because they were snowed under and stressed?

I've told colleagues both male and female that I love them under those circumstances as an expression of appreciation - not because of any romantic love

On the other hand, lots of couples meet at work and that has to start somewhere *shrug*

I never flirt with my colleagues, I'm too outnumbered and I'm not particularly attracted to any of them - but we are in fits of laughter at least a few times a day. Very occasionally there is slight flirtation with those outside my organisation but it is very light hearted.

I'm very much of the view that if you have to analyse and ask advice on another person's behaviour to deduce if they are interested, they probably aren't and I'd be very wary of reading anything into it and acting accordingly.

But then I frequently don't know when someone is interested and get completely blind sided, so this advice is probably worth exactly what you paid for it...
 
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Well personally I would have shut that shit down, because office dalliances can get super awkward and have the potential to go very, very wrong. I would not want to jeopardize my job. And let's face it, that's one of the scenarios that can happen.

But, you do you I guess. I'm sure you already know exactly how you wanted to respond.
 
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It’s pretty context related. But if your spidey senses are telling you it’s more, then it probably is. Shut that shit down. Office romance is a career killer, unless one of you is ready to move on. Too distracting to work, and if it goes bad, holy crap, do things get ugly - no matter how mature you think you are.
 

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I'm not talking about the happy hour part.

The fact that everyone you work with knows to let you two sit together? In my opinion that's unprofessional and inappropriate.

I'm not completely against co-workers finding a relationship at work, but *acting* on it at work or in a group of colleagues is a no-no for me. So, I couldn't relate to this woman you're asking about.

It's a lot more complicated than that, but I think you can get my point from what I wrote here.
Well personally I would have shut that shit down, because office dalliances can get super awkward and have the potential to go very, very wrong. I would not want to jeopardize my job. And let's face it, that's one of the scenarios that can happen.

But, you do you I guess. I'm sure you already know exactly how you wanted to respond.
actually I really didn’t know how to respond to a text like that
 

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The touches were when we were at the bar... when we all left she sent a the text which
I got on the car ride home

Well like I said, I can't relate to this woman because I wouldn't be acting like that with someone I met at work.